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There is this guy that likes me and i like him alot... well i have a boy friend and we have been together for a 1 1/2 years. Well i like this other guy alot. My current boy friend well we don't have fun anymore, I went to the movies with the other guy and we had fun. I didn't cheat, i was just exploring. So is that ok? Also what should i do about the two guys? I mean i am not happy with my current boy friend but i love him. I want to do the right thing but i don't know what the right thing is to do, can someone please help. I am sooooo damn confused! HELP PLEASE

Answer 1

u r confused alrite....
"didn't cheat, i was just exploring", isnt tht just the same? wht if your current boyfriend went out exploring with other chick?

"i mean i am not happy with my current boy friend but i love him" If u r not happy with him how come you love him?

Get you priorities right, if you love your bf you shldnt go out exploring wth other people, its just not right. If you are bored with your bf, you shld talk to him, if this still dont work out, find a new bf or just be single and explore...

Remember, this is a sensitive issue, hearts are connected and to break a heart its the worst thing ever...
Its better to be frank and clear rather than hide and cheat..

Answer 2

Nothing wrong with going out to a movie with someone, you're your own woman and you can do whatever you want.

As far as breaking up with this guy and going out with the new guy. Are you unhappy for a reason? You said you don't have fun anymore but that you still love him, does that mean that if you started having fun again you wouldn't be interested in this new guy? If so talk to your boy and tell him exactly that: "I don't feel like we have fun anymore, this this and this will change that." Needs are called needs for a reason, and no matter how much you love someone if you aren't getting what you need than you're not going to be happy. And isn't that the whole point of being in love?
If having more fun won't make you stop thinking about this new boy, then chances are you're done with the relationship. If you aren't sure that you want to just cut it off like that then be honest with your boy. Tell him that you want to go on a break so you can make sure you really are in love with him, set some ground rules (no kissing, no sex, whatever) that you are both comfortable with, and give it a try. A girl I was with had the same experience, and discovered after the break that she still loved me and wanted to be with me, but that she felt a little overly committed.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

If you've been going out with him for 1 1/2 years and he's already not making you happy then it's not looking good for the future. If you feel the need to get excitement & fun elsewhere then your relationship isn't giving you what you need- when you're young it's natural to want to explore the world.
However, if you love him, it could just be that the grass looks greener on the other side- could you not start doing something new together, to try and recapture the romance and excitement of the beginning of your relationship? Cos to be with him that long you must have really found a lot in him to begin with... Maybe explain to him that you want to start having fun again, and go on some dates like you did at the start of your relationship? Then maybe if you found the guy you loved to begin with you'd be less tempted by other guys?
I'm sure you wouldn't, but overlapping relationships isn't a great idea, so probably be a good idea to finish with one before you do too much exploring... & maybe try being single for a while if you do end it with your current bf? After a long term relationship it's easy to fall straight into another relationship so maybe you need some time to discover who you really are on your own before letting someone else in?
Hope it all sorts itself out for you!

Answer 4

If you love someone very very much, set them free. If they do not return, they were never meant to be yours in the first place. I think that's by Kahlil Gibran (definitely not the exact words he used). You say that you love your first boyfriend...well, someone can love someone like a brother I guess. If you truly love him, you would not even be looking at other guys. At your age (maybe 14-20??) relationships should be fun and not taken too seriously. If it's not fun because he's possessive and clingy then you probably deserve someone better and who trusts you more. If it's not fun because he doesn't take you anywhere or spend lots of money on you, that's a whole other issue. Look into yourself and see if there's something YOU can do to make the relationship fun again. Picnics are way cheaper than movies. Try that. Park somewhere and talk and watch the sunset. Good luck whatever you decide. 1 1/2 years is quite an investment. You might want to work at keeping it going.

Answer 5

Make a Priority List!

What is most important to you in a relationship?
How much of each item does your man have to give you, how much can you give yourself?
Trust?
Who do you trust?
Security?
security in which way?
Money?
How much?
Fun?
Looks?
Etc.

List them in most to least important. Then answer them for yourself, then how each guy measure up. weigh your options. If the new guy isn't far from the old one, compared to what you want. Chances are in a year and a half you will be in the same spot as you are now, only with the new guy.

Even if you love the guy your with it doesn't mean you were meant to be together, maybe you are better friends. Sometimes you grow apart even though you love each-other, there is a better match for both of you.

Maybe you should talk to your current man about how your feeling. It might spice up or turn into a friendship.

What ever you do don't leave one for the other. Have at least a short break in between, to sort out your emotions. Confusion,Guilt and Infatuation can ruin both of the relationships.

Answer 6

here's one idea
If I were in your position, I would tell the bf "I think we should just be friends bc I'm just not feeling it anymore, are you?" (something like that) You don't have to say the ARE YOU part if it doesn't feel right to you. Then if he agrees, you are off the hook and start seeing the new guy. If he asks if there is someone else the just say not really but I do meet and talk to guys. That's all...don't offer up info ...If you and the bf part friends with the understanding that you both like each other but it's just not going anywhere for you,(and/or him) then if the new guy doesn't work it will leave things open for the bf to discuss things at a later date if there is still a spark there. If there is no more spark, then at least you can say you're friends...but you dont have to hang out and all that..
good luck

Answer 7

first of all as long as u did not cheat, it is fine that u went 2 that movies with the other guy, u are allowed 2 have friends right? And u have 2 figure out if u r in love with your boyfriend instead of just loving him? U also have 2 figure out if the reason that u think that u love ur boyfriend is beacause u have not loved n e one else, or have ever been in love so therefore u really dont know

Answer 8

If there's no commitment, then it's alright. But you have had this relationship for 1 1/2 years, meaning he still likes you.
How has he been treating you? If he has been nice to you, stay on the course. If the new boyfriend is better, go ahead. But you must know this new boyfriend a little bit more before coming to a decision. His behavior, his attitude... As for you, try to be conservative as you are a girl. Don't let boys take advantage of you with your open attitudes

Mark

Answer 9

That is exactly why the God of the Bible asks us to not go so far with the other sex, until we are married. He knows what is best for us and if we only could take better care of ourselves by listening to the advise the One who created us thinks is best for us, we wouldn't have to get so confused as we would know what to do and would always know what is right and wrong 'cause we would be getting our answers from the best Source of all, the True God... Begin by reading the Proverbs, which will be the start of true "accurate knowledge" in your life and if you practise it, you will acquire the wisdom that is so lacking in the world today, that parents don't even remember the most important things in life that they should have been teaching their children from the beginning of their being born, namely right from wrong!!! It's never too late to do good and be a good place to start would be to be honest with yourself, your feelings, your friends and get yourself acquainting with the pure word of God, your heavenly Father, so that He can draw close to you and help you through the active force of His spirit. God bless you! As you remember that you are still a growing child with much to learn and lots of good fun to have with everyone. You don't have to give your soul to anyone person just yet. Just live good and take care of yourself... As you learn that, you will learn to care better for your own, when the time comes.

Answer 10

Try and spice up your current relationship and if there are still no sparks now you can move on. But remember the dating stage is always bliss......So think if you want to throw away a loving relationship for a fling that might turn sour!!