i have been dumped basically by gf was long distance and she said she found soomeone else and was sad it didnt work but 3 weeks before we were planning to buy a house but i was gonna have to find the cash deposit i had already given her some, i love her so much but am well annoyed that the relationship became based on money and when we spoke on the cell it always turned to me having to provide which i have a lot in the past, now i think she just doesnt think i was going to come through with the deposit i actually cut down on the phone and email with her cos it actually stressed me out and made making the money even harder, trouble is now without her i am even more unhappy and cant handle her being with someone i desperately want to get her back because she is the love of my life i will always love her help!"!!
2007-03-27 23:28:24 · 16 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she also hasnt email me much if at all since i want to call her but trying to get up the courage to do so
2007-03-27 23:29:36 · update #1
stay single....your pockets jingle...
2007-03-27 23:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure this isn't what you want to here at the moment, but for God's sake don't try and get back with this girl; the phrase, 'gold digger' jumps immediately to mind.... Any decent girl wanting to build a future with someone she loves would want that future to be a joint effort and would therefore be expecting to contribute something herself. Even if she couldn't stump up half of the cash, she'd be expecting to add something to the pot as well as you.
Being dumped always sucks, but it would suck a whole lot more if you'd bought her a house into the bargain! I wouldn't feel jealousy over the new guy - I imagine he will end up in a much worse situation than you.... Give it time and you'll meet someone much nicer and more deserving.
2007-03-27 23:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by shoegal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships and buying houses are a sure way to put pressure on a relationship. it stops being fun and ends up making you fell very tired. you've lost what you had. your not going to get it back. it hurts, but walk away. who knows in a few months years you both might end up bumping into each other in a different situation that works but for now walk away. feel rubbish for a while. and then get on with it. its not your fault or hers its just life.
2007-03-27 23:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buddy sounds like you had an ordenary gold digger on your hands she was long distance from you which could mean she all along had someone else and decided to use you for quick cash.this is the one in the long run yor going to be happy you let go. it is always hard to let someone you care go no matter how not right for you they are but i know this situation to well to not gie you the best advice i can which is to keep going and dont look back
2007-03-28 00:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by adrian w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just split with me ex last week and i am really bad because i want to be with him too,
He is still texting me but treats me like i am just a friend
I think that it is better that you have no contact at the moment as this will make it easier for you
If you two are meant to be than let her come back to you as in no doubt she knows how you feel about her,
My ex is making it really hard for me because he is not sure if he wants to be with me or not, and that is tearing me apart
But i am not letting him know how i am feeling because if we do get back together i need to know its because he wants to and its something he wants to do and no other reason
Like i say live your life like what i am trying to do and let her come back to you in which she will if it is meant to be but if she doesn't then you know that it was prob for the best that you split up
That is what i am trying to do, if he comes back to me then brilliant but if he doesn't i still have my life to live
good luck and keep smiling
2007-03-28 00:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you for real?? You KNOW shes with you for the money - if you're happy being a walking piggy bank then yes - by all means go and get her back - however if you grow yourself a pair of balls and self respect in the meantime - stay single and wait for the love of your life - this one obviously isnt coz when you're in love - it tends to be with the person - NOT with the content of their wallet.
xx
2007-03-27 23:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah... it is quite obvious that your feelings run a lot deeper than hers do. I'm sorry but this is what I am gathering from it. In anything sweetheart, it will take a while before you adjust to changes (you being alone, her being with someone else) but I think it is something worth enduring so you can find your way to someone who REALLY cares about you and not what you can do for them. She reminds me of a woman named Theone, in a novel I read. She was once a prostitute and got married to the Prince of Greece, Kyrian. Because of the inequality of their stature, Kyrian was disowned by his family. But he loved her with everything he possessed. Sensing that Greece would have been overthrown by the Romans in the army, she betrayed Kyrian and gave him to be crucified. Her rationale: she was more interested in her achieving her ends than really loving him, he was just a means.
Bottom line of this long drawn out post: Move On. Do not look back. It is quite possible that when things start going downhill in this relationship, she'll return to you... but you need to go out get drunk, break somethings, wallow in self-pity for a few days. Then move on.
Besides, Kyrian went on to find the love of his life. The one who would sacrifice it all for him and Theone... well her end was not so sweet.
2007-03-27 23:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,at the moment your hurting in time you will heal & be thankfull that things fell flat before she took anymore of your money.Bet she does the same to the new bloke.Will serve her right if he takes her to the cleaners.
2007-03-27 23:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold on she basically used you for money and now she has a new cash cow she doesnt want to know you ,,, if i was you forget about her get rid of her phone number and email address and get on with your life....
2007-03-27 23:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but (LISTEN CLOSELY) she was using you for money and you sent her some and now she wants nothing to do with you.
Its going to be okay, there is someone out there for you!
2007-03-27 23:37:09 · answer #10 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is going to sound horrible, but i think the girl was using you for your money...move on and buy you a puppy, they are loyal.
2007-03-28 00:32:03 · answer #11 · answered by Cinna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋