My mom has been dating a guy for a couple(2) years.She maybe sees him once every 2weeks, job situation. He cancel their weekends, I think he's cheating. I once heard him on the phone with another woman. I did'nt tell my mom because I did'nt know the facts, but it did'nt sound like just a friend.
The dude is a very social person, he portrays as if he is a nice dude. He drinks alot but maintain composure.(THE PROBLEM)He plays slapping games with my mom. The other day my mom was having a conversation with family members at a little party when he came from no where and hit her on the cheek. It was'nt hard, but the fact remain he hits her out of nowhere and walked off. Later in the night I confronted him asking him why? first he say he does'nt have to tell me anything. Then he gave a lame excuss. Saying he had to prove his point to another man. My mom stopped the conversation. I can see him beating her in the next year. I think even if i told her she would still stay with him.
2007-03-27 22:09:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most abusers start out nice then next thing you know...POW. I think my mom would'nt leave because she have been in past relationships where dudes were abusive, and it took her a while to leave them, or she secreatly would still see the dude without anyone knowing. Staying in contact with them. Honestly; I think she is desperate for a man. She have 2adult kids. Never been married, but all her sisters,brothers,nephews, and neices are either in a married or have someone they could potentially marry. SO YEAH! SHES A DESPERATE ONE!
2007-03-27 22:15:30 · update #1
All I can tell you is you are probably right about the fact of you telling her what you think. She would probably still stay with him if things have not progressed to the point of actual physical harm. I can tell you as a Man you shouldn't even play like that. If in fact he does ever hit her and you are aware of it call the police regardless of what your Mom says or thinks! Once he hits her it will never change. And then being a drinker! Not a good combination. It is your right to ask questions being it is your Mom and I would continue doing so! Look after her you are doing the right thing!
2007-03-27 22:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by johnnymelloncarp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wanted to humiliate your mom in front of others. He may very well be a typical woman beating guy. The issue isn't really him though. You can't do anything to get rid of him yourself and you won't be able to get your mom to split with him as long as he keeps her self-esteem at an all time low. So, grab your mom and take her to a gym. Take her to the library or get her involved with the community after school program. Help her learn to love herself again. And YOU make sure YOU love her good and strong too. If a mom knows her child loves, needs, and cares for her, there's nothing she can't do! You might even try to help her find a job in a new town. I wish you the best and I'll say a prayer for your mom.
2007-03-28 05:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by cindyunion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom to see a therapist. Then inform some caring relatives and save her from this goon. I would also inform the cops to call him and scare him from doing anymore damage. Ask those dirty fellow s to give her respect before dating her. Respect comes first and she your mom needs to know so too
2007-03-28 05:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak some senses to your mom. If all else failed, let her sort out the issue. She should know what she's getting into and it's her perogative to quit or not to quit. We can also feel sorry for her.
2007-03-28 05:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your mom and he sort themselves out.. You can't do much other than telling your mom how you feel...
2007-03-28 05:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋