i was mad at my ex for choosing to go clubbing most of the time, then going out with me, now i didnt want to cakk him, and i surely didnt want for him to think i was weak, but it was about 1 and a half week, that i hadnt heard from him, i had to be the dumb 1 to call him, but i did...and at first he wasnt picking up the phone, but he told my friend that he misses me, but that he wasn going to call because he felt like he didnt do anything wrong, anyhow, i gave in...and i called him, so that preety much send the sign that im weaker when it comes to emotions and sticking to my word..anyhow, i really wanted some quality time, atleast to see him, well i called and he ended up coming ovr, one thing lead to another and there we were making love, it felt aqward b/c i hadnt seen him in like a week, but it felt like thats where i want to be, we are i guess back in touch, but how can i prove to him that i dont need him even though im trying to keep things in a good way between me and him
2007-03-28 01:05:53 · 9 answers · asked by dat_sweetmami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to me like you aren't trying to convince him that you are strong...... you are trying to convince yourself.
You need to reflect on your relationship with him. If it bothered you that he went clubbing all of the time then you are entitled to that regardless of how stupid he thinks it is for you to get upset about it. He doesn't feel like he was doing anything wrong but YOU did and that's all that matters.
It's normal for people to miss the person they were with and sometimes they break down and contact them. Don't beat yourself up over it.
I don't think it's healthy that you are still sleeping with him. Reflect on the situation........ he's not calling you and he has the perfect excuse..... he doesn't feel like he was wrong. He's not answering when you call. But guess what????? When he finally agrees to see you what happened? You slept together. That might have been his only intention.
I think you should move on. Don't be in contact with him until you are OK with not being with him.
Obviously clubbing is more important to him then your relationship.
2007-03-28 01:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by teacher101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are now dating again, you need to ensure that from now on you communicate properly, and that you get the relationship on an equal footing.
tell him you called him as you felt the arguement was petty, but that there is a good point behind it which is that you both need to have balance... see each other half the week, see firneds other half. maybe suggest going clubbing with him. if you dont like clubbing but he does, then do other things together. dont force each other to stop doing things that you both like, thats where resentment starts.
if you not dating, just had sex and now are just friends again, then the 1st part of that explanation still stands. dont even mention the sex the other night, let him try to guess what it was about!
good luck
2007-03-28 08:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice keeping a good way with him but you should not have allowed him to have sex with you. By allowing this you are tryiung to make him think that you cannot do witout him which is no true.
I will advice you to try and aviod him for sometime so that it would not look as if you are always avaliable for him.
But for him to go clubing insead of him taking you out and showinh you care and love its as if he does not really like you maybe he just wants you for a normal friend only not a lover so that was the reason I stated eariler that you should not have had sex with him.
Above all, fear God in all what you do
Iyanud
2007-03-28 08:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by Iyanud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart...he obviously doesnt want to be with you full time...he would have callled...if hes out clubbing and leaving you by yourself all the time and doesnt think theres anything wrong with that then hes wrong and wants to be single...
the fact that it was a week and a half later and he still hadent called means he was out having fun probably having sex with other women.
I'm sorry to break it to you but all you did was call and in his mind it was at least one more time getting you in bed.
Men are usually pigs...my fiance used to use women all the time and the stories hed tell me and when my friends call with their guy advice he can tell me what they said and did before i tell him.
Hes using you.
Erase his number...you cant be friends with him until you get some respect for yourself and learn that you are better then that and you dont need him.
2007-03-28 08:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by colie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From a strangers point of view why are you with this guy? Its obvious he dont care about you if he prefers clubbing than being with you..! Doesn't even bother calling you... you call this a relationship? Just imagine what kind of things he gets up to when he goes clubbing, you think he's faithful? FORGET ABOUT HIM!!!!!!
2007-03-28 08:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by someone24000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who called first, who looked weak, none of that stuff matters. As long as your happy with the outcome and feel good, your cool.
2007-03-28 08:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by The Hook 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well tell him you should take a break and b alone for a while just keep yourself busy with friends all i'm saying is maybe you don't have to do that
2007-03-28 08:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by lola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either want him or you don't. Make up your mind. Who cares if it appears that you need him? Do you want him? Forget the rest. Fickle woman.
2007-03-28 08:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needed a p**sy and you were the sissy...now don't regret.
2007-03-28 08:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by CITYguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋