I hate a girl in my family and i dont know what to do when she talks to me!!!!???? I JUST HATE HER because my friend stop talkin wiz me becuz of her, she tells lies about me!!???
2007-03-28 01:03:01 · 14 answers · asked by $!r@h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hate is a pretty strong word....but, if I were you I would confront her and ask her why she spreads lies. It could be that she is insecure about herself and jealous of you. Or you could just plain out ignore her. By doing that you are showing her that what she says doesn't affect you and maybe she will stop.
2007-03-28 01:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by Boo Boo Head 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like jealousy in the family you should just stay your distance if she lies on you but you seem like you are not sure if you are not sure tell her something fake not anything that would make you look bad because for some reason people will believe a lie before the truth somethimes so make sure it is not really bad and see what she does if she is infact talks about you and she is an liar she will run with it see where she takes it and let a couple of people know what you are doing so they can be your wittness test her!
2007-03-28 08:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not tell her that - it's only going to make her and you feel worse. You don't hate her, you are upset with her behaviour. If possible sit down and have a calm talk with her to see if you can resolve the problem. Tell her that when she told the other person things, it made you feel very frustrated and upset. Do not blame, and use 'I feel' statements example- I feel frustrated when you told so and so those things'. Try to work it out - if you can't then you will need to go on with your life and she can go on with hers. Don't dwell on this, force yourself to be positive and positive things will happen. :)
It may seem bad right now, but with time, it will change. We've all been there :o
Also, you need to sit down with your other friend to explain your side - if this other friend won't talk, write a letter to her. If she doesn't respond, then you don't need a friend like that.
2007-03-28 08:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by LEWG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I where you... I would tell that person. You can't just sit there doing nothing! You know that she's saying lies... So dont just sit there and not working on it. I'd tell her personally. But I shud make sure no ones arround. I dont wan't to embarrass someone. You shuld tell this person in a good way. Just remember to tell her properly. Ofcourse you want her to change because she's ur family member and you shud do whats right for her. So go on and tell her but u must say it in a good way. Gud luck with your problem! =]
2007-03-28 08:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could anyone look someone in the eyes and honestly say "I hate you"? I don't believe it ...I think there are some things that need to be worked out even IF things have to get worse before they get better and in a lot of cases worse never happens.
Communicate with love means speak honestly and with personal responsibility as well.
2007-03-28 08:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask her directly if she has been telling things about you that are not true. That way she would have the chance to explain what she said. And if she had been lying about you she will be much more careful, maybe stop totally, before doing that again since she will know that you will ask her upfront.
2007-03-28 08:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by Chi Nu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her about the lies and try to work things out instead of just blurting out that you hate her.
maybe if you work things out, you guys can get along.
also, get her to patch things up with your friend.
if she doesnt cooperate, dont associate with her. you dont have to be nice to her just because shes family.
2007-03-28 08:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....use reverse psychology here. Be kind and courteous to this woman. Eventually she will see the light ....... How hard is it to be "mean spirited" to someone who is kind and sweet? She will back off, I'll bet!
Be the better person, it always pays off!! :-)
2007-03-28 08:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sam h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah I wouldn't tell her. She'd know just from the look on my face when I seen her how I feel.
2007-03-28 08:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I don't hate anyone.
If you find this girl unpleasant, you should simply avoid being around her.
2007-03-28 08:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋