Is Something Wrong with her Mentally?

Question

X is up in age. She's going to be 71. We've been in an on again off again relationship for over a year and a half. She is the one usually breaking up with me only to go back into a chatroom to try and find someone else. She gets in these moods where you can't talk to her. If she starts an argument she doesn't want to talk to you and will cut you off, no emails, no phone calls, nothing. She's done this so many times. In fact I was in NY (5 hours away from where I live) and she threw me out at 1:30 am and I had to drive home all those hours with no sleep and upset. I've treated her good and even changed things about myself to please her but nothing seems good enough. She's judgemental, jealous, controlling and you can count all the friends she has on one hand. Her family doesn't even bother with her, her sister nor her son and grandkids. Is something wrong mentally? I mean sometimes she's sharp as a tack and other times she gets in these fits of rage. I'm younger then her.

Answer 1

She will be alright.

Answer 2

There could be something wrong with her. But she might also just be a mean, controlling type of person. From the way you described it sounds kind of like she is aware of what she's doing. Maybe you could get some insight on her from her family. Has she always had these mood swings or is it something that started in recent years?Sometimes fits of rage, personality changes and severe mood swings that begin suddenly in older adults can be an early sign of dementia. They also may tend to withdraw or push others away out of being ashamed or afraid someone will find out about their condition. If you have a good relationship with her family try talking to them and getting some insight into how long this has been going on. Observe her other behaviors when you are with her and note anything else unusual and discuss this with her family. I know they don't want to be bothered, but if something is wrong she could eventually become a danger to herself without treatment. Good luck!

Answer 3

She's just that type of person, if no one else even bothers, why do you ? 1 and half years is enough for you to try, if it does not work, it will never work. And she 's too old for you to hope for a change that even younger people hardly would. Usually people are really who they are at early middle age, and for many if they are nice, they are already nice since they are born or at younger age.
I have just also experienced someone myself, and now I am pretty sure about how hard I have tried, it will never work out.
Controlling people are never good to be friend with. They always want everything for themself, the way they want, so what is there for you, about you ? And if every time something happens between you, she does not try to fix it, but always tries to go look for someone else, that shows she's shallow and self-asorbed, so let she go and you will see what she can get.

Don't waste you time out there, it will never work, you can see for yourself if you still keep trying to be patient with her.

Answer 4

she is everthing you said she is.she needs help and alot of patience.when she cant push you away and you stay regardless? she will break and youll see her for who she is.
she is as confused as you are,if you love her dont give up.plus she is older so controlling you should be a norm for her.
save the next guy from all this ok.plus its an adventure for you ,appreciate it.
or,you may pay her back in her own coin.all that she has done to you,do to her.lure her then shock her.she might run or not find it funny,but youll definantely have an effect on her.just might work
good luck.

Answer 5

Sharp as a tack, heavy duty mood swings, alienates people -- could be a bipolar personality.

Answer 6

dude she is 71 years old what do you expect.

you put up with it or find yourself someone in her 70's.

or if you don't want to put up with any of it you can
always go GAY..........HA HA HA HA ...!!!!! lol lol