hi, i ask this because i feel like i am. im 19 years old and im a male. i go with my mom to the groceries and to pay the bills. whenever she goes out with my grandma, her sister, my girl cousin, i end up being the only guy, is this okay, or not? i do go to work with my dad but whenever i go to school, i go places with her. one day when she asked me to go with her to places i normally go with her, i said no. she asked me to go to the grocery with her and i still said no, due to my problem. i asked her if it was okay if hung out with her and if i go places with her and she said it was. i then noticed that she didnt want to hurt my feelings so i am still confuse. she used to take me places without asking me when i was a kid so i got used to it. my grandparents told me that i always have to be with her, but i realized that they meant to take care of her. i asked her about me hanging with her but she made it seem like i didnt have to hangout with her if i didnt want to.
thanks
2007-03-27 21:14:26 · 18 answers · asked by blackeaglejp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this is totally fine, dude.
i am 23 and i *wish* i lived in the same city as my mother - i would be out to lunch with her three times a week if she'd have me!
try to reach out and do other things, though, because mothers are people too ---- she definitely has her own agenda and wants to do her own thing --- imagine if you had a little brother who demanded to be with you wherever you went -- on dates, at the pool hall, out to late night snacks, to parties ---
you get the picture- -- it's not exactly the same for your mother, but think about it from her perspective.
I still think it's absolutely fine to "hang out with mom"
but there is a healthy limit to everything!
2007-03-27 21:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Where did you get that bizarre thought? Your generation has been hoodwinked into disconnecting from family. Don't fall for it unless you are into the depression and confusion it causes. You aren't taking care of your mother by spending time together...taking care of someone means they can function no more without assistance and it doesn't seem even close to being the case given the info. To make it clear ...one day you will have a son or daughter as your mother was also a daughter to her parents...time spent isn't loss it's gain. Also, people grow to have their own lives AND spend time with family. Try and kick the programmed paranoia to the curb(don't allow it in) and don't let it rule or ruin your relationships with anyone now or in the future if you want to live a full life.
Can mom go to the bathroom on her own and feed herself? One day this may happen and she may need some assistance otherwise it's simply family time.
2007-03-28 04:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're never too old to hang out with your family; in fact it's good to do so, because you never know how much longer they'll be around. I know, because both of my biological grandparents passed away before I was born (My grandpa died when my dad was 4 and my grandma died when my dad was in his mid 20's) and just a few years ago my mom's parents passed away. There is no guarantee of how much time you'll have together on this earth so it's important to make sure that you make time for your family and friends.
2007-03-28 04:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by D.L. Miller 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way! You are NEVER too old to hang out with your mom. I'm 22 years old and I hang out with my mom all the time. I'm proud to be seen with her in public because she's a wonderful person and I love her.
It will probably hurt her feelings if you don't go places with her ever.
Don't feel embarrassed about being out with your family...they love you and you love them right? So what's the problem?
2007-03-28 04:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
its so sweet of u to hang out with ur mom .you may have felt so becoz normally guys dont do so.its is really nice of u to do so.n on the otherhand ur mom would also be feeling good that ur always there 4 her.ur mom sure is a lucky one to have a son like u becoz most of the childs dont give time to their parents.n let me tell u that there is no age limit to hang out with mom.i hope u understand n feel better.
best of luck.
2007-03-28 04:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by marwa 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok time to grow up and be a man, now to go with her on occasion is fine but it's not to be expected of you!! cut the apron strings--find a girlfriend- have a normal life, or sonny boy this won't end, don't wait for her to tell you you're a man. This will not happen. Some girls say 'oh it's so cute'--but if you were their B.F. they'd call you a mama's boy.
2007-03-28 04:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She loves you very much. She still feels you are her kid son.. I understand her feelings. But you have a choice too.. Without hurting her tell her why you don't want to go with her to certain places.. She will understand you.
2007-03-28 04:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on...there is nothing wrong with it.
Its absolutely fine, believe me.
She would say you whatever you like to listen, and she will sacrifice her feelings for you by saying that "dont do it if you dont want" but deep down her heart she needs you!!
she is your mom dude!
You cant just quit hanging out with her?
Carry on, wish you best of luck!
2007-03-28 04:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jill-mommy of a cute lil fellow 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No.
You're never too old to hang out with you mother. Your mother is someone you have to respect. And it will always happen. You have to always respect her, even though you have become an old man.
2007-03-28 06:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by Chreonne 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im a mom and my kids hang out with me all the time they ask me to go to the mall with them and there friends i dont see anything wrong with it
2007-03-28 04:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋