My boyfriend proposed last Friday and I don't know if my expectations were too high or what it was but I was left extremely disappointed by the proposal even though the ring was amazing.This was his proposal:
Every time I look at you I feel like the luckiest guy in the world to call you mine. You’re everything I’ve ever wanted and everything I’ve ever needed and I simply cannot imagine my life without you. You’ve made me happier than anyone should have the right to be and I will love you my whole life if you just give me the chance. Would you make this the best moment of my life by agreeing to become my wife. Will you marry me?
Was I expecting too much?
2007-03-28 00:08:17 · 25 answers · asked by Nicole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd have to say you're looking at it all wrong. If you're actually upset at the words he used in proposing to you, I hope you said no.
It is hard enough for a guy to actually commit himself to marriage, and now we have Hollywood and Cosmo to thank for making every girl think that her proposal should be something to base a movie on.
I think his words were wonderful and to the point. He basically handed you his heart and soul and you repay that by publicly saying you're disappointed with it. I truly wish you both the best of luck. You've got some thinking to do in your future.
2007-03-28 00:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by b0red2tears 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I think you really must take a step back and think about this. Why are you disappointed? The words he used? The thought behind the proposal? The location of the proposal? Or are you disappointed in the guy himself?
The sentiment behind the proposal is truly lovely; I feel unless he got it from a movie or he proposed on a manure pile, you should really think if you have doubts about your feelings towards your intended.
Or if you have been dreaming of this moment for a while now, perhaps it's just a case of over thinking it; you know, that the expectations got out of hand.
It sounds like he loves and cherishes you, and one would be lucky to have such a devoted man as a husband. Good Luck and Congratulations!
2007-03-28 07:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by bridalbecca 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I thought what he said was absolutely lovely and I would think any woman would relish hearing those words from the man she loves and wants to spend her life with.
I can't imagine what you were expecting...what more could he have said?
It sounds to me as if you've already scrpited out too much in your head, and as I digested your entire question, all I can this is you sound like a total Bridezilla about to make her grand appearance, to the dismay of your loved ones.
As you plan your wedding, please keep in mind, this is real life, not an orchestrated affair for a television show. Don't try to control every minute detail or you will be unhappy through every step of what should be a very exciting and fun time, and when you think back on this time, you really do want it to be about happiness, not stress over details you won't even remember in ten years.
2007-03-28 09:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound kind of like a high maintenance crazy woman. Yes, you were expecting too much if that dissapointed you. Besides, the point is that he asked you, and frankly, by this question, I'd say you're lucky to be asked at all, good grief. After all, a proposal, basically is just one question, and how he proposes is really beside the point, the point is that for whatever reason he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Get over yourself.
2007-03-28 08:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by barnaclesally 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that was beautiful!! I think you might have been expecting too much. Let's just say it was better than my fiance's proposal. We were at the ocean looking out over the water...our dog was jumping all over me and I was 5 months pregnant and freezing! All he said was..."I love you very much, you make me very happy and I already know the answer, but I'll ask anyway...will you marry me?" But his proposal still brought tears to my eyes. It wasn't how I always imagined it, but it was his own and I couldn't have asked for anything more!!!
Be thankful!!!
2007-03-28 10:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mandi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Re-read what he said to you.
It is the meaning of his feelings and emotion.
Not neccessarly how it was "done".
He wants to love you, cherish you, be there for you and want you to share that with him too. That is the whole point in proposal. Think what he said and analyze it.
If he wants to marry you, that should mean everything in the world.
Proposal could be way worse like, proposing at Taco Bell comparing you to a challupa or something.
2007-03-28 11:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well yes and no.
His speech was amazing...not if he did it sitting on the couch then I could understand why.
I came down the stairs ( we had gone to a wedding that night) and my fiance was sitting with our dog talking to him. I just happened to ask what are you guys talking about.
He said how much I love you and how I want us to be a family and how I want to spend the rest of my life with you..will you be my wife...
He was on one knee and did cry so I guess I can be happy for that but I think just with movies and all of that we tend to think were getting this out of this world proposal.
My ex's cousin proposed in a hot air balloon and the family was recording it...ok yea thats awesome but that just doesnt happen alot.
I guess be thankful he just didnt say so uh you wanna get hitched haha..
He sounds sweet.
Good Luck and Congrats
2007-03-28 07:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by colie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for your boyfriend, or is he your fiance, or have you not decided yet because he put himself on the line and that wasn't good enough for you? I guess you think it's easy to do something so huge like this, and maybe he should have been able to read your mind too, while he's at it. What was missing, the white horse, or the shining armor?
2007-03-28 07:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were expecting too much!
That sounds like a great proposal!
2007-03-28 08:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are lucky you got THAT much. My fiance's proposal to me went like this:
He invited me over to his GRANDMOTHERS house. I was sitting on the couch, talking to his mother. He said "Hey honey" and I turned around to look at him and he was kneeling infront of me with the ring box. He said "Will you marry me?" I said "Shutup!" (And then I said yes).
And THAT was it. Infront of his family, no lovely speech, no sweet words, no romance, NADA.
Disappointed? A LITTLE. But knowing he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me made me not give a sh*t about how he asked me to marry him.
But oh well, I love him for his simplicity..
2007-03-28 09:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by *~ Nicole ~* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋