Blue Eyes - The fact you're asking these questions will make you an excellent mom!!!!! Most people don't think this much. I'm 5 months pregnant (age 35 with my first). I wanted to wait until I found the right guy and finally 2 years ago found him and got married. It's normal to feel like you are. Even after you're pregnant, you'll wonder if you can handle it and the answer will be YES! You're 26, you're old enough, you've lived and went through your phases. You're not giving up your life, you are making it better with the guy you love by bring a baby into a financial stable, loving relationship.
2007-03-28 02:18:23
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answered by Anonymous
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Well I think ther's no such time as a perfect time for having kids. The younger you are, the more energy you have. If you're financially stable and have a great marraige then go for it. I have 5. When I had my 1st 4 I was in a violent relationship, had no career and spent most of the time on benefits. Then I left him, met someone else and had my last one. None of mine were "at the right time" and I wish I had a career behind me as it's difficult trying to get an education now. But I'm glad I had them. They're all getting older now. Aged between 8 and 15 so I've been going to college and working. When you have your children you'll find it hard to imagine life without them. It can have it's horrible bits. Small babies are very tiring but they're also gorgeous! And you never know when somethingmay happen to prevent you from being a mother, so if I was you I'd go for it! Good luck for the future!
2007-03-29 05:43:10
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answered by jo jo 2
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If you think your ready then start trying. I didn't think I would be ready. I also am 26 but I have been happily married for almost 6 years. But well others in our families were having babies when they have only been married a short time, we got to see how things changes for them, they fight all the time and it's hard. But we still decided to try. We have a beautiful baby boy who's 8 months and another on the way! I guess it's how well you and your hubby can handle a baby. We had a baby who wasn't ours but was related to us staying her for the 1st 4 months of her life which is how we "felt" that we could be parents. So I say try! Best Of Luck! oh and by the way- you are NEVER really ready and never financially stable when a baby is tossed in the mix!
2007-03-28 15:55:06
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answered by Kellie R 4
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Hi
I had my first child at 27, soon after getting married, and I now regret it. At the time I felt I was getting ancient, but I think a few years to get some financial security and some time to ourselves would have been a better move. You still have plenty of time. Just because everyone else you know is pregnant (or it seems that way!) isn't a reason to get pregnant yourself. Once you have kids you have so little time to yourself. Do all the things you want to do first, have some time with your relatively new husband, and in a few years you may REALLY feel ready. On the other hand, if you feel that you've done all the stuff you want to without children, perhaps it is time. How about spending a weekend with friends who have children? That might give you an insight into the demands of parenthood and help give a clearer idea of whether you are really ready.
2007-03-28 09:40:42
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answered by Anonymous
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Awwww its not a bad thing hun, ive been married for 13 years now and got 5 beautiful kids , ive had some sad times but the kids always make my life worth living.
Having a baby is a lot to get your head around but believe me there is no bigger pleasure than the love of a child. All the pieces will fall in to place , nature has a way of making its way known, you will feel better about it all once you realize no money or time is an issue for a baby, the lifestyle you loose because of your baby will mean nothing anymore. Once your child is born , all you want to do is love and nurture and protect them and that life is enough and all you and the baby will want and need. Besides once you get into the swing of things your life gets back to normality and you can still have a social life and a family life. Dont worry , life is what you make it.
2007-03-28 09:26:21
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answered by Anonymous
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It isn't horrible. Its the most amazing experiance in the world.
I found out I was pregnant at 21, still living at home though me and fiance were saving up to but our own place. We just had to move that bit quicker! I didn't think I was ready, I thought I was to young but 18 months later I have a great son, great house and I am lucky enough to be able to stay at home and look after him.
Money SHOULD be a consideration, would you want to stay at home full time (highly recomended) and would one wage be sifficent? But money isn't everything and you get by, just becuase you have no choice but to manage!!
I belive no matter how 'ready' or prepared you are there is NOTHING that can prepare you for the complete upheaval having a baby brings. It changes you as a person, it changes you relationship with your hubby, it changes the way your mum, dad, siblings, friends and colleuges see you - you are MUM now, before anything!
It is ALL worth it though. I am a better person for having my son and I know it. I am rich (not in the money sense LOL) in every other way imaginable. I wasn't at all prepared for any of it and I've done well - you should do brill with such insight!
2007-03-28 09:36:02
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answered by Anonymous
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There will never be a good time if you think about it too much.
What I do know is that you can't plan it to perfection. Some couples take years to get pregnant.
My suggestion - Why not start to let nature take its course now - that way you'll be more relaxed and not feel as much pressure.
If it happens, it happens.
As long as you're ready - sounds like you are - but it has to be your decision. Having, and bringing up, a baby is a long road!
Good luck whatever you and your husband decide.
2007-03-29 07:45:10
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answered by Sunday 3
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You'll know when you feel ready for children. The feelings your having now are normal as having kids is obviously a big thing. If you feel that you can be a good parent now then start trying. Good luck
2007-03-29 04:43:28
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answered by lucyenyc 4
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all i can say is i have 4 kids and none of them was planed but all very much loved, my 1st was born when i was 14 and yes it was hard but we grew up together and i wasn't just his mum i was his closes friend and still am, i was in my 20's when i had the younger 3 and they are 15, 13 and 11 and with the last 2 yes i did wonder if would be able to cope with 3 kids then 4 kids but i do,
so why don't you do what you want to do, and yes it is natural for 1st time mums to be to be afraid of what their body is going through, and to be honest if it was all bad would we all have brothers and sisters and aunts and uncles
2007-03-28 11:38:08
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answered by LJM 2
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I'd wait a little while longer and enjoy your honeymoon period for a while longer. Once you have kids, everything changes. If you are in doubt just wait. Think about it, more then likely you can have children for another ten years safely. Save your money and you'll feel even more secure and ready when you do decide to have kids.
2007-03-28 09:20:36
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answered by justme 6
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