For mature yet open minded Caucasian women only?

Question

What do your parents tell myou about dating Black Men? Also, do you really think that we're all well endowed?....and are you really that curious about us?....I ask because I had a few encounters where caucasian women were either frightened and nervous around me all the time in a work or social enviroment or just went buckwild....one of my former co -workers Jennifer basically turned into a stalker ...trying to get me in her apartment for sex and she even told someone that it was because I was tall and she knew I was well endowed...so white chicks ..what is the 411 on the brothers...Is the media stereotype hyping all of this up....the growing up on the streets , natural athlete and dancer thang or is it just taboo making it attractive...your parents not approving of such relationships?

I have a nice job, live in a nice area, I have never been arrested, and yes, I'm quite articulate...I can see by the answers...that they are still some racism and prejudice out there...I remember volunteering for Habitat For Humanity in West Virginia during the late 90's ..this blonde haired blue eyed fellow college aged volunteer kept touching my skin and going crazy...we took a trip to Baltimore harbor with the volunteer group..she sat by me and even went to sleep on my shoulder with my Flight jacket over her...she also gave me a hickey and alot more during the day and the trip back...we were on the back of the bus...doing some things...me, I'm proud to be Black...eventhough my great grandfather was a Cajun and I have Blackfoot Indian blood in my veins as well...my grandfather served the US Marines for 30 years....I have uncles and cousins who have served or still serve in the Army/ Air Force/Navy....I did 2 years active Army...4 years reserve and I am just 35 years old.

Answer 1

I admire your curiosity and looking for answers. Searching and researching is what gets answers and can move us all forward.

I do think you're right about stereotyping. We have watched TV where certain people are cast in certain roles, and have heard stereotype comments about ethnic groups for years. I think some people just don't know any better, and I think other people don't want to know any better.

I think there are those who enjoy fantasizing and creating their own excitement in the thought of experiencing something different than what they have before.....something "taboo" or "naughty" to them because of the attitudes and yes, even teachings, many have been raised with. The myth that black men are more edowed intrigues many. There again, we have heard that for years. Who knows where it started.

I do think that a lot of people fear what they haven't experienced...explaining the frightened and nervous women at your work place and social environments. They probably have never gotten to know anyone outside of their own color. And of course, that stereotyping again and what they have heard about crime, and "what black men are like". Who knows what's going on in their heads or where their reactions come from.

I personally do not take color into account for anything as far as assuming what they are like or what they are capable of. I see people as people. I don't single anyone out as black, white, yellow, brown. I give credit to my parents for that. They always taught me that people are people regardless of ethnic background. I do find different traditions and heritages interesting...in all ethnic groups...what those traditions are and how those traditions and heritages carry down through the years and how it affects peoples personalities and beliefs, and what traditions they continue.

Having given credit to my parents, I also want to point out that not all of my siblings feel the same as I do. Some are prejudice, and they very much stereotype people in very negative ways. What's the differnce between them and me? I really don't know. So, to me that just shows it isn't all in how we are raised.

I was not raised in a area that had diversity. There were only caucasian people. The closest ethnic diversity was in a city 70 miles away, and back then (I'm 53) we didn't make that trip except on a rare occasion. So, I didn't personally experience other cultures until many years later. I didn't really even know there was any friction between different ethnic groups. I was rather sheltered in that way. But then, so were my siblings. So why did they develope their prejudices and I didn't? That's a question to find answers to.

My parents never said I couldn't date black men.....but then, there were none around either. If there had been, I very well could have dated black men because I would have gone on personality, not color. And I honesty do believe that had I dated black men, my parents would have accepted them and treated them with as much respect as white men. I do believe they would have tried to warn me of social implications and difficulties it may have caused if I married a black man, but they would have accepted anyone I chose.....as they did in the man I did choose to marry. They were pretty open minded for "old" people! lol

Well..............this is only my experience and my thoughts. I just wish everyone could accept each other as people with interesting and diversified backgrounds that can mix to be a spicy, delicious, intriguing blend! I don't know why any of us have to tug and pull and bicker and fight. You would think we could all live together on this earh in harmony respecting, and actually enjoying each others differences. Maybe some day!

Answer 2

I was raised in a very strict catholic home and we were brought up with the understanding that you did not date out of your own race.I personally have nothing against any other race but for me I was never attracted to black men I had several male black friends but that was it we were friends.As far as do black men have bigger penis's I really could care less I married a white man and he is plenty big.

Answer 3

My parents would be probably shocked at the beginning, but they are cool people and would be eventually fine with it.....
Would I date a black man? Probably not, just because I have a wonderful husband and I have never met a well-educated black man before who can articulate himself very well and has a good job, life vision etc...Usually I associate crime & gangs & rude behaviour with black men....I have not experienced it differently.
Are black men "well endowed" ?? I have no clue if this is true or not, but I am also not curious since I am in a very satisfying relationship....

Answer 4

My parents would be fine if I dated a Black man. They wished that there were more!!! I have NO problems with anyone who is differant skinwise or religionwise. I think the sterotyping has got to end and women stop being nervous around someone with a differant color skin.

Answer 5

My parents trust my judgement in men so it doesn't matter what race they are, they know I have standards and won't settle for anything less.
It's a myth that black men are "bigger" then other races. I've seen big and small in ALL races.
It's pure ignorance with the stereo-types and this chick who responded to you basically saying that only fat ugly women like black men is as ignorant as they come.

Answer 6

depends on persons type.
women like nice guys.

Answer 7

First off all white women don't want a"brother" please get that straight ...I like to keep my cars, and house etc. intact! this Jennifer at your work whom you claim is stalking you is either overweight -low self esteem-or DESPERATE-that's not even mentioning her looks!!!

Answer 8

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha you really think your thingy is bigger then my viberater..