Sister problem.. ?Ok, i have an elder sis, who is 3 years elder to me.when we were kids we sued to quarrel?

Question

,When we were a little older we started trusting each other, sharing views etc.Then she left to India to study there, .Then when i went on vacations to India, for 2 months we had lot of quarrels .And she kept rasing her voice at me all the time, whenevr she got angry.It was very disrespectful because she used to scream at me on the top of her voice that made the neighbours wonder us .I even told my sis not to scream , but she never listened and later i told her politely that she acts like a *****.She used to raise her hand at me whenever she got angry, i even hit her once, .Then when i left India and went back to my place, i was really pissed thinking about the way she treated me ,so i said mean stuff to her online to get even and she forwarded the entire conversation to my dad and she now keeps puttin me down indirectly or thinks low of me. She tol my dad i think girls are only for sex, but its not true.She got lots of friends and keeps tellin everybody that she loves me but i dont.

Answer 1

Wow, settledown, your missing the real issue here. Which you never even gave me so I'm going to have heck giving you a good answer but darnit i'll try! Of course I hate assumptions.... ether way I could use some more information about what it is you argue about. Not the small stuff, like she wouldn't keep the lid on the toothpaste. No I need the main underlining reason which you could or couldn't know... hmmmm Yes sister relationships can run deep and can have a mountain of history, so I guessing (darn assumptions) that you guys are fighting over lifestyle or life-choose. I'm not going to venture to what it might be exactly but you guys are diffently not seeing eye to eye. And it isn't the shallow stuff ether you guys got some deep-seeded issues that just relating normal with each other isn't going to help. Whats got me the most is how you let it get out of hand? It takes two to fight... someone can always walk away, but for you to go to were she has lived for all this time and not try to turn the other cheek says alot about the dynamics of your relationship. I would venture futher to think that you guys are more at odds with the age gap... she feels she knows whats best for you and you could careless to hear it.... again I'm assuming. Of course that is a very "immature" way to handle confrontation you usually confront the person not your computer. I know its the internet so in a roundabout why it well get back to her, but its more like taking to people on the playground how that girl over there is gross. So no offense, but that says alot about how you handle yourself with her. So to make a long explanation short your dealing with the fact that you guys need a better relationship. The problem is that one of you needs to be the one to speck from the heart with as much humility as you can muster to get that done. Since you've gone this far maybe its time to talk to her and remeber that your never going to have the chance to make a sister relationship with anyone else, so act like it, love her..... even if she makes it hard, be the bigger sister... i know she's older but let it go, love matters more then any pride or ego...