I get way too jealouse with my boyfriend, even dumb porn magazines. How can I make myself less overjealouse?

Question

I'm sure it's an insecurity thing or maybe a distrust issue but regardless I know I'm one of those girlfriends that trips about the stupid little things. I don't know why every little thing bugs me because I know my mans a keeper and he really never does anything disrespectful. I just flip out when I find porn he's hidden and stuff like that. How do I stop myself from being such a nag?

Answer 1

ask yourself , "is it worth loosing him over this?"
This helps sometimes with me. I get overly jealous as well. I talk him about the things that bothers me. My bf gets very jealous also. Constant nagging will get that person tired of you and would put a strain on the relationship. If it's a big matter, talk to him about it and don't talk to him in an accusing manner. If you know it's not a big issue, try to put it out of your mind.
Also, try to think mostly about the goods things about him when you find that you're getting jealous about something small.

Answer 2

I used to do that too. It seems like cheating, that your bf would watch other naked women and jack off to it. I used to get mad when my bf were in the car and he would look at a girl who was jogging on the sidewalk.
Porn is to them what chick flicks, soap operas, and romantic novels are to us-- a sort of guilty pleasure. To understand more about what my bf saw in those things, I watched one or two with him, and what i realized was that porn is really just a bunch of beautiful naked people with a really bad plot. Also I started openly checking out girls and guys with him, just for fun. When you joke about it, you don't take the jealousy as seriously. If a girl is that hot, let them look, and do the same when an equally hot guy walks by. Talk about it, laugh about it, and once you bond over it, you'll know that your relationship is strong enough to withstand temptation from a magazine full of bottle blondes with fake boobs.

Answer 3

I wouldn't say this is stupid little things, he is addicted to being turned on by other women, there isn't too much you can do about it, all sex addiction is basically intimacy problems, they can't get intimate, as close to intimacy they can get, is sex. For as long as he's addicted you cannot be as intimate with him as you could before, also the trust issue can drive you mad, you have insecurity because it doesn't make you feel good enough, he's going elseware for sexually related things but you just want him to be with you, only you. It's up to you, and him to change it, you may not see it as a sex addiction, but get him to take this questionnaire and you'll see http://www.sexhelp.com/sast.cfm