I have split with my Husband off 13Years,and keep reading and hearing the same old,when you find that special person you will be happy,I don't know if I'm weird or what, but I don't think a new Man in my life would be some magic pill.
I have hopes,dreams & asperations that I want to forfill ,"that will make me happy"
Even my Ex wants me to find someone "WANTS ME TO BE HAPPY LIKE HIM "
arrrrg it GETS ON MY NERVES, ANYONE ELSE SHARE MY OPINION.
p.s I am Happy by the way.
2007-03-27 21:07:34 · 21 answers · asked by live life 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you sound like one of the few truly independent people in this world! It's great if you are genuinely happy being single - I totally understand where you're coming from! Especially now that you've split from what sounds like a slightly oppressive 13-yr marriage! Enjoy your freedom, girl. Get out there and do whatever you want. Next time some smug coupled-up person tells you "you'll be happy soon, you'll find someone!" respond with "I'm happy now. Honestly, I am totally happy. If I can be happy on my own, which I am, I know that I don't *need* another person. This makes me stronger than anyone who needs a partner to make them happy - I only depend on me". Being in a relationship can be a great thing - you can still fulfill your hopes and dreams, with the right person. But too many people stay in relationships just because they need someone there. If you do meet someone who's good for you in the future, then go with it if you want to. But just enjoy your freedom, and next time your ex calls with his patronising comments, you be sure to tell him that you're happier now that you're single and you can live your dreams that you were during points in your marriage - that should leave a sting in his tail! (and by the way, if he's left you for another woman or ran straight into the arms of one, chances are you'll be happier for far longer than him anyway - single or not!!)
xx Emmie
2007-03-27 21:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with you and you are most certainly not weird. I happen to have a boyfriend right now but I want to kick my own a** for ever thinking that I needed a guy to make me happy because the truth is you don't! I would much rather be single then date some loser who lived with his parents and/or didn't have an education. But luckily, my bf is sweet, respectful, moved out of his parents' house and is going to a university. (Fyi: as am I).
2007-03-27 21:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by rascal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure...we probably don't need a man in our life to make us happy. But it's the idea...the thought of having one that excites us. For example. I'm single. But I feel like I never will get anywhere if I don't have a guy to always be there for me. Perhaps I only think I need a guy because I don't get the attention I yearn for. Having a significant other in your life makes one feel complete, like they have someone to share their thoughts, dreams & hopes with. Sure, we can share with our diary, our family our friends. But what's better than sharing it with someone we love not by blood? I don't know, but to me, I don't think I'll feel complete until I have a man in my life. With him, I hope that I can seek happiness through our moments together & that he will give me the support I need. Perhaps you've already found the center of happiness in another thing, such as a certain activity. In that case, a man isn't necessary because you're pouring your heart & soul into the activity.
Anyway, forget your ex. That's why you guys split right? So that you can start anew...journeying on your own with you own leader & all by yourself to accomplish your own goals. Welcome to the amazing single life :)
...which I usually prefer I wasn't apart of :/...
2007-03-27 21:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by joggyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because thats what society has led us to believe, many people are happy being alone, it does not take another person to make you happy, you should be happy by yourself before you can be truly happy with someone else.
i know plenty of people who have been married and split up and feel better of on their own, and i also know many people who flit from one relationship to the other for fear of being on their too long.
personally i have been in a relationship for 3 years and couldnt be happier, but not everyone has to find that special someone, if it happens it happens if not just enjoy yourself and live happily
2007-03-27 21:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people think that they need another person to make them happy because they have this common belief that there is a missing piece in their life and it will only be complete when that right person comes along. on the other hand, most of the time they end up unhappy and unsatisfied. this is because they tend to engage from one relationship to another simply because they are not contented with their partner.unconsciously, they are allowing their heart to be bruised. and they are contributing in the creation of broken relationships in the world. but the fact is no body could really make you complete in this world because no body is perfect. what matters most is you can see your self growing old with that person and seriously commit yourself in the relationship to make it work. romance is possible but it has to be worked out. mind set also plays a big role in relationships.
2007-03-27 21:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by mira 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who think they need another person to make them happy really need a reality check. You can't fulfill yourself through someone else. Having a special person in your life enhances your quality of life but isn't a necessity for happiness. Happiness comes from yourself, valuing who you are and holding your self-worth in high regard makes you a strong and secure person. If someone thinks that needing someone will make them happy, then their looking to fill a void that will not be satisfied from being with someone. So good for you that you are happy! I am happy for you!
2007-03-27 21:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kaylin 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most people believe in co-existence. They feel the need to find someone or something to make them complete. If you have found that in yourself, Great. You go with your bad self. You are a strong independent intelligent person and can make yourself happy. Good Luck.
2007-03-27 21:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by mundo808 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because humans are social animals and we rely on other people for our happiness- to a certain degree. However, some people dnt need anyone to make them happy. It depends on the person.
2007-03-27 21:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and friendship is what gives meaning to everyone's life.
And if you set up a lonely, friendless, and loveless life for yourself, then you will soon feel emptiness and meaninglessness in your life.
There is no meaning in the world of things. Only people make meaning. And people make best meaning in love and friendship with each other.
2007-03-27 21:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people have sex drives. If your sex drive isn't satisfied, then generally you can't be happy. All the philosophical statements like, "You need to be happy in yourself," etc, may sound wise, but they won't alter your sex drive and are thus are false.
Certain people have very low sex drives, especially in old age, so they may be happy without sex. To generally state that a person can be happy without sex, however, violates the principles of evolution and is thus garbage.
2007-03-27 21:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Ash 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋