I have noticed that on this forum, the vast majority of parents spank their children. I have also noticed that a great many people complain that children today are out of control. Which is more likely: That spanking really has no effect or that those who complain are childless?
2007-03-27 22:48:10 · 10 answers · asked by Lyn 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would say 6 of one half a dozen of the other. I have 2 boys. Each is very different in how they react to discipline. I am going to take a huge leap here and assume that all children are different and there for react differently to discipline.there for what works for some will not work for others.So Spanking may work for some and have no effect on others. Some of the people who complain about kids out of control have no children that is most obvious by the way they state their complaints and the others either are truly at a loss as to how to deal with their child/ children or really haven't tried one way or the other.
2007-03-28 03:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation you describe indeed seems to be an antagonism. But if you read the answers in detail you will find out how things are going...
You are right that here in this great forum there are a lot of common-sense people who dare to admit that they are in favour of child discipline.
On the other hand there is a growing number of very militant anti spankers who believe they know the solution of striking simplicity: not to spank. The problem is that these people are very intolerant and want to force people with different opinions (including me) to do what they think to be right.
It's a fact that because of more restrictive laws and defamation of spanking parents the number of parents who dare to spank reduces more and more. For example here in Germany spankings are completely illegal since the year 2000. :-(
Now when you see that many people (no matter if they have children or not) complain that today many children are totally out of control - which in fact here in Germany is a very sincere problem since the ban of spanking discipline - and you put it in relation to the fact that less and less children are disciplined at home, it should be easy for you to understand that especially the pro-spanking parents here get angry about newer restrictive laws!
I don't think that many of the still spanked children belong to the group who is out of control.
2007-03-28 01:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by k.samoth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree with those who spank their children. Children are supposed to be naughty but that does not mean they should be sapnked. i really ahven't faced such a situation still because my daughter is still too young but I hope I'll never have to spank my daughter. I believe that there should be one parent that the child has some fear of. I'm sure children must be getting out of control at times but I think warnings and a bit of scolds should help in this matter. Things like naughty stool or naughty step can also help discipline children. How would we feel if we would be spanked. I was spanked in my childhood and I have really bad memories of those so i hope I never give such moments to my daughter.
2007-03-28 00:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Shanu 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My wife and I both will spank our children if they need discipline but we do so in moderation. We will take away toys, make them sit on a chair not watching tv or playing games and such. Most children respond to discipline. Having said that discipline mixed with love and encouragement will make a child grow into a healthy productive member of society. Children also learn what they see and hear so if we want to teach our children right, we have to live right.
2007-03-27 23:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i belive not to spank children. i was hit very bad whilst a child sometimes with the buckle of a belt and i just got worse in the end i moved in with my nan and id like to think i improved a huge deal. from how i was brought up i decided not to hit my child he is 3 years old and i hardly have any temper tantrums i punish by not treating him taking a fave toy away and make him earn them back if he is good. so far the terrible twos have been a breeze and i belive its because we dont hit or even shout we make him look us in the eye and we explain the punishment. in the end though its every1 to their own
2007-03-27 23:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by rachel b 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Or they are not spanking hard enough or often enough.
We let our children come and go as they want , we are afraid that our children will hate us or we want our children to be our best friends.
I have one child, she is 17 and I can say i wish I had smacked her a little more often, on the fanny and across the face.
2007-03-28 00:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A little smack never hurts anyone, especially if they could get themselves into danger or if they are hurting another child.
Sometimes if a child is pulling another childs hair etc, they don't know how it really hurts, so if you do it to them they know and will stop. And I know this one works, a nephew used to pull my sons hair so bad he would fall over, so one day I was sick of it and gave his hair a pull. Never again did he pull my sons hair.
Belting them with a belt or something else is cruel, but somestimes just talking to them does nothing.
I should know.
2007-03-28 00:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Disciplining a child, per se, is not the only answer. It has to be a part of raising that child to have respect for others and self respect.
2007-03-27 22:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
as a dad,it's kinda tough to spank daughters.i'm glad i never had to.
2007-03-27 22:54:13 · answer #9 · answered by I Bleed Black & Gold 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking really has no effect.
2007-03-28 02:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by shebamycat 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋