What age would you say that is the perfect time to become I mother ?

Question

I know I dont want to be an old mum but I also know that I still like my Friday nights out with the girls its just having the happy medium isnt it. What age would you guys say ?

Answer 1

When YOU feel you are ready and not before.

Answer 2

there is no age. you need to feel right and be in the right place of your life. if you feel like that time is now and that you can support your baby then go for it. it really annoys me that people think that you need this and you need that to be able to have a baby, yes you do need money and you do need to be happy and stable, but why do people keep saying that you need to have bought a house and be in a good relationship and have a great career?? my mother had no relationship, he left when she was 8.5 months pregnant, she didnt own a house, she was 18, and she didnt have a career and I HAVE HAD THE BEST LIFE POSSIBLE. she gave me all the love in the world and was a fantastic mother because she was mature, even at 19 years of age. Go out on a friday night, im sure that the baby would have a grand parent or aunt or uncle who would absolutely adore looking after the baby for a night. i dont have a career, i work as an aged carer, and thats certainly not what i want to do for the rest of my life and we dont have a house and me and my partner are seriously considering having a baby, at 21 & 22. Dont let people tell you that you cant have the friday night out, if it makes you happy, which you need to be, then do it. i dont want to be an old mum either, no offense to old mums, but i would rather be young and energetic with my children and still be young when they have children. (P.S if i have a child soon, there is going to be 5 generations here, my Grandma, who had nanna when she was 20, my nanna who had mum when she was 22, my mum who had me when she was 19, me and the baby. That would be an honour to have my Great Grandma see my babies come into this world)

Do what you feel is best for you!!! :)

Answer 3

I think the best time to become a mother is when you have lived a little of adult life ie 24-25 then know that your whole world is going to change when you do have kids. Some people have kids too soon and want to burn the candle at both ends which most of the time doesn't work so get the fun part of being an adult with no responsibility off of your chest, then commit to the well being of the child. There's nothing wrong with having kids at a much younger age than that but if you are a party animal, i would leave it a while if you can.No regrets that way.

Answer 4

It depends on the situation. You want to be in a stable home, financially secure, and (preferably) be married. (Part of the stable home thing). I was 20 when I had my daughter. Part of me wishes I'd waited because we were struggling but I don't think I would change everything. If I were to pin down an age, I'd say after 23 but before 35. Around 23 is when you are graduating college and getting your life together and settling down. 35 is when your body starts becoming less able to handle and pregnancy. Somewhere between 25 and 28 is almost perfect. Good luck!

Answer 5

I was 21 and 24 when i had my two sons and i am currently 8 Weeks pregnant at the age of 33, i must admit that i am finding it harder this time maybe a girl lol but i think mid 20's is the ideal time to have a baby.

Answer 6

Well I was 21 when I conceived my daughter and I think that was the best time for me to have a baby!! Reason being: we are somewhat close in age and I didn't want to be 60 when she is turning 25 or 30. I want/ hope to be around for my grand kids and great grands.

Answer 7

the perfect age is when you are a mature adult, married and ready to settle down.
your whole world changes when that baby comes into it. your priorities change. its not about you anymore, you need to think about the needs and wants of that baby.
i think its sad when i see all these young teenagers running around with babies or are pregnant. they dont even know what life is about and they brought another one into this world. i know when i was 16 i was in no way shape or form ready to be a mom.
if your still wanting lots of nights out, sounds like your not ready. there is nothing wrong with going out and having fun, but you need to make adjustments when you have a child.

Answer 8

i had my beautiful Adam last yr, just b4 i turned 19. he wasnt expected but he's so wonderful - i wouldn't change having him for the world. i work three days a wk and his dad or my mum take him for those days. i get the evenings of those days, all weekends and the other two days with him, which is awesome. and the girls and i get the last fri nite of the month and my partner Adam and i get the last sat nite of the month to ourselves when my mum takes Adam Jr for the wknd to her dad's who i don't speak to....
:-P did u understand all that!!!
it works, as long as i don't get confused as to who or where im going to next!!!
i never wanted to have children older than 25 and my life just feels complete now: in thirty or so yrs when the rest of the children we're planning on having have flown the nest, we can travel or do what ever we want to... it's awesome.
i wouldn't change my life for anything.
good luck and i hope that's helped
xxxxx

Answer 9

Whatever age you are happy, confident, financially stable, in a good solid marriage, and mature enough to make major sacrifices for your little one. For me that was 29. For others it might be 23 or 43.

Answer 10

well i am 27 next month and was asking th same question earlier - me and my bloke have been together nearly 6 years and we both like our nights out - my problem is the same is the clock ticking or am i being stupid - i am petrified of giving birth but then so many questions come up - like what if you cant have children etc etc - if you get a good answer let me know - good luck x

Answer 11

Perfect time... It is different for everyone. I am active and 30 with 2 kids... I do wish that I had waited until my early to mid 30's would be idea for most.