I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back. We had a friendship that lasted 4 months. She got mad at me for a mistake I made which takes too much explanation and two months later she told me she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I HAD NOT been talking to her since she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I thought things would be cool between us so recently for the 1st time I tried to talk to her but she completely ignored me. I told her I only wanted us to be friends again but she wasn't hearing me. She talked to everyone who came in the hall but me. I just said "ok, I get the point, you don't have to say anything else. I guess I'll just see you around." I left the hall and haven't said anything to her since.
Five days later from this-yesterday-a teacher came to me and pulled me out of class, took me to her office and told me to please leave the girl alone. The teacher explained the girl went to her about me in the morning. I've only tried to talk to her that one time, I've only called once four months ago (then hung up and never tried again), and I only gave her one letter on Valentine's Day. Like I said, we haven't talked for 11 months and that's plenty of opportunity I could have used to harass her, which was/is the last thing I ever want to do to her. I told the girl that too, when I tried to talk to her I said "I don't want to bug you or harass you or anything so I'm going to leave." Then I said the aforemention sentence after trying a little more to get her to listen to me. After the day I tried to talk to her I continued to pay no attention to her. So I'm in the office and the teacher says leave her alone and that her MOM called the school about me. It was like they were accusing me of harassing or stalking her which I had NOT been doing, and like the girl purposely omitted how many times I've ACTUALLY tried talking to her, (once). I think she made it seem like I constantly bother her. The teacher said "It's not that she doesn't like you, it's that she doesn't like you in that way." If it's not that she doesn't like me, then why was I called out of class behind her and I didn't even much do anything to be called out of class for? The lady said I'm not in trouble, but I'm still not telling her happy birthday today, I really don't want to see her again, I never want to talk to her again and when I graduate I never will so good riddance to her and I'm making sure when I find someone else I'm doing a lot better from this experience.
2007-03-27 20:55:10 · 9 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
EXTRA LAST DETAIL-I tried to talk to her on Thursday, so why didn't she tell on me Friday? Why did she wait until Tuesday to say something, especially since in between that time I continued to say nothing to her like I've been doing, I haven't even called her.?
2007-03-27 20:55:59 · update #1
You've said you really like her, but I think you're getting OBSESSED with her. If she talked to a teacher about you, and you were told to leave her alone, that's a clue that you need to stop thinking about her.I know it must be so hard to forget about her and move on. But, here's something that will help. Each morning, make a list of other things to think about or things you have to do (like watch a favorite tv show that will be on that day, make a shopping list, or take out the garbage, or call a friend, or play a computer game). Every single time you have a thought about her (and at first there might be 1000 thoughts each day), say "Stop!" and look at your list and think about something you need or want to do. It may take weeks, but you will think of her less and less. It's called changing your thought pattern. It worked for me and for others I know. Hang in there! Also, think about things you can learn and do to be the best person you can, whether it's helping out at home or being a good friend to someone. When you let go of thinking of her all the time, and do nice things for others, you'll feel better and other girls will be attracted to you. Blessings and good luck to you!
2007-03-27 23:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Sapphire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently,you still love her.But dude,she doesn't like in the current way.So,you gotta try other ways-try to show that you loved her simply by caring more about her.Then,if she still doesn't like it.Forget her-she ain't the one you'll live happily ever after with.But by that time,don't be sad.There are still many fishes in the sea to be obsessed with.So,all i can do now is wish you luck and may God bless you. ^-^
2007-03-27 21:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by monsiuer_reaper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still loved her while she wanted to keep a distance from you.
I can only imagined how you'd feel when you're invited to her wedding.
I'm sorry, Man. Stay strong, it will goes downhill from this point.
2007-03-27 21:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by Opas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez,have a lot of time on your hands did ya?
The reason you cannot move on,and here comes the obvious, is cause your a wuss.
2007-03-27 21:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Brad 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are not getting it, STAY AWAY from her or your going to jail. Thta simple, something happens to her gues who they are gonna look up first??? YOU walk away and find a new person that simple or go to jail your choice, don't try to figure her out she is a woman.
2007-03-27 21:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Right 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She might have been your first true love or you felt a connection with her and not with any other girls.
2007-03-27 21:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ranisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how funny, when i read ur question, this song started playing:
"love takes time to heal when you're hurting so much"- mariah carey
2007-03-27 20:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It simply means you still love her...
2007-03-27 20:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by khatzzz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
forget about her
2007-03-27 21:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by steffimalcampo91 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋