Met a guy 2-3 years ago we were seein each other for 8 months, we gelled right from the start, but he wasn't 100% in the frame of mind 4 any commitments, typical commitment phobic & a person who loves freedom. He messed me about in the process with broken promises, 1 minute saying that I am going be future woman etc but it didn't seem to happen. Durin the time we were so close he was even calling me 24/7 from the UK to the US sayin we are goin to b together when i return & that we were going to plan a holiday home as we both hav family in Florida US! Then he would change his mind again about a commitment. Obviously this hurt as I kept thinking that there was hope! I wasn't happy as he was being very self-centred durin the time we were seein each other as he wasnt in the frame of mind. He decided that would should be friends 4 now as it wasn't fair to me. So I gave him 1 last chance to ask him if he was 100% sure Im goin to start seein some1 else & that there was no going back.
2007-03-28 00:52:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now 2 years later I am doing well, so is he. I have just brought a new house aswell and am happy, I find out that he has been trying to contact me for ages, so I decided to meet up for a friendly drink and now 3 years later him 31 and me 26 he has said that he wants to start something serious and settle down! Do I decline even though I gave him an untimatum and said that there was no going back 2-3 years ago?
2007-03-28 00:54:27 · update #1
I mean when I asked him 1 last time and said that this is it 3 years ago he decided to let me go as he said that he cannot offer anyone commitment right now, I said to him that this is it now, it is over and he said to me Never say Never!! Should I decline now he wants something serious?
2007-03-28 00:56:29 · update #2
Listen to your heart and do what you think is right.
2007-03-28 01:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm, tough one.
depends how much you love him?
are you currently in a relationship? if so and you are happy in it, then its cold shoulder for your ex as he had his chance and blew it!
if you're single, why would you take back a man who couldnt commit and may not be able to now?? unless he offers you definite, tangible stability and firm promises, preferably written in stone, i'd be wary!
if you decide to move in with him, do not sell your house, rent it out. you never know when you may need it!
if he moves in with you, do not sign any of house over to him; make sure he sets up direct debit etc with bank to pay you half the mortgage and bills and food.
if he just wants friendship , take it on that level as male friends are great too! but only if you're 100% over him emotionally as it'll be too painful otherwise.
good luck
2007-03-28 01:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on where you are in your life (with another love?), what would it hurt to give him one more chance? He said he wasn't ready before, so he let you move on. Maybe he really IS ready now...how will you know if you don't give it one more shot? If you two really had a strong connection before, isn't it worth finding out if something could work this time?
2007-03-28 01:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by in love love love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it, he will just lie to you and not be fully commited to you. You are doing well now with your new house and are totally over him, so don't let him make you feel bad again. This time tell him off and let him know that he had his chance and blew it!
2007-03-28 21:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think its a good idea to take him back. I'm surprised after 3 yrs, youre not seeing someone. Find a guy who loves you for you.
2007-03-28 01:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Its me again 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF he really cared and loved you he would have been able to make that descision a while ago. You son't need anymore heart ache in your life.
2007-03-28 00:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by *PEACE BEGINS WITH A SMILE* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him back into the past, he had his chances and blew them.
2007-03-28 00:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋