As a step-mother, should I expect recognition on Mother's Day? The divorce paperwork says that Mother's Day is spent with the mother, and I understand that. But should I be upset/angry/disappointed if my step-daughter doesn't even acknowledge me? On the other hand, what about her step-father? She treats him as well if not better than her dad?
2007-03-28 02:22:36 · 9 answers · asked by Carol D 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If anyone is badmouthing you or your husband then probably not and that means anyone in their environment. Consider that you are no longer divorced you are married. To the child her parents are divorced if she doesn't realize her place in the family was a daughter and stays living in the past you may or may not be acknowledge no matter what relationship you have had. Also consider that there has been a serious decline in respect for parents in the media and society period. Many are convinced that there is something wrong with every single parent ...it's obnoxious and feeds into the market that sows the seed.
"upset/angry/disappointed" if that is how you feel then own it but hopefully this too shall pass.
2007-03-28 04:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should EXPECT anything, although I think it is the right thing to do to acknowledge a step mother. I think it really depends on the relationship you have with your step children and their ages. My Dad is remarried and she's a great person whom I admire and love. However, I am 33 yrs old so I send my Mom a mothers day card but not my step mom. I guess I consider her more of a friend than a step mom. Take these things into consideration and try not to let it hurt your feelings.
2007-03-28 03:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expect one no. You should never expect any thing.
The relationship between you and your step daughter has to be determind by her standards. Yes you are her fathers wife, but that doesn't mean she looks at you as a mother.
She should respect you yes, and you should respect her.
I am a Step daughter I have a wonderful relationship with my step parent, but it wasn't always so. I had very hard feelings for a very long time. I feel the way I do now because I was not pushed. He was there if I needed him and He let me know that I didn't have to do any thing I didn't feel was right. including thinking of him as a father.
He offered opinions but never told me to do anything I lived by my mom's and my dad's rules. But he did demand that I give him as much respect as he gave me.
And he gave me a lot of respect. I can't say that I always gave him the same amount, and I am sure that at times I probably have hurt his feelings, he never let it show if I did.
He always told me that he expects me to do no more than I feel and no less than I feel. He never tried to step into my fathers shoes. if there was a problem he was the first one to say we need to get her dad over here and see how this one should be handled.
Honestly looking back he was the best parent I had. He fixed a lot of stuff for us girls he ended the fighting between our parents and got them to be friends and to work as a team in raising us.
But he never expected any thing. except for respect.
2007-03-28 03:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all up to your step-daughter. If she feels close to you, then she may get you something for mother's day. Don't get upset or disappointed if you don't get anything. My dad re-married when I was 6 and I get my step-mom something every year for Mother's day. She is my mom just with the word step in front.
2007-03-28 02:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now, your step daughter is rebelling against her father for divorcing her mother; no doubt gives you a hard time. Don't take it personally. Treat her with respect and love, and a little understanding, and eventually she'll come around.
2007-03-28 02:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't 'expect' it. You're not her mother. You're her step-mother. But if you have a decent relationship, she likely will acknowledge you in some way. If not, then you have no valid reason to be angry about it.
2007-03-28 03:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how well you two get along.
It is up to her to decide about this one.
Does she get alng well with her father ? If she doesnt that is probably why she gets along better with the stepfather she has.
2007-03-28 02:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what kind of relationship you and your step daughter have
2007-03-28 02:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by lisa w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cd
2007-03-28 03:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋