When should I have sex with a new partner?

Question

I have been friends with this bloke for a while and we really get on together but would I be classed as a slapper if I had sex with him after say 2 dates ? When do you think is the right length of time to be seeing someone before jumping into bed with them?

Answer 1

It's up to you my love, who cares what other people think?

Answer 2

Sweetie,technically there isnt a certain amount of time.Just when you two are ready to be together in that manner.However,i must state if you are not comfortable speaking to him about his sexual partners and/or sexual history then i wouldnt be jumping into bed with him anytime soon.Although,it depends on the situation.How long have you known your partner?You stated you two had been friends for a while?This may be a totally different situation.If you two know each other,it is different than as if you had just met him,and you decided to date but knew nothing about him,then the rules change.I think you just need to take things slowly.You two are friends,and if you jump into a relationship like this,and dont take it one step at a time,someone can and more than likely will get hurt.You are taking a chance when you date friends,and rushing into things too quickly can do more harm than good.Just take things slow,and let things happen as they will.When you feel the time is right,more than likely it is.Personally,i would think two dates was a bit soon.Everyone is different and will have a different opinion.Only you know yourself and when you are ready.Good luck hun,and have a good day!!

Answer 3

The fact you are asking this question means it's too soon. If he likes you, he'll wait until you're ready and you are certain you have his respect.

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Seriously, if you're not sure, delay it. Once you've slept with him you can't take it back. If you wait until you know you have his respect before you've slept with him you stand to lose a lot less. If you sleep with him after 2 dates then he won't see you as much of a prize because he won't have had to work that hard for you.

Give it another couple of dates at least until you go that far.

Answer 4

It's entirely up to you and when you feel comfortable. If you've known this guy for a while then your not rushing into anything. I slept with my bloke after 2 dates and we've been together 4 years now. Whereas other people I know have waited ages. It completely depends on the situation. If you feel confortable in his company then go for it. It doesn't matter hwta anyone else thinks, just go have fun x

Answer 5

theres no right and wrong time to have sex hun. As a given - you should put a bit of a time restraint on it - like personally I have a one month rule - if after seeing me for that long the guy sticks around with no nookie - then hes genuinely interested in me.
If hes not - then he hotfoots off to another girl!
I know physical attraction plays a lot in how soon two people get together sexually - but because there are alot of players out there - you need to protect yourself too.
xx

Answer 6

dnt do it now u will be classed as a slapper my m8 did it after 2 d8s and it went round the skl in 5 minutes and she still gets called a slapper 3 yrs later. wait till the times rite 4 u but w8 at least 3 monthes 2 mk sure this guys serious an that u r about him 2 speacially if its ur first time x

Answer 7

When you want to. Ignore the people who say you're a slapper if you jump into bed with someone after 2 dates. if you both consent to having sex then it's fine. You say you've been friends with him a while so you obviously trust him .I'd go for it!!!

Answer 8

Whenever you feel right with the situation. Unless you are planning to have sex in front of many people there is no reason why people should know your sexual activity anyway . So really the only person judging you would be yourself or him and if he;'s going to call you a slapper for that he's not really worth being with is he .

Answer 9

Being bluntly truthful, most men normally expect sex on the 3rd or 4th date. Although there are no rules. If you want to have sex with him on the 2nd date, and he wants to as well, then do it! Everyone has different 'opinions' on this issue. Only yours and your partner's matter.
Sex is meant to be enjoyed by human beings. It shouldn't be viewed as a reward. Neither should you deny yourself pleasure because of the supposed opinions of others. It's Your life, it's your body, no-one else's.
It is sensible though, to take precautions to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.
Whatever you both decide to do...i hope you have a good time.

Answer 10

well for one....your not a slapper just because you slept with a guy after 2 dates....it's the jealous girls who spread the rumour around that your easy, also the lad who tags you as a slapper...if this happens then the lad is not worth it...so don't worry about what other people say....if you feel comfy about laying down for someone...so soon, then it's your body, your an adult and can do what you like...just be protected that's all...

Answer 11

i would not worry about what people think me and my wife slept with each other withen a hour of getting together we knew each other before this and we seem to be doing ok lol married with a kid it does not make you a slapper to sleep with a man the right time is when you think it is right