2007-03-28 00:06:26 · 13 answers · asked by mariana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Really think long and hard about why?.....
Did she abuse you?
Has she done things you are think are morally questionable?
Was she a teen mother? ( I was and I know that I could have been a better mother if I would have been older). I ask this one because it's sad for kids of teenage moms but it is also sad for the teenager. I guess what I'm saying is your mother is human and you didn'tr come with instructions.
Honey life is too short to hate. No matter the situation you need to get rid of the hate. This hurts you more than it could ever hurt the one this feeling is directed towards.
If you are grown and have a legitimate reason not to want a relationship with your mother, then write her a letter telling her why you wish to not have an ongoing relationship. It will probably hurt her, but if you are mean to her now and you don't want to change.....then just cut the ties! I pray for you that you don't live to regret your decision.
2007-03-28 00:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by pooty36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a horrible and destructive thing.
It is corrosive and can damage you and the other person.
If a person hates another then the best thing is to be reconciled with them as the best option. If that cannot happen then forgiveness of the person and their act(s) is essential.
Its sadder if the person hated is a mother. Try to restore the relationship, its good for both of you.
Peter
2007-03-28 00:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate is a very strong word. it can burn a hole in your soul. the best thing you could do is to look into yourself and see why you are in pain. what is making you feel so badly towards her. once you can face what your pain is, you can deal with it. talk with her, if you can, let her know how she is disappointing you, how it makes you feel so terrible and that you don't want to feel this way. if this doesn't work, try to accept her for the person that she is, love her for the mother that she is, think more of yourself, and less of her wrongs, and you'll find that you can tolerate her, and maybe, even eventually love her for her ways. but, please, don't try to hate her, or anyone, for that matter, because it just takes too much of your own good energy away from you and it doesn't open up your heart to the good things that are all around you.
2007-03-28 00:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's always opposite...when and if wisdom and strength is obtained one finds that "haste makes waste" doesn't it? This will be "it" for someone that chooses to live in the past. I don't know the situation which does not matter...only you know the info but regardless hatred is a huge waste of positive thought gone all wrong. It's normal to struggle with issues but if sorting and goals to move forward aren't there *stuck* amounts to raw stress. Far as I know stress is not a positive result for anyone including mom since it causes physical illness...better to live in the truth and work on issues what ever they may be.
How old is mom? If addressing issues and she's 90 remember that remembering things can get pretty hard as people age the mind begins to slip.
2007-03-28 00:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate and love are very closely allied and all families go through difficult times in their interrelationships. Your mother will always be your mother no matter what and the feeling of hatred will pass.
2007-03-28 00:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by Badgerlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hating and start loving.
Love is what makes the world go round because if we all hated each other we'd have killed each other by now. And even if you don't love your mum she loves you soooooo much! Even through the rough times in life and when things aren't going right and you argue. She's made you grow to become who you are today.
2007-03-28 00:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Gumby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should think first to what lead to this hatred, a person can never hates his mother *if and only if she is not a good mother, then he would someway hates her* a true mother can never hate her son/daughter even if she felt they hate her,,,,a mother is less responsible in front of god for what happen to the relationship of her and her child, especially if the child is older than 13 years old then the child is the one who should go and feel sorry for what happen, believe me you should forget it *even if it is not your fault* --my friend she is your mother---......god bless you both
2007-03-28 00:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Wonkyu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it.
Believe me, there are times she hated you too.
You can hate how she behaves, you can hate how she looks,smells,thinks,talks, dresses, treats you and your friends, and everything about her.
When she is gone, you will miss her.
Be happy you have what time you did with her and remember the good time.
they may be few, but they are there.
2007-03-28 00:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hating your mother is very bad no matter how bad she is. You need to make AMENDS NOW !!!
2007-03-28 00:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should know the word is Forget and Forgive. Especialy your mom whos always love and concern about you.
2007-03-28 00:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by picha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋