I'm 18 and he's 35, I love hom a lot,but I'm non sure that he feels the same thing for me,we've been toghether for almost 2 years....but I feel that the things are changed.it could be the age???????'please answer me I'm a really desperate case!!pls
2007-03-27 22:37:14 · 17 answers · asked by lorella 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
me and my fiance get along great. except for 5 days out of the month. but i cant help that. :) but i am 19 and he is 36. and my parents are 19 or 20 years apart and they have been married for 24 or 25 years. but i just depends on your maturity if it works out or not. some 18 year olds still act like there 15. but if you have been in this relationship for 2 years then it sounds like you are pretty mature. best of luck to you.
2007-03-28 10:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by avery's mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Lorella, are you out of your mind??? Are you taking this old guy to the prom?? Are you ready to have people ask if that's your dad?? Or are you just lacking a father figure?? This old guy likes the attention of a kid---because he had no girls when he was young--he is playing catch up in life games---any kid would do for him in this case. What do you talk about?? Or does he do all the talking trying to sound like a hip young person?? How cute. You love him??? Love what--an old guy that will have boobs bigger than yours in 2 years?? 2 years ago it was bordering on rape or child abuse and endangerment--that is a fact. This guy will need 9 1 1 help in 5 years---and then what will you do--play nurse everyday?? Sorry for being rough but the whole thing stinks. I know young guys can be a drag--but try to find a nice one--they really are out there. Grow old with a new young man...don't start off with one that has a head start on you.
2007-03-28 06:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think age is an issue - it's only a number! My parents had a 23 year age gap and their relationship was always fine. I think you have to take a look at your relationship and see what has caused these changes. Do you both want the same things? Sometimes things like this happen in relationships. Try and work through it - you both really need to talk!
2007-03-28 06:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction is not a choice as you may have found out at first, however what's the real reason you are with him? Why are you "not sure" as you put it, after 2 years it should be real plain ...One guide is "Actions speak louder than words"
Ask yourself this.."if I take away the sex what has he to offer me?" not just material things...anything and everything you want and need in a man (just having a man in your life does not complete you) if he doesn't offer much then it's time to call it quits..
First, maybe some real communication is in order. Age is irrelevant to adults of any age who like or love one another....but it never means you have to live, see, talk to, marry or be around them in any way ..why? bc love is an unconditional emotion and it travels and endures across time and miles..
2007-03-28 05:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Gary G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've always been for, "If you love each other then that's all that matters", but it's possible that might be too huge an age gap. Usually, if you have ANY doubt about loving someone, or if something is right, it wasn't ment to be. I you have to look at yourself too. WHY do you think you like someone so much older then yourself? Figure these things out and maybe things will make more sense.
2007-03-28 05:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by Banana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though I don't think it's wrong now... I do however question why a 34 year old man would be romantically interested in a 16 year old girl.
Talk to him. Ask him where he sees things and how he feels about the relationship right now.
2007-03-28 05:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is inevitable you are going to grow apart. You are not even sure of where you are going to be in 5 years whereas he is already set in his ways. I tend to think he is keeping you on his arm due to your age and it will not last. I do think dating guys older than you is a good idea, but not more than say 5 to 8 years. That's my limit. Anything longer will put you in different eras when it comes to growing up and personal desires and habits. I think you should find someone else and let this cradle robber find himself someone he isn't using. Good luck!!
2007-03-28 05:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by roritr2005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is only a number.. It really does not matter.. However your guy is 35. He is matured and need a matured woman for conversations, planning and other things. You can only give him sex and he must be fed up of it by now.. So he moves on.. SO SHOULD YOU!!!
2007-03-28 05:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should be shot for having a relationship when you were 16 when he was 33. He must be a mental case. Dump him. You're probably very cute and he took advantage of you.
2007-03-28 06:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's WAY too old for you, and there is something definitely wrong about him wanting to be with a teenager. Look for someone your age or only a few years older.
2007-03-28 07:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋