How can young people be more responsible in their relationships?

Question

Since the age for dating seems to be getting younger, its something to think about.

Answer 1

i think that parents should teach their children to first enjoy their childhood once it is gone it is gone forever.
Parents should be more involved in their childrens lives teach them right from wrong
But the source of all evil i believe is the tv, this is where they see everything and they want to try it

Answer 2

How can young people be more responsible? Age of dating seems to be getting younger?
My opinion is that seems to be just about where it always was, but that news and TV are more comfortable talking about it openly. Think about it, in the fifties you weren't even allowed to show two married people sharing a bed, much less talk about underage dating. That stigma has gradually gotten less strict, and as the age of the average TV viewer has dropped studios are starting to target younger people with exactly what is on the minds of the pre-pubescent folks, dating. Just about everyone has the same hormonal clock inside, which, at about the age of fifteen, says "I want to be intimate with someone" (whatever you take the word intimate to entail). Evidence for this veiwpoint? I live in China, and the only thing that is stranger to a Western than how much more conservative the typical attitude is to relationships (college students aren't even allowed to date on my campus), is how similar the reality is (they still do).
As far as being more responsible? be honest and educate them, STD's, profilactics, emotional maturity, etc.

Answer 3

I think the age for dating has been steady for at least the last 20 years (when I was in second grade in 1990, I remember there were at least three or four girls with "boyfriends")
and the average age for sexual activity hasn't changed *too* much in 20 years...


but i understand the sentiment of the question and my best advice for young people in their relationships is this: don't have unprotected sex, no matter what. we don't need any more welfare babies.

the truth is, there is no way for immature and irresponsible aged children to be "more responsible" in their "relationships", because they're capable of neither the maturity nor the relationships!

Answer 4

I don't think responsibility in relationship has anything to do with age, is more something related to the person's personality. Some people has sense of responsibility others has not. My ex-boyfriend was 43 years old, an extremely successful men but terrible about dealing with friends. I left him because he used to make me feel like he was my boss not my boyfriend. Extremely addicted to control.I wish he could be responsible for his relationship as he is with his work. On his work, he was aware if he did something wrong, he could ended up fired or have his work comprised while in his relationships he used to think he was the only smart *** in the world and he could do anything without having to explain himself to nobody. He had no friends, just people he knows from business.

Answer 5

Depends on how young you are talking about, I fell pregnant at 17. I was a good girl never stayed out late or hung out with the wrong freinds, but my parents were hard on me, not physically but mentally...which led me to feel very isolated in my own home and just wanted to be out of the house. I worked during the weekends since i was 13 and never went out during the week when I about 16..due to my parents new strict rules, but when I did I was pretty much a good girl, my dad was a cop in a small town so I knew I had to be.
But I did lose my virginity just before my 16th birthday, but I couldn't approach my parents about this...infact on anything in my life that bothered me...anything I did wasn't good enough, I was lazy, stupid, my grades were never good enough etc...
I say a teen needs good parenting, but also the parents need to be a friend with an ear for all their problems. My kids 11 and 13 talk about kids they like at school once in a while, but I because I don't laugh and make a big deal about it they don't have a problem talking to me, and I hope not to freak out when they are ready to date...i just want to know when the times right that they will be honest and let me know what's going on....I'm not going stop being a parent foremost but I know I also need to be their friend too so I can give them their best guidence in in life than going through their teens listening to their mates only advice instead.
The guy I fell pregnant with (we lost that baby), whom my father hated at the time...have been together now for 16 yrs....and my parents love him now...we are successfull living in California (we're from the UK). I know I was lucky!
They have said since my early 20's that they are sorry how they treated me, and hate watching the family videos which show what they were like...now I'm an adult and they've changed and we're really close....just wish I could of had that relationship growing up.
Like I said, parent, be fair not too harsh/soft...but also let your kids know that you can also be a friend too. If your child can come to you about a problem/worry first before having to find out from someone else or when it's too late, then you know you're on the right track.
If you are a teen let them know some of the lingo you use nowadays and what it means, some parents might not know what you mean when you say hanging out/making out/chilling...jees my parents used to call dating courting...which seemed very outdated and can put up a barrier. If they can learn them, they will may feel more on the same page as you.
Young people can be more responsible by knowing about the very real risks of stds (for starters 1 in 6 people in the US has herpies) the high level of divorce rates (so should be more wary about serious relationships an early age), pregnacy and of course knowing about what kinds of protection is out there and how to get it when they think they are at that stage. Also they shouldn't feel pressured into doing anything with their boyfirend/girlfriend too soon ...anyone worth being with would wait until they are ready.

Answer 6

In my opinion, the young people that I've met they really don't care how their relationship is....it's more like if they tap that. And if they didn't they would move on to another person.

Answer 7

Yeah, just advice them and make them understand what it means and be strict to your kids.

They have to know these things and once they are 21 its fine for them to think. But before that is a no no for sure.

Answer 8

they just need to know use to use rubber, then we will all be good.

Answer 9

don't get physical with it