my boyf is great well hes trying to be he loves me alot i know that and hes trying all he can to make it up to me and i know hes a changed man....he didnt cheat or anything he just used to be a real bad hypocrite and possessive and then he would lie about stupid things to make me happy....
anyway hes changing and i can see that but i still feel insecure i still feel like my whole world will come crashing down if i give him the benefit of the doubt or if im happy something will go wrong again i can just feel it...
what can i do....
also maybe cos im overwieght at the moment i need to lose 1 and half stone or 2 stone to be my ideal weight and i feel frumpy and dnt have no confidence..my boyf said i can come to his workplace and he will give me a kiss infront of all the poeple there [work colleagues[] to show that he has nothing to hide and that im his girl...but i feel to fat to face them anf they may say to him why is he with a fat girl.....
making any sense?
THANKS
2007-03-28 01:13:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lose weight and do it now. Not because of the bf, do it for you!! You are obviously not happy with your weight and you will feel like a million dollars if you lose the weight you need to lose, even just half of that will make you feel much better!! I think you should believe your man when he says he loves you, seems to me he does, but just be careful, people don't change, we need to learn to accept then just the way they are, just like he accepted you. Good luck
2007-03-28 01:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sas 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend genuinley cares alot about you, but you don't make it very clear what he did that was so bad in the first place. Whatever it was - move on girl! put it all behind you and instead of worrying about you boyfriend and what he hasn't yet done - go out and make yourself feel good as no one else but you can do that. If you really think you need to lose weight then get motivated and get a bike or take up a sport that you like Ditch the fatty food as you are what you eat. Being insecure will not get you anywhere in life. Your a great person - believe it.
2007-03-28 08:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you feel so bad about yourself. I get like this too and I'm not even fat. Some days I just don't like myself and I don't know why. I think your boyfriend does care for you and he dosen't fancy women just because they are slim. If it will make YOU feel better to lose some weight then go for it. Once you see the pounds coming off it will really raise your spirits and make you feel good. If you don't want to go to his workplace then don't go, put all your energy into losing the weight. By a nice outfit in a size smaller and keep looking at it and imagining yourself in it. Then when you do fit into it if you still want to lose more weight buy another outfit one size smaller. Start up an exercise routine as well to tone up. I wish you all the best x
2007-03-28 08:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks do NOT matter. You say your boyfriend would love to show everyone that you're his girlfriend? He finds you attractive, isn't that what matters?
You shouldn't hold back from being happy. Sounds like there's alot of potential in your relationship. You say that if you stop being insecure that someone bad will happen? That doesn't make any sense, things will happen regardless on how you feel about them, if at all. I say enjoy the moment, and don't worry about tomorrow until you get there.
2007-03-28 08:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by Antoine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just by reading this i think you should walk the other way hun...you sound really unhappy...just walk away and get a new life, meet someone who is not so possessive or tells lies....get yourself fit again, go to the gym, lose the weight, gain some more confidence, honey you have low self esteem, you need to deal with that and get yourself motivated....being in this relationship is not healthy for you...concentrate on YOU for a change....you CAN do it....
2007-03-28 08:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly ..... How heavy are you....?
Secondly fat girls have really pretty faces.... and yes i think that the weight issue is what is bothering you ....not him....
Go to the gym....or do a lot of horizontal jogging with your b/f..
Who cares what others think as long as he loves you....
Good luck.... and lose as much weight as will make you happy.... =] remember weight comes off your boobs first...
2007-03-28 08:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋