HE Ended it LAST NIGHT, i CANT BELIEVE HES DONE this.?

Question

Ive been seeing this guy for 14 months, wen we first met he said he wasnt looking for anything till he met me and wanted to take things slow cos he just come out of a relationship. i told him i wanted to be hes gf, but he said he mite be moving up to scotland wiv hes parents, cos otherwise he wouldnt ave anywhere 2 go and he works frm home n hes munie dont go through da books, so no proof of income 4 a morgage. he knows i love him, i finished wiv him last year for 2 weeks and he txt me sayin ''f**k it if we do go least ya made my mind up to go 1 less thing 4 me to think bout''. then 2nd txt said '' dont like me that much do ya''. so he does care, but the last few weeks i seen him once and last nite he txt me saying that he dont want anythin, that he mite be doin 2 dubai to work 4 a yr n come bk, he cant give me what i want(bf/gf), and that it aint fair on me, i love him so much, why is he doin this? he finished me through txt, im so angry first, i have let him in2 my life, my home,

i txt him sayin is this wot u truly want? no reply. i asked him why is he doin this and to me. no reply. i havent heard frm him since last nite, i havent met his parents so do i go round there in a bit and talk to him, he owes me that at least. we slept together 2 weeks ago wen he com round, and he seemed like he missed me

PLEASE help me. i cant be without him,

im not scotish, i cant just let him go, i no that he cares boutme, think that i should go n see him face 2 face?

ive seen him once in the whole of march, isnt that enough space?

sorry i can spell, just want to shorten it, cos im goin round his a 10.30 am, im in england

if i go and talk to him that means going round to his house and his parents are there and ive never met them

i dont want any1 else, i love him and want him more than anything

Answer 1

in all honesty he sounds like a complete a*se hole!
Don't go round there, you'd only be giving him more attention than he deserves! Don't text him anymore. Just leave it for a while. you can't force someone to go out with you. he needs to learn that lesson on his own.
I know it's hard, but i promise you it'll get easier!

Answer 2

Stop. Go and sit somewhere private. Think. Have a drink. Take a deep breath. It's quite apparent that you're panicking. 14 month's isn't very long for a relationship, but is just about long enough for you to find someone's darker side. This is what has happened to you, I think. If he's lost interest in you, chances are you can't get him back BUT maybe that's a good thing. I know its hard to beleive, but if you liked him, imagine what your next partner could be like. There is someone even better than him out there, and you will find him. You deserve the best, right? For the time being, go out with some friends and try and forget him.

Answer 3

ok hun - obviously you're upset and devastated right now - but you have to think clearly about this - do you want to be with a guy that dumped you via a text message?? After 14 months that was bang out of order! he sounds like he doesnt really have the maturity for a serious relationship hun - if you go round there and crowd him you'll probably only end up stressing him more and I very much doubt there will be chance of reconciliation.
I would leave it for a few days - dont contact him - let him think over what hes done. Then if you have to - ring him - dont call round unannounced. And if its not meant to be - then you cant force it - hope this helps some.
xx

Answer 4

Hey,

sorry to hear about your loss, losing someone you love can be really hard. I just lost a two year relationship with the person I thought that I was gonna marry, and my best advice to you is to try and get over it. I know it seems like all you want is to be with him, and maybe there is a chance of getting back together, but in the meantime your just torturing yourself by thinking about him.
Do something fun, pamper yourself, buy a carton of ice cream and veg out in front of the TV all day, get all dressed up and go out to the clubs with your friends and enjoy all the stares, do everything you felt like you couldn't do when you were with him.
Also it helps to remind yourself of everything you didn't like about him or the relationship. When I sat down to do this I thought I couldn't come up with anything, but an hour later I had three full pages and felt a lot better.
It helped me, and despite how crap I felt after the break up I am feeling much better now, better than I even felt IN the relationship.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Im very very sorry that you're so devistated but it really is time to try to move on. :-(
I know that you feel he's the only one you want to be with and that you two are perfect for each other but thats not the case. Its soooo incredibly hard and I understand.
Trust me, thats happened to sooo many women where they feel like the guy is the only one for them and there will never be anyone like that to compare to them. They feel like their lives are over if theyre not with that one guy.
Ive had a relationship like that and a couple of my friends have too.
And even though you feel like you cant go on one more day without him (which is how I felt), you will be OK. The only thing that will make you feel any better is time.
Im sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear and if you feel that I dont understand the situation. I know because Ive felt like that not too long ago. And I wouldnt want to hear it when people would tell me to move on. I thought he was the only one. the perfect one for me and no one could even stand close.
He does care about you but obviously this isnt right for both of you. Its obvious to everyone else who read your question. I know it hurts and Im very sorry.
Trust me, you will feel better once your able to move on.
Good luck and stay strong! :-)

Answer 6

Sounds like a very mixed up guy, he is either not being totally honest with you or hes scared to commit, a text is a chickens way out , he obviously does care 4 you because he didnt want to see the pain in your eyes when he told you it was over , i say you should go and confront him you will find out the truth then , he may regret ending it and say sorry or if hes hiding something you will find out what it is. If hes not been honest you will at least get closure, theres nothing worse than just wondering, so go see him . Good luck hun xxx

Answer 7

He's well and truly played with your head and youve let him silly girl! now he knows he can come back when and how he pleases forget about the creep move on he was probably out seeing other girls anyway since he hasn't wanted to be with you open your eyes it's over you deserve better im sorry but thats the truth if he wanted to be with you then you wouldn't have been having a break

Answer 8

Sorry to say this but i think this guy just used you to get u into bed. And the bad part is that you loved him and now your heart's breaking coz of him. You dont deserve to be treated that way. And what a lame way to break up with someone by texting them. This guy seems dishonest and disorganised ...so he's not to be trusted. He could be seeing someone else or maybe he needs time to get a job ....but it still doesnt add up. Looks like youve got some investigating to do.

Answer 9

You can't believe it but fact is, he already did it! It's time you forget the jerk and move on with your life! One bad experience doesn't mean the end of the world. There still lots of better guys out there you haven't met.

Answer 10

in all honesty he told you from the begining he didnt want anything serious incase circumstances changed.hes now going away to work and hes being honest again.i know this really hurts you but you have to let him go its his decision.perhaps there is a way you could still travel to see him ,or stay intouch and see what happens