Ok so my ex fiance of 6 months recently broke up with me. When she first broke up with me she told me she wanted to go back to her ex. But then about a week later I saw her with a completely different guy that wasn't her ex. I talked to her and asked her about this and her reply was "why should you care?" Then a couple weeks later I went and talked to her again. She told me that she truly loved this new guy she was with. We had broken up before and then gotten back a few weeks later and I told her "if you truly love your new boyfriend then you never would have come back to me in the first place." When she heard this she said ok and told me that the real reason was because she felt bored to me sometimes and wasn't sure if she was going to be happy in the future with me. She doesn't want to give me a second chance though. I guess the question I have is what does this all mean?? Does she still have feelings for me? What am I suppposed to make of this situation??
2007-03-27 21:49:07 · 16 answers · asked by Confused as hell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't sound to me as if she has any feelings for anyone. Move on she will only keep this up the rest of your lives if you stay with her. Believe it or not there are a lot of other women out there keep looking do not settle!
2007-03-27 21:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mary B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
STAY AWAY FROM THAT GIRL!! She's the girl your dad should have warned you about. She will cause no end of drama in your life if you keep her around. Imagine being with her in the worst case scenario of your life. I mean, shitty trailer, four grubby kids, and she's a stripper at the local titty bar who doesn't come home till 5 in the morning. She doesn't have a clue what love is, or what it takes to keep a relationship together. She will cheat on you, lie to you, and treat you like ****. She is the girl who will ignore (and possibly abuse) her children, and stay out all night drinking - just to sleep all day. All because she is selfish and is incapable of seeing anything but her own reflection. I know it probably still hurts that she left, but time really does heal all wounds. Staying away from her now will save you so much heartache in the future. When you meet someone else, it will make you see that there are good people out there who don't play with other's feelings.
2007-03-28 05:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by garcia_lives86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you are wanting some miracle answer to make your pain go away. The truth is that none of us will have the right answer because we don't know her. It sounds to me that she was not happy in the relationship and in realizing she was not truely happy she decided to stop before it was to late. In this situation you can honestly say it was not you but her. Whatever her excuse was for calling it off was not the truth the first time and how do you know it was the truth the second time. I do not feel she is worthy of you giving her so much energy if she can not seem to make up her mind. I am with the understanding that relationship's are work but you should not have to work to be in love just work on comprimising being with that person that you do love. Walk away before you allow her to do more pain to yourself. If you get back together and she hurts you again unfortuantly you have no one to blame but yourself because you knew what you were getting into before it happened it being the third time of trying to make it work. Good luck!
2007-03-28 05:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hate to say it but women don't always know what they want. We can be mean too. I hope I never break another heart and I wish women were more careful about doing that. I like Chrystophers answer about her reqretting it in the future. Work on yourself and try to stop worrying about her or anyone else. There are plenty of fish in the sea and I am sure there is a perfect little tuna out there just for you. Be patient and try not to rush. Good Luck.
2007-03-28 05:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by cindyunion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she was clearly not ready for marriage &the best is for u to move on.
She realized that if she is bored with u or the realationship at such an early stage, what would happen in a couple of years.
She may not have given u the proper reason origanaly but u better off knowing the truth now anyway. Her uncertainty &"restlessness" would have ruined ur marriage.
2007-03-28 05:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obvously she doesn't love you anymore coz if she does, she will not leave you for another guy and will not say mean things to you. Leave her alone and go find someone who deserves your love. Don't waste you time with your ex fiance. There are a lot of girls there who will treat you right and will love you for the way you are.
If you ex love you, she should accept you, love you and understand you.
2007-03-28 05:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by violet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wasn't that exited about having you as her bf, as you were about being together. she is not your type and your wasting your time. seems she is more friend material and thats exactly what you should leave it at. be friends with her and thats it. don't let her play games with your heart. be clear- yourself first and then clearly explain that to her.and if you cant be friends immediately with her and have a problem of getting over her, then step one is to break contact with her. no emailing texting nothing,even if she comes back to you. gotta take a stand and stick to it,if for nothing else...just you're self worth
2007-03-28 05:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to let her go, one of my ex's did almost the same thing(we werent engaged) but i learned from it, and with her it was the fact that i still acted like a child which i was(she is two years older) now when she sees me which is way too often she gets mad because i have grown up quite nicely, have a decent job and am a rather good man. and i get to laugh inside knowing that she knows she fudged up
2007-03-28 04:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Chrystopher P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you two were noy meant to b together stop wasting your time on silly notions of living happily ever after with this girl. If things were meant to b than they would be
2007-03-28 04:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberly S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need a make over as in ALL MAKE OVER
so there will be something NEW to look on you
to talk about the TWO of you
and the bEst She will BE interested to YOU!!!
2007-03-28 05:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by gLen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋