i no my bf wants to marry me. i wanna set it up n surprise him but im a on a very low budget. he would hate a big thing anyway i need to no where to start n what i need to do im in leicester england please help its his bday in july but its mine in may i wanna do it for then i wanna take him town one day n say "fancie gettin hitched" n just do it he would love it!!! please help?????
2007-03-28 01:19:26 · 20 answers · asked by Laura Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Within your answers you have been told how to go about getting all organised with the registry office. I certainly don't want to be negative but as others have said is could be sooooooo sad if it backfired. If you are absolutely sure he wants to wed could you not set a date at the registry office as short notice as possible and tell him. If that's how you both want it as in just the 2 of you then you don't have to tell a soul, there are always 2 people to witness the ceremony around. However, much as he would not want a big wedding it could be he would want the very closest people to him there, whether it be parents, other family or a friend. I know a wedding is the couple's day and admittedly I don't know your cirumstances but parents, especially a mum who brought you in to the world would want to be there on your wedding day, or at least know about it. Also it could cause hurt with both families and I don't imagine either of you would want to start a marriage on the wrong side of your inlaws. If you have thought all this through and you consider it wouldn't be a problem I wish you all the very best.
2007-03-28 01:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry, I do not mean to burst your bubble, but surprise weddings are not a good idea, you say you know he wants to marry you, why not let the relationship run it's natural course, when he feels ready to marry you then he will propose etc. Or you could propose to him ad plan it the normal way. I am saying this as marriage is not something to enter into on a whim, and it's not fair to ask someone to make such an important decision on the spot like that. I am not being horrible, just truthful, I would really advise against this, it could be an expensive an embarrassing event if he says he is not ready to get married.
2007-03-28 01:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only way to do this is to go to Las Vegas. It's the only place you can get a marriage license and marry right away, otherwise you always have to wait 24 hours in between.
So maybe the surprise can be a trip to Vegas, not only because it's the only place you could actually pull it off, but because it's less likely to scare him- getting married at random is a LV tradition and it will fit in with the holiday quite nicely (as opposed to walking down the high street and springing it on him like that) And no planning involved- everything is all ready for you- you find a chapel, there's plenty around and you can just walk in and wait for your turn. It's not expensive and they take care of absolutely everything- dress, cake, witnesses, everything. If, god forbid, he says no, you haven't embarrassed yourself by already setting something up and you can just put it down to being caught up in the spirit of Las Vegas.
But it's not cheap! So you may want to save up. Flights are £300 each if you can get them while on sale, May time might be a bit more. Mid week the hotels are very cheap, and the pound is strong against the US dollar so you'd get a lot for your money.
best of luck!
2007-03-28 04:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would not recommend a surprise wedding on a birthday. You want your big day to be an important date for both of you ... a birthday is already important so why not pick another date??
Marriage is a huge jump in any relationship and should be seen as such. You both should talk about it and decide together if you want to elope in lieu of having a huge wedding.
2007-03-28 02:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi it sounds like a lovely idea but you can't have a surprise wedding without telling him as he needs to sign forms for his consent. You could have a humanist blessing which is not yet legal in England but you could get do it anywhere. Then make it legal in a registrars at a later date. That allows you to have total freedom as to what you want to do on the day. Hope it all goes well.
2007-03-28 01:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
have you thought what you will do if he says no???? your relationship will never be the same again!!! anyway you need to start by booking the place where you want to get married and booking the reception, then you need to get a dress sorted and fast!!!!! it is a stressful time you will need help and lots of it.
If its in may that is only a few weeks away and so is july i really dont think that you will be able to pull it off and i think that he would like some say in his wedding day but good luck trying!!!!
2007-03-28 05:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by EMMA B 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a mutual agreement between two peolpe and should not be done for the fun of it. If your bf wanted to marry you he would atleast have asked you by now. Yes, he wants to marry you but who says that he is ready now to make this kind of commitment. He will feel obligated to marry you if you go ahead with this. Rather organise a very special day for him and then you can ask him to marry you instead.Atleast this way he will feel like he has a choice.
2007-03-28 01:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is possibly the worst idea Ive heard of since ... ever actually. Have you no idea what a marriage is? Its not just the wedding, thats a party for 1 day. it leads to a marriage which is for life, if hes not ready itll go t*ts up. Dont be silly, just wait for him
2007-03-28 04:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um...honey, this isn't a good idea at all. If your boyfriend hasn't proposed, how do you know he wants to marry you? Really, getting married is a HUGE step, and people want to be involved in making this decision for themselves. Why not surprise him with a proposal, and go from there?
Think about how you would feel. Imagine if one day your boyfriend said "Honey, I know you want kids. So, surprise! I adopted one for you! Here you go, his name is Billy. Have fun!"
2007-03-28 02:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should only do this if your absolutely 100% sure he wants to get married, and absolutely certain he's ready to do it NOW.
If there's the slightest doubt them don't do it because it could cause some real problems, if you are sure he is and is the sort of guy who would find it fun then go for it.
I think 75% of guys would be uncomfortable with it but only you know him here, we don't.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 01:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋