I have problem listening to other people and retain .How can i improve my Listening Skills?Plz Help?

Question

I work in a software Company.Sometimes I have to ask Doubts.when someone answers me i'm not able to listen well and retain it.So i have to go and ask them again. This irritaktes them and spoils my image.Plz give me some tips as to how to effectively improve my listening skills.

Answer 1

It depends why you can't listen & retain it. Do you listen & retain information when chatting with friends? If you do then maybe you are nervous in your work situation & need to learn some calming techniches - people often work below their potential if they are stressed.
Again, ask yourself why you are not focused? Are you having trouble concentrating on what they are saying because your thoughts are somewhere else? Again, try some calming deep breaths, be present in the moment, feel your feet grounded on the floor, adjust your posture if it helps you to feel more relaxed & yet alert. You need to be 'right there' to take things in effectively. Don't rush, give yourself time to listen.
GIVE FEEDBACK - this is a good technique. When someone has spoken, try to repeat back a summary of what they are saying. It may make you feel like a parrot at first, but it has the advanage of you having an instant recap before the info has flown out of your mind, AND makes the person feel like they are being taken seriously. Are you not permited to use a clipboard.?..I would, again because it makes people see that you are paying attention - you could use this as justification to your boss if you need to (that it's for the client's benefit & not because of your bad memory!).
And finally -PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT! Keep practicing. When you're with friends & family see if you can really focus & concentrate. If you don't get it right at first, persevere. It talkes a while to develop new habits & skills & you may need to remind yourself in some way. When I decided to develop my listening skills I used sticky notes around the house to remind me to listen. And whatever you decide to have as reminders, remember to make it positive. Remind yourself of what you want as your ultimate aim, for example 'Calm' 'Clarity' 'Focus' 'Sharp concentration' 'Confidence in my abitlities'....of course they will be personal - you know what you will need from day to day. Another suggestion which may or may not suit you - make a diary of your progress & what you still need to improve on. But again, make it positive, noticing any small improvements or achievements along the way towards your ultimate goal. Give yourself credit for what you do & reaffirm what positive steps you next want to take.
Good luck & persevere - it will be worth it.

Answer 2

Well when your talking to someone look at them in the eyes and in your head repeat what they are saying to you. I believe that should help. That is how I deal with listening.

Answer 3

You have to concentrate on the person you are talking to. Keep eye contact and concentrate. It's easier to really hear someone if your looking right at them.

Answer 4

if you ask a good ,focused question the answer is close
people,often, want to make impression that they know the things good...think with your head