We broke up because his other girlfriend moved in with him with their baby. I had no idea he had other girlfriends, and we were going out for almost 5 years. I found out when I called and she answered. We talked for almost an hour. They have been together 3 years. Whatta jerk!!! I am so very angry. But i cannot be angry at the girl. He wont see me or talk to me. I want to slap him, punch, scratch, Anything!. I want to pass by his car and spray paint, slam a bat, puncture the tires. But I did not do that. instead, I hit took my revenge by asking for money for our unborn baby. "Its ur baby too.".. He has not sent money. But Im not pregnant at all. In fact I found a new job that seems okay. Im earning some money and looking decent. I want to hurt him that is all.
Am I such a bad girl?
2007-03-28 00:14:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your best revenge is to be happy. I wish you the best of the best.
Forget him and be happy.
If he ever comes back sniffing, and see you're not pregnant;
let him think whatever he wants.
You owe him nothing at all, not even an explanation.
For all he knows,
you could have lost the baby
out of all the anxieties
that finding out what sort of a double-life
he had been living and if necessary
put a restraining order to keep him away from you.
If you must ever say anything to him,
just tell him that your life
and what you do with it
will never be of any concern to him again.
I hope that you told that poor girl
what he had been up to as well.
She deserves to know!
The least you have to do
with this lying double-crosser, the better.
The sooner you forget about him and be happy,
the better you will feel with yourself
and remember this universal truth:
"what goes around comes around"
and any pain or sorrow he has caused you
will come back on his own head
from some other directions
until he learns the divine truth
that everyone in life
reaps what they have sowed,
eventually.
That's the law of God.
So whether you believe or not,
it's the same eventuality for the evil-doer...
people who hurt others
always end up paying for it
many times over.
Go in peace and be happy that
you didn't have to wait until you were sixty-four
to find out what sort of a devil he really was.
If I were in your shoes,
I would celebrate my new found freedom
and thank God for opening my eyes
to the wisdom that I would now embrace
as the precious and wonderful gift that it is.
Become your very best friend.
I strongly recommend you read the book of Proverbs
for more accurate knowledge
that should help you
through anything else
you might have to face in the future.
Best wishes to you.
Under the circumstances,
I'm sure that God himself has forgiven you.
That "fool" won't be taking advantage of you anymore!!!
And if you learn the advantages
of caring well for yourself,
chances are pretty good that no one ever will either.
You might have just learned
one life's most important lesson
and you're still young.
Be happy with yourself.
It will snowball
into more and more positive and wonderful experiences
in your new and fresh life.
2007-03-28 00:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Teri 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to hurt him isn't that bad it's acting on it that is bad. And lying is worse. You need to talk this out with someone you know can help you with coping skills. He used you and lied to you so he will do the same to her. And what goes around comes around. He will get his with his bad karma. The best revenge is living well. Let him go or he is going to continue to have power over your mind. Move on. You have a new job and a little money. Spend some money on you with clothes or pampering yourself a day at the spa. Do something nice for you. Then get out in the wrold and smile. I like to think that everything happens for a reason and maybe this happen because mr. right is right around the corner. Good luck and don't let him own you head with all those negitive thoughts.
2007-03-28 00:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rosa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad girl you're hurt and it's normal to want to take revenge on your jerk of a boyfriend. he's an *** but i dont think it was such a good idea to lie and say you were pregnant. Clear things up with him and let him know how much he hurt you. Just thank god you're well and doing ok.
2007-03-28 00:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by primandproper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, You are not a bad girl, you are human being and you are hurt!!!.... He was the one who acted in a wrong way, he played with the two of you, and he will end alone, you´ll see!!! and for your tranquility, you can be sure he´s going to pay everything he did to both of U... life will make that for sure!! you don´t have to do nothing, instead move on with your life! try to have peace! and a good attitude! try to be happy again! that will be your revenge!!! and remember not all men are selfish and jerk, somewhere is your better half waiting for U....
2007-03-28 00:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by staytrue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are hurting but mind games really mess with you. He's an asshole but you should not lower yourself to his level by lying as well. What goes around, comes around and he will get his in the end. In the meantime enjoy your new job and try to better yourself as a person. He is not worth it at all and this will only hurt you in the end. Just let go and move on with your life. Good luck and the pain will go away!
2007-03-28 00:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great way to get your ex back is https://tr.im/Pl0eK
They might realize they need you and come crawling back!
If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
2015-01-28 09:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're reaction is normal for someone who is hurt. But I think you already realized your mistake because you won't be asking this question if you are still in your revenge mode. I think the on ly thing that you have to do now is to correct your mistake. Tell him that you're not really pregnant. You have to move on and seek for the right guy for you. Believe me, he will come when its time.
2007-03-28 03:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by james 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not bad girl at all, this is a normal reaction, of taking revenge, but if u want to live a happy life then u shud forget all this and move on, i know its not easy, something pushes u to take revenge, but u wont get anything out of it, forget it and move on, thats the only sensible way out
2007-03-28 00:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by ria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No totally understandable. If u wanna really get back at him just move on. Theres nothing that gets under a guys skin then seeing u happy with someone else. No need to lie bout being pregnant.
2007-03-28 00:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by Kristy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let go and move on dear. this will not help, what if he found out you actually lied? you have to forget the past and move on. he does not worth for you to think of a way to revenge. make sure you live life to the fullest and show him that you can still carry out with your life without him.
2007-03-28 00:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Yen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋