Met a guy 2 years ago through a friend. He was 28 & I was 23. From the start we grew really close, he messed me around slightly during the process as he knew he liked me, but wasn't sure if he wanted any commitments right now & didn't want to end up hurting me as he could probably cheat on me or something. So he ended up saying that he can't do it right now as he wasn't in that frame of mind. I said to him then that I have an opportunity 2 start seeing someone else now,so I want 2 be 100% sure that you are serious & told him that there was no going back after this, he still said that it would be best to be friends right now. He would still call 4 a few months as he wanted 2 stay friends & I told him that it was best that we go our seperate ways as it is over. 2 years later he 31 me 25 have met again I hav just brought a new house, he is doing even better also, but is talking about wanting something serious with me. Do I get revenge after how he hurt me & messed me around in the past??
2007-03-27 21:31:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My revenge is to not take him back and let him know that he had his chance?
2007-03-27 21:37:59 · update #1
grow up
2007-03-27 21:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to get revenge? If you really want revenge then just move forward and be the happiest you have ever been with someone else and let him see how happy you are without you going to hunt him down to show him. Ask yourself this question any time any kind of situation comes up in a relationship/friendship: Is this something that is really going to matter to me 5 years from now? If people would only learn to ask themselves this question there would be fewer people in the world mad at each other.
2007-03-27 21:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by It's just me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u still love him, u won't use the word revenge. Revenge is sweet, but why bother to revenge on someone u used to love. Maybe you still have love for him that you are not aware. If u dun love him anymore, u won't care what is revenge.
Yup, some guy do regret their earlier action and few years later, they might look back their ex-gf that they think they cannot married. NOthing is wrong. At that age that he start to date you, he can't be serious, as his career & mind are not stable.
At least, he still want to be your fren, even thou he knows that you are opting for other choice of bf. Girl, think carefully, and reconsider whether you still like him or not. If u already have a steady partner, then just let him go, and tell him, you both only can be frens forever. Dun lead him on, as you will be hurt in the end of the race.
p/s: If a guy return back to you, he will love you more than ever, as he dun wan to lose another chance of losing u..
2007-03-27 21:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by stormymy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the decision to be together is resting on your shoulders, you have to ask yourself what you want. Do you want to have something with him? Can you trust him not to screw you over again? Do you two even want the same things out of life? If you want to be with him, and you believe he's serious, give him another chance. Two years is a long time, and he may not have been ready to hold down a relationship before. Everyone makes mistakes, but mistakes are made to be learned from. So keeping you on ice was probably not a good thing for him to do, but revenge is never a good thing, and it only makes you cold and petty. And if he's willing to put himself on the line to be with you, he might be worth it.
2007-03-27 21:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by garcia_lives86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge? Revenge belongs to God. Can 'revenge' bring feed you and quench your thirst for the important things in life? Is 'revenge' what you look forward to waking up with in the morning? Is 'revenge' the friend you wish to spend your time with throughout your life? What good would 'revenge' really do for you? After you've answered these questions, you'll know the answer.
2007-03-27 21:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Teri 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might untie him from the sofa, want him a incredible existence, and circulate away. I very lots dislike him and that i've got each and every suitable to. yet he needs me to. He prospers on making himself the sufferer, no count what he has finished incorrect to hold such movements onto himself. walking away and not giving him some thing to experience sorry for himself approximately is the worst ingredient you're able to do to him.
2016-10-20 02:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some kind of closure, but revenge isn't the way. Just be the better person & tell him he had his chance, & now it's gone.
2007-03-27 21:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by peanut g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the revenge, go for a better person their out there he is to self centered and will repeat what he has done, don't do any more harm to yourself cause thats what will happen. I would bet you on it.
2007-03-27 21:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by Right 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion on this is that playing the revenge game is something generally seen with teenagers, not adults.
Let it go, move on with your life.
2007-03-27 21:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 25 now huh? sounds more like 13. grown and mature people don't need to get revenge for things like this.
2007-03-27 21:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by tindomerel0507 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why?? He was a pefect responsible person to tell you the truth then. Now he is established in life and wants to come back to you. Appreciate his maturity and go to him (if you want)... No revenge please!!!
2007-03-27 21:37:07 · answer #11 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋