i got dumped by email, after several attempts to try to ressolve the problem he agrees to take a few days to cool off and think about it. did he just say this to shut me up , does he mean it ?
how much time does he need, is it reasonable to ask him to be honest and not ignore me, opinions please. x
much thanks
2007-03-28 01:15:50 · 31 answers · asked by kira s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for your information mixmaster, i dont pester him as he lives in another country, i just want honesty, or are men incapable of giving that.
2007-03-28 01:25:32 · update #1
he dumped you by e:mail.....now that's a cowards way out...honey i would not grieve over this guy....he's not worth it, his excuse is that he needs time...what he really means is he does not want to be with you...i know that's harsh but if he can't stand in front of you and tell you to your face then he's not worth a carrot...sorry but i would not accept that from any guy....find someone who is worth your time
2007-03-28 01:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you and this isnt what you want to hear but he probably is just saying that so you stop trying to sort it out. Im not being harsh but my boyfriend broke up with me a month ago by txt (on my 18th bday) and he said he'd ring and explain but guess wot im still waiting! I kept saying things to him by text and he would reply and say text me in a couple of days but then he finally has text me saying there is no chance and if he had said that right at the beggingin maybe i would have had a nicer birthday so i think you should just live your life and then if he decides to try again you can but dont wait around for him. You are worth more than an email and more than him xx
2007-03-28 02:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Pickle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that he needs tome to "cool off" as time to devlop some manors.
Dumping by either email or Text is pure cowadise. Personnaly I would not invest any further time in him and look for someone with far better mannors.
Anyway. If you just cut off all communications and get on with life he will probly come crawling back. Please use this as an oppitunity to send the coward back where he came from rather than take him back as he will only be a spinless pig again to you.
2007-03-28 01:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by david c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumped by email ? Wow. That's a new one.
Obviously if he's dumped you then he is either
A : really confused
B: Really stupid
C: High on drugs
D: not worthy of your time and making a big mistake
E: All of the above
There are plenty of great people out there who would be interested in you. It's not unreasonable for him to be honest with you and not ignore you. After all, a good relationship is based on trust & honesty.
Hope it works out for you.
2007-03-28 01:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was with my ex girl since 2003, she helped me through a lot of the hard times that I faced, I thought she was the one I would be with forever, we promised each other to be honest and to always talk through any conflicts we had. Jan/07 we had a huge fight and after that she sent me an email to say it was over and she didnt feel the same way about me and she was moving on. I was planning to propose to her on our 4th year anniversary which would have been this april. Needless to say I am still hurting because I never got closure from her because she dumped me by email. you can ask him to see if he wants to talk to you and that you want it to end on good terms but if he doesnt respond then move on
2007-03-29 14:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Beno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dumped you by email then let's face it, he probably doesn't want to be with you any more. The fact that he's in another country porbably doesn't exactly help...
If he's tied to you and constantly surrounded by people he cannot touch in any way but you're in another land altogether then he's going to get frustrated. It's better for you both that he's finished the relationship instead of just cheating on you.
2007-03-28 01:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by Beast 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this is your cue to back off. By continuing to harrass this person you are in danger of driving him away completely. I fully understand what it's like. Women need to talk about these things and need answers. Men prefer to back off and think about stuff on their own without distractions. Just leave him alone completely and see what happens. Try not to appear needy although I know you are hurting. Try and concentrate on things in your life that make you feel good. If he gets back in touch just be cool about it. If he dosen't then you have to be very brave and accept that he no longer wants the relationship. Confide in your friends or family to work through the feelings.
2007-03-28 01:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by Michele 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this sounds really blunt- but if he is low enough to dump you by email....
I'm assuming if he put it in writing then, yes, he did mean it, but that doesn't mean you can't talk about the issues that caused the breakup. Give him a break- then talk. I think a couple of days- maybe 3 or so- would help and see how it goes.
Good Luck
2007-03-28 01:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by girllost 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but he sounds like a **** with no guts - If he has dumped you by email, I wouldn't say he was worth worrying about - what a cowards way out! I may be wrong but it sounds like he is just trying to keep you quiet for a few days
2007-03-28 01:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
the coward!
i was dumped by email. he wanted to be just friends with me and as much as i hated this and wanted to be with him, he did not change his mind and i didnt try to push him into changing it too much. it worked out for the best.
if he has sent u an email he has probably been thinking about it for a while and its not a spur of the moment desicion. he might have tried to tell you to your face but not been able to do it. i think he probably did say he would think about it just to shut you up.
move on girl -find yourself a Real Man!
2007-03-28 01:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by sparky 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dumped by email! What a coward. He doesn't deserve you or anyone. I think he did probably say it to shut you up. I know it's hard but try to move on. He probably has.
2007-03-28 01:23:06 · answer #11 · answered by Dom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋