Is it just me or would you feel the same?

Question

My ex boyfriend who finished with me a week ago still texts me everyday, There was no one else involved in the split,
We was together for 5 months before we split a week ago
Three days after we split he went on holiday which was all planned and booked before we got together, Even thou he is aboard he is still texting me on most days,
We have had no contact for two days since we split
He keeps saying that he cares and always is asking me what am i upto.
Is this normal behaviour for someone who has dumped someone a week ago,
I cant help to wonder if we do have a chance,
I went out at the weekend for a night out with some friends and the next day he text me and asked me if i had pulled!. I have even recieved some "drunken texts" one night saying that he wishes that i was there! but the next day he texts me just like i am a good friend
My question is
is this normal behaviour?

Answer 1

he is away from home and lonly what will happen when he gets home and is around his friends will he keep talking to you dont get your hopes up just wait and see

Answer 2

I think he is confused about what he wants, maybe part of the reason for the split was because he was going on holiday and he didn't know what he would find on holiday and thought it was better to split then cheat on you, but you'll know if that was the case if when he comes back from holiday he is desperate to get back with you.
Personally I would ignore his text for a couple of days and live life as normal as his texting and you replying is a way of reassuring himself that you are still on standby.

Answer 3

What seems obvious to me is that this guy wants his cake and eat it too. He was too much of a coward to tell you honestly that he didn't want you on that trip or wasn't willing to do other arrangements to get his own refund or sell it to another or whatever.
Now, he's playing with you and your feelings like a cat with a mouse and pretty happy with himself that his little manipulative game seems to have worked just fine and you're still there at his beck and call and he'll probably go on playing with you when he gets back. If you want him to become more "accountable" for his actions and if you want a single hope that this person will someday become someone worthy of you and of your time and affections, trust and love, your only chance is to avoid him totally until you end up 'bumping into him by chance' and take it from there. As long as you don't do anything foolish like falling in his arms the moment you see him and show him that you are a person with self-dignity and self-esteem and yes! self-love; you don't need a manipulative, dishonest, double-talker of a shady (sometimes even drunken) character to expect you to put your life on hold while he takes his own sweet time to grow up. You do deserve better and if you don't realize it now, you'll be this person's belonging as he goes on using you for the rest of your life. Remember that emotional abuse is as bad if not worst than physical. So this is almost as bad, if not worst than if he had "hit" you, as it were. And how does it go? "Hit me once, shame on you, hit me twice, shame on me!" You better make that real clear to him before you ever consider taking him back into your life as anything but an inconsiderate 'wandabe' friend to watch your back from.

Answer 4

These days there is no normal behavior. I wouldn't wait around for him if he has split up with you. Who knows what is actually on his mind. Go out with friends and have a good time. If he approaches you wanting to get back together that is the time for him to answer some questions. Like what the heck are you thinking? Until then don't worry about it.

Answer 5

Well yes for a guy it is normal behaviour sort of the txting is him trying to maintain a stong friendship with you and him asking about you pulling is him looking out of a friend i think but i would suggest that you two sit down and discuss this between you when he gets back just so you are both clear on the matter

Answer 6

After being with someone over a certain time period, like your of 5 months and a bit, the initial stages of a break up will be slightly off course from normal and undoubtedly, both sides will miss the routine and the habits and rituals.

In other words, it takes time for reality to sink in. He ditched you, but still texts you because it's out of his place not to. So, since you're the one being ditched, you should take steps to break off contact with him (if you want to be single or want to meet other people)

Answer 7

ok here goes honest opinion here....he wanted to be a free agent for the holiday and now he is there he also is missing you and wondering what you are doing. Does not want you with anyone else but is out there looking and it is these feeling he conveys......often if the trust thinks wobbles it is really the one tryingto pull away who has the faithfullness issues notthe one dumped so to speak....hopemaking alittle sense. He is confused. Probably besttotalk properly when he gets home.

Answer 8

he didnt want to stay with you, but he cant bear the thought of losing you totally from his life.
it is not normak that he asked you if you pulled, you shoudl have replied well, thats nothing to do with you, you spilt up with me so i can pull who i like.
he cannot keep you hanging.
my ex does the same, he split up with me and now i have a new man he has changed his mind, asking to meet up, i miss you and all that blah blah.
i just said, no , you were my boyfriend, not my friend.
it is so hard, but much more healthy in the long run. tell him you either get back together or you draw the line, no texting and all that, as it just stops the healing process, trust me, i have been there, it makes you feel so up and down and up and down.

Answer 9

He sounds really confused. But have you heard of
the saying that 'He does not want you, but does not
want anyone else to have you either'?
Don't fool yourself into thinking that he wants to get
back with you. Just give it a bit of time.
OR - perhaps going on holiday he was worried he might
not stay faithful to you, so broke up. Giving him the perfect
excuse to have himself a good time while he is away, and
not feel guilty.? Then come home and convince you that he
still wants you after all. I know I sound cynical - but believe
me - I speak from experience.

Answer 10

Yes it's "normal" for a young guy who wants to try to hold onto the "booty"..and that's about it...
I'm assuming you guys were intimate and he is keeping you on a string to get some more when he comes back..
You can certainly be better and do better...
Say "we can be friends but nothing more, thanks for calling, texting, take care of yourself, I've met someone really nice" and never answer any more...
you will be better for it and and he will be fine ...just wait and see...and don't let it get to you at all...
you have learned a valuable life lesson here...
NEXT!

Answer 11

He's hoping he can score while he's away on holidays, and by keeping in touch with you, he thinks that he still stands a chance to get back with you , if he doesn't when the holiday is over, drop him like a two ton block!

C.J