Ok, I'm fine talking to people that are friends of friends etc, and I'm fine talking normally on dates - but I'd like to be able to chat people up in the more random situations without coming across as slimy (I might want to chat people up but I'm not a sleaze) or plain bizarre - Any thoughts?!
2007-03-27 22:12:25 · 25 answers · asked by stick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From my experience, If a guy initiates a coversation with a compliment , howerever innocent e.g. you look nice or you have nice eyes. I immediately think here we go...what's he after. However if they maybe start talking about music or say something funny then I would be more likely to talk to them, as it is initially less in your face. I am no fool, I realise in both cases thay are usualy trying to chat you up but second way is far less cheesy, and at least you get an idea of their sense of humour and what makes them tick.
2007-03-28 00:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by feebee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I used to work in a bar and one of the customers took the ice out of his coke and smashed it on the floor and declared "now we've broken the ice how about I buy you a drink?". It was so utterly naff I loved it.
Other than that it's best to avoid lines as from my position behind the bar I've seen so many women dislike them.
It really depends on where you are. I find it's always good to plead ignorance about something ie "hi sorry to interupt/bother you but I havent been here before and wondered if the food is any good/that new club down the road is worth checking out" or compliment them in a non-slimy way ie "hi soz to bother you but it's my sisters/cousin's/friend's birthday soon and I think your shoes/bag/jacket is great, totally her style, can you remember where you bought it from?".
Once you get a conversation going hopefully you can bluff it from there. If s/he's interested s/he'll try and keep the chat going too.
Good luck!
2007-03-27 22:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by DemonicaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'd like to say that the bar scene is really unfair to guys. Women do not need pickup lines, they just have to be able to spread their legs. I may not be a freakin' Playboy Bunny but I can definitely keep a guy interested. "How is that?" you may ask. Because I have a vagina! Guys willingly stick their junk into a lot of unusual things, what makes people think they would need convincing to have sex with a woman? Back to the point, the best pickup line when you want to meet someone, no matter where you may be, is a big genuine smile. Everyone looks good with a smile on their face, and it's a good way to make initial eye contact. (Plus, you can see right away if you'd want to kiss them.)
2007-03-27 22:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by garcia_lives86 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people probably won't mind to talk but there will be some people who might not want to talk back to you. But, just try finding something that you feel you could talk about to them. For instance, if they are wearing a football jersey then you might ask them something about the team on their jersey. Just comment on something of theirs, even if it is a drink. And, of course, you could always start off by saying, "I feel like I should know you." If they do not respond back then find someone else to talk to until someone responds. The more conversations you start making with others the more confident you will be at initiating conversations with others.
2007-03-27 22:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by It's just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try gently bumping into them by accident, apologise and then get chatting. Drop all your change right at their feet, and if they're nice they will help you pick it up.
Try making a comment about the environment while you're waiting at the bar, like 'it's busy/quiet/hot/cold/smoky in here tonight. If they don't respond and chat back, they're not interested anyway.
2007-03-27 22:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Dogsbody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think that if u just go there and smile nice to a girl { not cheesy, smile nice}. And ask him/her if u can just sit next to them, for company nothing more, just because u r along, i don't think that anyone will tell u no.
Ask them their name. Say urs.
Q's about their live {job, family, where r they from etc} then the conversation will start normally and nice.
Don't ask private q's, and don't say a lot about ur self.
Just nice simple conversation.
I think this will work.
I don't c way not.
2007-03-27 22:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seem eager, to do what? Your job. I work in bars and unless you plan on just standing there like a mute stuffed animal with no tips, open your mouth and say something. You're not offering free enema's with every shot sweetheart! So don't be so afraid, dear.
2016-03-17 03:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends; if girls find you attractive then you can say any stupid thing and they'll laugh like teenagers but if they think you are not then they will treat you like a dog. Just be yourself but remember that sometimes people just don't want to be approached by strangers. And be alert for near by boyfriends, at bars they don't like guys taking to their girls, that's an invitation to a fist fight or worst.
2007-03-27 22:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna talk to a bloke, sport,if it's a girl, anything you want,she'll think your a sleaze until you prove other wise,so don't try and be all meaning full,until you have broken the ice.
2007-03-27 22:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by live life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest just a simple 'hi, how are you?' and then compliment the girl on something.... us girls always like compliments... even if its just something like 'you have a great smile' or 'whats that perfume you are wearing. It smells great'
Obviously don't use those 2 lines if she has manky teeth and isn't wearing perfume!!
2007-03-27 22:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by Flossy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋