HELP! my crush asked out my older sister!!!`?

Question

I have this guy i like and i go to his school once a week and i'm homeschooled the rest of the week. My sister who's 17 goes too, and im 13. Well anyways there's this guy i like who talks to me quite a bit but he asked out my sister and he's only fourteen I will b 14 in two days. Im pretty sure he likes me and he asked her out in a note and my sister said i dont know (backstabber!) She knows i like him and that is the only reason she said i dont know (either that or she didn't want to hurt his feelings). That's what my mom said. I really like him, I mean I wouldn't be up at 4am typing about him if i didnt like him. And this guy asked out a lot of girls be4 my sister ( nine to b exact). I know my jaw dropped too! He smiles at me a lot, and my mom said he's probably not sure if i like him or not and he doesn't talk to me or smile at me the way he does other girls (including my backstabbing, sister). What should I do bsides tell him how i feel? Should i play hard to get???HELPMe ilikehim

Answer 1

Ahhh, the joys of being a teenager...
:(

I remember well(I'm 30)

Anyhoo, emotions are the most dangerous of anything you generally face in life, once you start to experience them!!!

This sounds like the wonderful world of the love-triangle.
These triangles are really difficult to solve, as generally, someone ends up getting hurt - and there is not really that much you can do about it.

When I was 15(remember, i'm not that ancient yet!), I had the most crazy crush on my older sister's best friend.
She was 17 at that time, and slim, honey-blonde, and always wore tight jeans - I think most boys would go for something like that!
;)

I think there was some mutual interest there(lovely eye contact), but we never persued it, as my sister found out that I "Had the hots" for her, and although she was mean to me about it, she was probably worried about losing her best friend in the process..

Anyway, I digress...

YOUR situation:

Your sister may indeed be holding back, because she knows you like him, but remember, that if your sister was that likely to backstab you, she probably would have done so by now, and she most likely would not have said that she said "I don't know".

Do you generally think of your sister as a backstabber?
Has she done it before?

How do you and your sister get on?
OK?
If so, perhaps you could talk to her about it - she might want to talk about it too, but does not know quite how to approach you on the subject - lets face it - it's a little tricky, in any interpretation, eh?
:)

This guy might have asked out a lot of girls, but have any of them said yes?

Not all girls are impressed by the same things, just as not all boys are attracted to the same kind of girls - boys just tend to go for anything which shows a hint of interest!

Trust me - I know, being a man!

Although, i am kinda old-school, in that I really beleive in commitment - it makes a much better relationship.

...i digress again...

Boys tend to take rejection very personally(depending on the boy), so your idea that your sister may not want to hurt his feelings is a valid comment - if you and your sister get on OK, ask her if this is the case.

Perhaps if you and your sister see eye-to-eye, she may be able to help set you up to be around him - if she does not like him herself

Oh God, what a wonderfully knotted ball of string, are emotions.
:p

As for playing hard-to-get, this only works, if you know for a FACT that he likes you. Playing hard-to-get if there is no interest from him, will result in him ignoring you even more - not what you want at this point!

Sound like your mom is understanding, what does she think beyond what you have already stated?

To test the water, you could try a little experiment, and that is simply to hold a gaze at his eyes.

If there is genuine interest(that perhaps he is shy about admitting himself), the eye-contact generally gives you some idea of what is going on in his mind.

In other words, if he holds the gaze, he's probably interested.
If he breaks the gaze immediately, he might not be interested.

Emotions are very very hard to predict, and work with, so as a final note, all I can suggest, is that you muddle through the situation as best you can - not the best advise in the world, but everyone else has to do the same thing when they become attracted to someone.

...even old fossils like me!

Good luck in whatever you decide to try.
:)

Answer 2

Okay if hes asked out 9 girls before your sister there is something wrong with him....Hes 14 he sounds like hes just a kid whos hormones are going crazy....Let it be and in a few years you will probably look back and just laugh at the fact you even liked him at all....

Answer 3

I dated a guy for a while and one day I asked him what his deepest darkest fantasy was. Know what he said? He wanted to DO my sister. I dropped him like a rock. What next, my 13 year old daughter? If your sister cares about you at all, she woudn't give this kid a second look. Guys who will do this have no respect for you at all. He is a useless horn- dog who deserves the STD (sexually transmitted disease) he will ultimately acquire! Find a decent young man to get a crush on-that one isn't worth your love.

Answer 4

my brother is also four years older than me and i remember liking plent girls that where nice to me to get to him when your young like that it happens,,, i would ignore it and go find yourself another guy... if anything it will make him a little jealous, but above all relax. there are millions of guys out there in six months it wont even bother you-promise!

Answer 5

ok... first ur sis if she 17 why is she going out with a lil boy... shes nastey... i know it might seem hard to but u have to act like u dont care... trust me i know ur not gonna like that but it will help... just try focusing on other things... whenever i dont wanna think bout something but i do it anyways i sort of punish myself... i do 10 push-ups every time i think bout it... but then again im in the military so push-ups might not be wut u want.. dont show ur sis that its bothering u cause she might do it just to bother u...

Answer 6

Good lord, next thing you know he'll be asking out your mother. If that doesn't work it could be your grandmother. By the time he's been rejected by your aunts and uncles and great grandmother, he might just ask you out. be patient my dear. You know what they say, family comes first

Answer 7

I don't believe your sister is serious about this immature guy (next to her he is immature); maybe just be yourself-since you only see him once a week, you are already "hard to get."

Answer 8

Ask your sister to go out with him and give him a real hard time.. May be then he will appreciate you.

Answer 9

spare yourself from any effort you are planning to exert because of this guy. since he asked your older sister out i think its high time that you begin to tell yourself that "He's Just Not Into Me".

Answer 10

I read everything you said and that just sounds ridiculous. My advice is for you to go to bed.