what is a good age to have children..................?

Question

i am 27 next month and was kind of coming around to the idea of starting a family, as many of my colleagues are pregnant. i have been with my partner for nearly 6 years and sometimes feel its time to take the next step. We have spoke about it and he says if it happens then he would be more than happy, yet last night he was saying he thought early 30s was the best time to start a family. i just felt a bit dissappointed.

Answer 1

27 is a very appropriate age to have ur first child as far reproductive health is concerned
This can enable u to have a second one in the thirties or forties. This way u dont need to bother about problems like growing fat.

Answer 2

there's no right age to have a baby; doctors will tell you the healthiest years to have a baby are between 18 and 26, so you are witin your optimum time now. Having said that, my sister had her first at 38 and her second at 40, just a few weeks ago - she didn't consider herself mature enough to be anyone's mother before then! They were seven years together before they had their first.
Talk to your partner again; wait until you are having a romantic evening together though - get the timing right! Tell him how much you love him, tell him you would love to have his baby,and then leave it. He may have been speaking generally; he may have meant early thirties for men; it may have been just a throwaway remark. Men don't give meanings to words the way we do!
I had my first baby at 22; my second at 25; my third at 27; my fourth at 30; then a long, log gap...I had my fifth at 38. I honestly felt my age on the last child; felt my body was less well able to cope than it had been on the previous pregnancies.
also bear in mind, it may not happen straight away - because you decide to start trying, it just doesn't happen. you may have to wait several months or a year or two before you succeed..and that will take YOU up to the 30 mark.
think about it. good luck.

Answer 3

i dont think that there is a right age to start a family it wether your ready or not i have two children and i'm only 25 i had my daughter when i was 20 i had been in the relationship for 3 years and we felt we were ready, now she is 5 and my son is 3 1/2 we have started to get our life back i have gone back to work and started a great carer which i worked so hard for in college the children are at school and pre school and life is brilliant, i won't lie and say it wont change your life completley, but i wont stop it if you don't let it. I had my children close together don't take this the wrong way but to get them over and done with, and for us this really worked

Answer 4

Hi Geri - Im 27 and am just embarking on the family road, but have been broody since I was in my teens. Theres no right age because while your BODY might be ready, you need to be psychologically ready too. Same goes for your partner, while you may be ready, he isnt and this means again that having a baby together right now wont work. Babies arent all pampers ads, cooing, gurgling, being cute etc. Theyre hard work, tiring, frustrating and bloody expensive! But, as we know, theyre worth it. So, I reckon keep your partner up to speed on how youre feeling but for Heaven's sakes dont push him into anything.

To the person who said have a kid before 27 on advice of a doctor, what a load of sh*t.

And whoever said 6 years and no marriage means find someone else, again, dont talk about what you dont know. ive been with my hubby 8 years, only married for 6 months but we're blissfully happy.

Geri - good luck and if youd like to talk more, e me. sounds liek we're kinda in the same boat! xx

Answer 5

Its different for everyone, i'm 22 and desperatly trying for a baby with my partner, but i have friends who have had babys at 18 because thats what they wanted, and know people who have waited til their late 30s, it all depends on the person! If you feel the time is right, discuss it more with your partner, listen to his view but let him put yours across too. Maybe you could come to a compromise. You're 27 and he wants to try in your early 30s, maybe suggest leaving it a year or 18months and then try, you are meeting each other half way then!

Answer 6

The good age to have children is when you are meant to - and when you are with the right person so that you can both bring the child up in an atmosphere of love and kindness without any negativity and bickering. This could be anywhere between 16 and 56!!!! or older in some cultures.

Answer 7

Within reason for biological and family reasons it should be as soon as possible. Leave it too late and you might find that it is difficult or even impossible to conceive. I know couples that delayed the time for children and now cannot conceive because the man had a low sperm count. At 35+ the treatment might come too late. Leave it too late and you could find that when your children are in the difficult teens you are too old to handle it properly. Think of dad trying to play football with a 14 year old when dad is maybe over 50.
Fill you life now and enjoy your children while you are young and able. Delay could cause some heart break in later years.
Happy Easter.

Answer 8

Nobody can tell you the right age to become a parent I'm afraid. You have to decide if you're ready yourself. If you have any concerns about the age your partner wants to wait until then you should sit down and talk it through with him. After all you are both a big part of this. Good luck

Answer 9

I had my first at 27 and I was full of energy, my third was born when I was 39 and the pregnancy was much harder on my old body. But on the up side I definitely had more patience and was secure enough to give up work this time to enjoy being a mum.

Answer 10

Whenever you both feel ready. Think about it long term too. I've always wanted to be a young mum so I have enough energy to keep up with them. Talk to your partner and let him know how you feel about it and that you feel you are ready to start a family and see if he feels the same. Early thirties is fine too, my mum was 32 when she had my second brother.
See how you both feel....it takes two!