Saying NO to your children?

Question

How many times a day do you think you say NO to them, is it because they like winding you up or do they pretend they cant hear you.

Answer 1

i think the trick is; once you have said no, you must mean it, and not give in at any cost. after a time this will be noted, and they will realise that it does no good to keep on

Answer 2

1. Children can hear unless a doctor has said otherwise.

2. Children aren't trying to get a reaction that is not a mature concept because it suggests a parent not deal with behavior nor are they picking on the parent IF the child doesn't know what picking on...due to age - is. Here's the thing - their trying to get their way and their way is based on the way of a child. The parent needs to let the child know who is in charge and teach(love) what is proper because regardless of feedback a child has the right to learn and grow forward and it's a parent's job and usually a feeling that they want this for their child regardless of resistance or societal influence. Get the family on board with this ... lol hopefully you won't be met with resistance.

If a child is being exceptionally difficult consider diet - they may not feel good and could be edgy due to poor diet and the same can happen to adults. There could also be other social elements involved that need solutions only U would know what these are.

Answer 3

Millions of times...hehe..My children have all grown now but I do remember the days when It seemed that's all I would do is say NO! When they get to an older age try saying " do you think that's really a good decision?" Believe it or not ,some day you will miss all the activity! ( smiling)

Answer 4

Doesn't it help if you start on a positive and end on a negative? As in Question :Mum can I sleep over at Jan's house? Answer : Yes you can darling but no not tonight.
Try it, it takes awhile for your words to actually sink in that way and you get a brief reprieve.

Answer 5

Kids are kids - they have a limited attention span. Look at the bright side - they will grow up and you just keep telling them that you hope that when they have kids that they do exactly what they are doing now to them. It is commonly known as a parental units curse.

Answer 6

I said no once. If they asked again, I pretended I didn't hear them.

Answer 7

NO is my middle name.....lol....they ask for things on a daily basis...i used to cave in but now i just say no..... if they were little and asked i would prolly say yes, BUT, they are all grown up lads (1x17 yr old, 1x20 yr old, 1x22 yr old) and still ask for things....so in this house...the word NO is accustomed...lol...well i can't give them everything...i think pretending they cant hear you pretty much sums things up...lol...

Answer 8

Some children think that if they bug you enough about something you will get irritated and finally say yes just get them to stop bugging you. Some do it to test your limits. When my children do this, I remind them that to continue to bug me about something will not get them their desired results. After that they usually stop.

Answer 9

Fat momma is right. You have to mean what you say and be confident. You can do it!

Answer 10

i very rarely have to say no as they are amused alot,they are not angels far from it but do amuse themselfs i also play alot with them,when i do say no its because they are trying to draw over the walls when we are sticking or somethin,but they do play being deaf alot thats kids for you..x