ok so i recently started seeing this guy who i like the only difference between us is that i am at university at the moment and he never wanted to go so he decided to work after school..
he seems a little bit intimidated by the fact that i am doing a hard course!! my mom thinks it wont work out because we are not on the same level....is this being prejudice???
i think hes a really nice guy so far!!!!!!!,
2007-03-28 01:39:21 · 9 answers · asked by <3 ...sEz... <3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has potential to be a problem if he can't deal with you furthering your education. If he can support you then you guys have a great chance of overcoming this obstacle.
Remember that you don't need to listen to anyone else about who you should love, not to be disrespectful to your mom but if you like this guy and think he's worth it, give it a shot!
2007-03-28 01:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does seem prejudice, but that is what movies are made out of. Your love hasn't changed with what your mother said, yes? My husband was a Navy man, I had a great job as a pharmaceutical agent. We got married, things changed, I was laid off, and I had to depend on him for an income. He went to some college, but never got a degree, I had to depend on him to find a job after the military and he did. Now I get to be a stay home mommy when he works so hard to support me and my children.
Hopefully your mother can live her ways without changing, but what if something happened, like an injury or lay off, would your mother be so disapproving of the love your man showed you? Would she have a change of heart if she had to depend on someone else, maybe you, for instance?
I hope you can see through the money issue, I have really learned this the last few years.....I went from broke and in debt to living with a Navy man who did everything on time and in order. I am still learning, but I have picked up some good practice about learning to live within one's means.
Hopefully you can appreciate life without money, your mother might only hold you back.......
2007-03-28 08:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you're being predjudice but think about it this way. Say you're going to school to become a nurse and you find this real great guy that you like who is going to become a medical doctor. Are you going to like it if his mother doesn't like you or accept the relationship for the mere fact that he's on a higher level of education than you? When it comes to true love you shouldn't look at things like that but at the same time if you're thinking about marrying this guy, you do want to make sure that he will be able to help out with the bills or support you.
2007-03-28 08:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you like him and he likes you, go for it, and if he does have some issues with your college classes, talk it out at some point, and as far as it being prejudice, no it's not i think anyways, and as the saying goes opposites attract, not every couple who's had a long lasting relationship have come from the same level.
2007-04-01 05:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No go for it, just because he didn't go to university does not mean he is not as smart as you or wont make a success of his life! How will you know if you don't give him a chance. Your mom is just looking out for you, thank her sincerely, and keep your eyes open, but if he is working and wants to support the two of you while you study, let him. Praise him, guys are funny like that, they love being boosted, make sure you never let him feel inferior to you for not studying furhter. Honey baby honey, that's all guys want, so start sweet mouthing him...
2007-03-28 08:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres not a problem but you see youre doing a more rigorous academic curriculum than he is so you might feel he may not be career oriented enough for you or smart enough... I hope it works between you.. and Im at work now btw. And no its not being prejudice since educational level is a big part of someones personality.
Im a biomedical engineer.
2007-03-28 08:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by Cules 4 life: ASHKON IS BACK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well are you guys out of high school? If you are in high school he might end up going to college but you should pick a guy that wants the same things out of life as you. Not saying he isn't a good guy but if you are an adult you should consider that if you want things to get serious.
2007-03-28 08:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by butterpecandelight85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think, what is more important...your love or his education...If you think that he is a nice guy without the hard course studies, you should go for him. But if you think that he is not up to the standard you have set for yourself, Let me tell you, you are making a big mistake...because love can defy each of these obstacles.
2007-03-28 08:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-29 12:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by RIOT! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋