my boyfriend... well now hes an ex.?

Question

my boyfriend came out of the blue and said that he wanted to break up.. then he said that he didnt when i questioned him why. he said he needed to talk to me or get the point through to me about something. so we started to walk down the hall and he asked me if i was going to be ok, and i said that i will later, but not at that moment because i was confused and shocked at what just happened. and i asked him what he would do in my situation, and he said he would get over it and move on. i told him that i couldnt just forget it that fast when we just brokeup and then came together in like 3 mins

so then he said that maybe it would be best if we just broke up for a while. i looked at him after he said this, and ran up the stairs cause i just like broke down

i called him that night to talk to him to see if there was something going on that made him be like this, and he said that he just wants to be single. what does that mean?

when we talked on the phone, he said that he still wants to stay close as friends cause we are best friends. we have been dating for 4 months now, and i just dont know what to do. when we were talking, we were like before, only not saying "babe" or stuff like that

this all happened on monday. yesterday he didnt even talk to me, or attempt to come up to me. today i hope is a different story, although im not so sure.

i'm not ready to give up yet. i want to still have that possiblilty that he will want to be together again, but i dont want to get my hopes up.

we just said i love you to eachother like 2 weeks ago. and what the hell?? i dont know what to do? please help

Answer 1

ehhh,that happened,sis....just give him a "space" for sometime,he`ll be back to ya like a little puppy,believe me if he wanted to leave you and just dump you then he wouldn`t be telling ya that he wanna be best friend with you,plus he wouldn`t be spending all that time with ya on the phone,sis....BUT!,make sure that he makes a move and i mean a MOVE not just replaying on your voice message...lol....let him miss ya,and come thank me later....Best wishes!

Answer 2

He told you he did'nt want to be with you so you really need to just accept that.You cannot force someone to want to be with you or love you.He sound's very immature and he probably does'nt know what he wants or he has someone else in mind and rather than cheating on you he did the honest thing and broke up with you and you should respect him for that.There is a fine line between friendship and getting romantically involved with a friend the two never mix.Usually once you have dated a friend thing's are never the same again..I suggest that you let him go and move on you will find the right guy and he was'nt it.Good Luck.

Answer 3

I think you'll have to leave him alone for a while. It seems he really wants to be single. But it won't be easy. You'll have to allow yourself some time to gradually get over it.

Well, sometimes a guy starts missing you when they hear nothing from you, so it might just be a healthy thing for the relationship.

Brace yourself, it might also be the end of the relationship, but the best will be to immediately start going out with other guys and pretend that it's okay with you. If it's meant to be, he'll get jealous and come running back.

I don't know where this quote comes from, but I believe in it: 'If you love something, set it free. If it's yours, it will come back to you. If it doesn't, it never was.'

Answer 4

sounds like he probably had been feeling this way for a while first know it probably isnt something you did the way he said for you to just get over it wasnt cool and he wasnt being considerate to your feelings dont get back with this guy he is a jerk i have a theory though its possible some other girls have been trying to get at him only because he has a woman you know those types and he figured he must have something good going for himslef so he'll get rid of you and date these other girls but i guarantee if thats the case when they find out he dumped you they wont be as interested in him anymore women are funny that way. my best advice is dont try to cause drama over this i know you are hurting but heal quietly even though he's an asss still be civil he wont understand why dont go jump into a rebound relationship either now is the perfect time to hand with friends and just enjoy your single life good luck

Answer 5

U should just get over him. Guys like that aren't the ones u can trust in the future. He will eventually do this again if u windup going back out wit him. U can do better then that. Find a real man and forget about that jerk.

Answer 6

there might be a thousand of reasons why he wants space. i know that will be hard but if thats what he want then you cant do anything. but if you want to fight for that love go and do it. its still up to you. you can fight or leave it all behind. i hope that he will be man enough to tell you the reason and not put you in the dark.

Answer 7

sounds to me like he's confused on what he wants..maybe ya'll said the magic three words to soon.i know in my case i've been turned off when women in my life say's them and im not ready to take that step.the best advice i can give you is give him some time and if things doesn't change then maybe it's time to move on.

Answer 8

guys are so confusing. me and my boyfriend jus got back together after bein broken up for a little over a week. but we have been together for almost 2 years so we have alot of history together. but he will realize what he is missing so don't worry

Answer 9

Girl....move on!!!! I can put twenty bucks on it that theres someone else!! There are too many guys in this world to be stuck on one.