Hello everyone, I'm 25 years old and have been living in a house share for just over a year. I've loved every minute of it up until 3 months ago. This is when I got a new job that I'm not too sure about, and my landlord is my new boss. I also live with his son. If I decide to leave work then I pretty much have to leave home too because of the favour my landlord did for me by giving me the job. He is now having the loft converted into a room for him to stay in some nights during the week. I'm not sure what to do, and I don't know whether it would be a good idea moving back to mum's. This is my only other option because I can't afford a deposit on another flat. Please Help!!!
2007-03-27 21:38:11 · 25 answers · asked by Mike W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go back to your mum's. You are compromising yourself relying on your boss, and he knows that. You really don't want to be in that situation. And you get your washing, cleaning and cooking done!
2007-03-27 21:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dogsbody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying 2 stay 1 month more.
Then save money and ask for ur parents 2 help by putting only a some money not all, just 4 u 2 b able to go/enter on ur new house.
Then slowly give the money back.
The problem with the money will take u about 3 months.
Until u sort out the money that u have 2 give to ur family, and 2 b able to start going out again, with out thinking that u need 2 save.
Going back it want b easy.
When a person goes away from the family house grows a lot.
U change, u eat when u want, u go out, having friends when ever u want to stay, or drink smoke what ever.
Going back u want have this freedom.
AND!! The most important is that ur family want be able 2 understand that u have changed and u have the ability and the responsibility for ur actions. {u can say in a way}. They will try to act like u never left, and that u r the same little girl.
If u think that u can handle this then going back it want b a problem.
Have u tried to speak to ur boss?
Tell him how u feel, and that u would like to change some things or that u don't really like the work, and it's not what u need for the moment?
Give him time to find another girl and then go 2 another job.
I don't think that it will be necessary to live the house.
2007-03-28 04:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if i were in your position i would move out asap. There will always be a time where you wont see eye to eye and then have to face him at work, there will be no getting away from him. the last thing you wanna do is fall out with your boss. The cheapest option would be to go back to your mums house, but if you don't wanna do that and can't afford a deposit on a flat, then have you thought about sharing another house using the deposit you will get back when you get move out, or see if a friend is in the same boat financially and maybe going half's on a deposit for a flat. hope this helps and good luck with whatever you decide to do. x
2007-03-29 10:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you didn't say whether you enjoyed the job you were in and planning to leave it. If you are going to leave it then I would suggest speaking to your landlord about it, he must be a pretty decent person getting you the job in the first place. If it feels awkward then you probably should move back to your mums and while your there maybe save up for a deposit for your own place. Or even see if any of your friends would want to share a flat with you and then you wouldn't have to go bck to your mums.
Not sure if this is any use to you but good luck anyway :)
2007-03-28 04:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wondering why you changed jobs after being in the new place for 9 months. Did your landlord offer you a better job, or was it turning into a party house?
If you are losing control and becoming indebted to these people, maybe you need to move to mums until you get back on your feet, if mum will have you.
On the other hand, why bail out due to fear of something that hasn't happened?
You didn't need to be slave to your landlord when you first moved in. What has changed?
You've had a job for 3 months, and you'll want to keep it if you consider how your resume' will look. Unless you want to get out now, just ignore the fact and say you took a vacation and move on. Family is always better (ongoing) support than fair weather friends and employers.
2007-03-28 04:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by D D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you get your previous deposit back when you leave your current flat?
Anyway, by the look of things, I guess it is better if you move out, especially if you don't want to get involved with these people any more. Working with the father, living with son, the father, who else? It sounds even worse than an unwilling marriage.
You can always find another flat after saving up enough living with your mum, even if you cannot get back your deposit from your current flat.
2007-03-28 04:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by Grelann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stay where you are untill you can afford a deposit for a new flat. Either that or stay in the job your in untill you've got another one
Moving into someone else's family is never good. It puts so mch strain on relationships, and you'll end up having a fall out.
Also, I wouldn't recommend moving back in with your parents. I did this, and we ended up REALLY falling out. It's not worth sacrificing your relationship with your parents
2007-03-31 20:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi the only advice I will give you is not to leave your job. Having a job that you can earn a living is nice and going back to mum's flat is just not a good idea. Your mum is waiting for you guys to work and help her. Returning again will mean more burden to her. One is never big for his mum, just your presence without doing anything will keep disturbing her.
Thanks
Eveline.
2007-03-28 05:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit too cosy for comfort! It depends on how you really feel about the situation, I wouldn't like the idea of my landlord stopping over when he felt like it, its invading your space. Talk to your mum about it see what she thinks about you moving back, you could save up then and maybe in time get another house share with someone else.
2007-03-28 04:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by agent flora 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your mom's that way you can save some money for a deposit on a place of your own, and there's nothing like having a home cooked meal ready on the table when you get home from work.
2007-03-31 10:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by angela f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you become able to afford to live in another place. I don't think you should give up your Independence so easy. You have only one person living with you. When I was 25, I shared an apartment with my cousin that was 6 years older than me. She used to try to control my life, she even used to delete my friends and boyfriends messages left on my answer machine because she wanted me to go out with hers friends and date on of the guys that she used to have business, only because he had a crush one me. Living with her was a real nightmare, but I kept strong until I find another place to live. After one year, I was out of her nonsense.
Keep it up, you can make it. If I could, I am sure you can too.
2007-03-28 04:53:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋