I came home this morning to find my 4 year old outside walking around and his father in bed with no clue, HELP

Answer 1

You definatly need more help than yahoo answers!!!!

Answer 2

Is there anyway to put a gate on the door to the childs bedroom so that he cant get out of the room? That way when he wakes up and is frustrated that he is hungry and has to go to the bathroom he will stand in the doorway and scream for the father to wake up? I would also take this opportunity to have a long talk about going outdoors without a big person. 4 is definately old enough to understand and depending on the child know better as well.

Answer 3

If daddy wasn't drunk or on drugs, you can put it down to the lack of Mommy factor in a mans sleep. This is totally unscientific but proven for years on the playgrounds and kaffeeklatch of my younger years....men do not wake up when children move.
Women do, its been years since my little ones were little ones, but sleeping with one ear open is something I've done for over 40 years.
Daddy could and does sleep through without hearing calls for water, bathroom, monsters, and all other things, he is surely not going to wake because of a few footsteps by a four year old who was probably being 'extra' quiet so as not to wake Daddy.
Get a Barrel lock or a hook and eye, and set it up higher than she can reach. If you work nights and need to get in before dad wakes up then get a deadbolt with a key, again, set higher than she can reach.
If the problem is drugs or alcohol, see a councilor. If the neighbors report an unattended child in the streets too often you could lose her due to neglect.

Answer 4

This is your wake up call...The results could of been that the neighbors call CYS and oh boy...
Father negligent.
Son active in behavior and curious..
What can you do? Wear him out during the day and only let him sleep at night. Explain the "rules" to him and explain it several times during the day from both of you. Also tell him to get an adult up for when he is up...Do the deadbolt lock at top of door within reach.
I remember being three and four years old. My cousin and I had limits on when we were allowed out beginning at time in morning. We had an area we stomped in and for some reason we learned together when the dangers were less and the community was supportive and had lots of kids to play with...

Answer 5

Door and window alarms work also, but my 3 year old knows how to open doors unlock them, including the chain lock. So Lowe's has this wonderful deadbolt that has a keypad {for the outside} So your older kids won't be locked out if you have to lock the younger kids inside sometimes. But its like a foot and a half above my son's head and he can't get to it at all and he stays inside when he's told. So basically its an issue with your son and then an issue with your husband. So sit down with both of them and explain to them {treat the husband like a 4 year old if he's gonna act like one} the dangers of being outside without adult supervision

Answer 6

This happened to my husband and I years back when my daughter was 3, she is now 10. We lived in an apartment, my husband worked nights I worked days and we could not afford daycare and we supposedly made too much money to qualify for assistance....anyway he fell asleep and she woke up and unlocked the door and walked out,,,,,the office manager knew where she belonged when she found her wandering around the park/near office with no supervision. She took her back to the apartment. I was so mad!!! But, surprised no one called CPS for that. Happy to say she was okay and we managed to put her in daycare, but that was a scary time.

Maybe you can put a lock or deadbolt up towards the top of the door where he can't reach.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Things like this can happen if your spouse is a heavy sleeper. I know it gets hard to keep toddlers in a crib, so if he has figured out how to get out of his crib. I would suggest installing a higher lock, blocking the entrance to his bedroom door or the outside door with a toddler gate. I doubt this will happen again now that you guys had this scare, and thank God nothing happened to the baby, but don't be to hard on your hubby, he's learning to and we sometimes have no idea of what our children are capable of until it happens. I am a mother of 2 and man have I learned alot! Good luck.

Answer 8

Obviously the door was not locked properly or the toddler knows how to open it......what you need is a bell that rings loudly on your door whenever it is opened...(small cowbells are pretty loud)...or you could get sensor beeper fitted like they do in some shops in the malls....anyway, an alarm is warranted...those kids are your most treasured possessions and can never be replaced....don't be hard on Dad he is probably doing his best and he would feel worse than you knowing this has happened...it is one big wake-up call !!

Answer 9

Thank goodness you found him. Wow, but, is hard to judge this. Need more info. One one hand was it normal sleeping time for his father and an abnormal time your son would wake up and wandered out. If so may just need to better lock up the house especially if your son knows how to open locks.

Otherwise if the father was spose to be watching him and slacked off, then there are issues there that need to be addressed or if he was suppose to lock doors.

Answer 10

My husband is an amazingly sound sleeper. He wouldn't hear a baby crying at night let alone a door opening and a child slipping out. You can buy alarms to put on your doors. They will go off when your child opens the door so hopefully that will wake your husband. They are meant for families with sleep walkers and they don't cost very much.

Answer 11

Similar things have happened to me. There is not much you can do. We put up chain locks...........that lasted for a month or so until he figured that out. It wasn't long but he decided not to try breaking out anymore.

As for his dad, it's only a little his fault. Don't be too mad at him. Every parent I know falls asleep sometime when they are responsible for their kids. It's really very very common. He just got unlucky..........Hopefully he will not sleep like that again .

My brother always falls asleep when he watches his 3 & 1 yr olds. His stories get better and better. From the kids smearing poopy diapers on his head while he sleeps to covering eachother in permanent marker head to toe. It's a tough job, and it's hard to stay awake.