Oh' well just say anything about getting married, wedding preparation, best invitation, flowers, giveaways, etc...etc..etc...please GUY's pls............
2007-03-27 22:18:52 · 17 answers · asked by phil_love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Honestly, the best thing you can do is prepare for all the days AFTER the wedding. The wedding is great fun...a wonderful celebration to share with family and friends. But marriage is supposed to last a lifetime. It would be a wise thing to prepare for all the things that beset husbands and wives.
Start with pre-marital counseling. This should include a personality test for each of you, as well as discussing critical issues such as: sex, finances (who works? what to do with the money? budgeting?), children (whether or not to have them, and how many if you do), division of labor in the house, gender roles, what to do with your spare time, dreams, goals, living (rent or own?), conflict resolution, where to spend the holidays (his or her family?), vacation/travel, etc. etc.
There are so many things you encounter as a couple. Take the time to really get to know each other. It'll pay huge dividends in the future.
As for the wedding itself, you and your fiancé should sit down together and decide what you want to include in the wedding and what you don't want. Set a budget and stick to it. (Spend what you can afford to; do NOT go into huge debt for one day! It's one of the biggest stressors and predictors of divorce for newly married couples.) Remember that the wedding day is about the bride and groom...and you'll have to resolve to deal with meddling family who want to do everything their way. Present a united front to everyone and do so from the outset. This will make it much easier down the road for you to call meddlers into check. You don't have to be Bridezilla/Groomzilla. You can gently but firmly hold your ground and remind everyone that you want it to be special for the two of you...and "____" this is what's meaningful (fill in the blank).
And the best advice I can give you is ... be kind to one another. You and your fiancé.
Oh, and to keep arguments short, fight naked. ; )
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials! God bless you both!
2007-03-27 22:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a wedding, all you need is a groom, an officiant, and a wedding cake. That's it. If you want more than that, focus on having the people closest to you celebrate your wedding. You want to host a great party (for this reason, it's better to splurge on a few guests rather than stretch the budget too much for a lot of guests). Food, drinks, and music make the guests have good time. Focus on what makes the guests have fun, and then worry about the rest of it.
2007-03-28 02:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be attentive to God above the rest. the quantity one ingredient married couples have hassle with in marriage is funds - what's your existence plan and what functionality does your better half play in this. If I had everyday this 10 years in the past it would have stored my marriage a great form of grief a protracted time in the past.. I advise making out a financial plan and budget in the previous you get married. each and every marriage needs boundries. communicate some rules on your marriage. be attentive to eachothers existence's aims.... sturdy success and God Bless
2016-10-20 02:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are 100% comitted to her and she is to you. Get a prenuptual agreement! As a person who never thought they would get a divorce, I'm divorced. My divorce ruined me financially and hurt my children as well.
Think twice about marrying an only child.
Don't get drunk at your wedding.
Enjoy your guests and spend time with them.
Hire a professional photographer. Don't have a person who is a math teacher during the week and a photographer on the weekend photograph your wedding. Look for an established studio, check out their samples and book with a professional. After the wedding all you'll have are the memories, life isn't a dress rehersal.
Make God part of your married life. If you both are from different religons, join a totally different church. Don't have a his and her's churches. Go to church weekly together.
Plan time for you and your husband to be together and do something special. If possible become involved in your spouces jobs and with co-workers.
Give serious thought about having your children attend a parochial school. Students who graduate from parochial schools are much kinder then those who don't. My children and I went to public schools. I see the difference in behaviour, friendships, and they way the parochial students act on a daily baisis. They are much more careing!
Live in a smaller community. Life is too fast, yet slower in a smaller town. Better yet, live in a smaller town 45 minutes to an hour away from a large city. This way you will have access to the fun in a larger city with the benefits of living in a smaller town.
Alternate holidays with your parents. Thanksgiving 2007 at her parents, Thanksgiving 2008 at his parents. It is way too difficult to go to two places and eat two dinners every holiday. When you have children it gets worse.
Save money for retirement!!!! Buy only used cars. Get a hobby the entire family can enjoy. Plan time for yourself.
Recognize that people change. If you feel you are having problems in your marriage, seek a marriage councelor and go together. Correct the issues before they become problems.
DON'T cheat! You are committed to this one person for the rest of your life!
Pray this prayer,
Dear Lord, As I enter this marriage help me to be strong, loving and supportive of my spouce, __________, in good times and in bad. Bless our marriage and help us to lead lives that are pleasing to your will. If it is your will, bless us with children and help us to be good parents.
The day of your wedding lasts only a few hours. It's the years following that you'll need help with. Life isn't a dress rehersal.
2007-03-27 23:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Steven A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Plan EVERYTHING ahead buy a notebook just for that any & every single idea that u thing of write down that google it u can find everything online. Make a list for everything, and check it twice..lol
I found a lot of things on www.orientaltrading.com, I got my invitations at PartyCity go to thier web site to find one close to u www.partycity.com (online they dont show it but they have tons of books to go throuh at the store) and u can search on www.google.com
Good Luck....Best Wishes
2007-03-28 01:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by KelLzZz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say I do. In addition get the essential things sorted out long in advance and then try not to worry. My best friend is getting married soon. Good luck
2007-03-28 00:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing to do is to book a venue, either church, licensed premises or registry office (or court house etc) without a venue to get married in there would be no wedding!!!
2007-03-27 23:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aside from those preparation, take time to rest to avoid incident. most cases in getting married is very close of accident.be careful and advance best wishes.
2007-03-27 22:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by PG_13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself the following:
1) Are you sure?
2) do you honestly feel he is the right, responsible, honest guy?
3) Has he demonstrated his real love for you...
ONLY AFTER THE ABOVE YOU SHOULD START THINKING ABOUT OTHER THINGS.
2007-03-27 22:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guest list first; that gives you an idea of how much you'll have to shell out financially. Really, once you know how many people you'll be entertaining, the rest kind of falls into place.
2007-03-27 22:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋