I luv with guy but he afraid from marriage or responsibile life, what should I do, I love him very much?

Question

Please tell me what should I do? I really love him & he too! He is confused abt the life after marriage, please suggest me what I do? I need a help from you.

Answer 1

Depending on your ages & or how deep the relationship is in your eyes!?! More communication may be needed!?! Or for your comfort; Have a heart to heart talk with him just to be sure that the relationship that you two may have is'nt running dry.. Even if just in hints.. TALK TO HIM !! maybe you'll get a clue that wo'nt have you feeling uh`easy about your relationship !?! ~!! `'R'`r,r`r',r`'.->

Answer 2

Dear friend,
If you both love each other then there is a sweet way for you!
If he is afraid of taking responsibilities, then try to develop this habit into him by giving him opportunities where he can prove himself to be a responsible man.
Like tell him that he can only do some impossible things that no one can do mind that in a convincing attitude.
Dont discuss anything about the life after marraige even if he wants to start a discussion regarding this tell him that you love him and as he also do the same then therez nothing to worry about. U two will manage the situation.
Try to give him a sense of security and responsibility as far as possible for him.
Try your best.
Good luck.

Answer 3

if you both love each other so much and there is no opposition from either families then there is one possibility

from your details it can be made out that you are a very strong person when it comes to taking decisions ; now whats happening is that your loverboy is unable to decide how he can be responsible taking care of you i mean to say emotionally ;

see you are a very strong person but you should see that you dont dominate him and neither he should dominate you ; domination is a hurdle to ones' freedom and so the partner becomes confused

i suggest you both go to a temple and there discuss about your marriage and the life after and let HIM talk you listen the more you get to know the weaker points of his confusion note it down in your mind ; then as GOD is the wittness there ; now you start to speak and show the power of your love to your beloved by simplifying his weak points and assure him your nonstop support before and after(if you both finalize) your marriage

young lady you can do the miracle to your life

let me know at the beginning of your love life who proposed first were it you or was it he who proposed to you

there is a very big difference in a boy proposing first and a girl taking the initiative.

may god bless you and your life partner.

happy marriage in advance.

Answer 4

This isn't the place to find "HELP" only advice and some of it won't be very good. If this person has concerns about married life then back off. If you pressure him and he gives in then you'd just end up getting divorced or hurt when he cheats. Take time and let the relationship grow and become solid. Right now there is no foundation for marriage because it's one sided and women have the tendency to want to marry RIGHT NOW and the man simply isn't ready for that kind of commitment. Don't be in such a hurry to give up your name and identity to become someones maid, cook, baby machine, and housekeeper. I'm just stating the facts.

Answer 5

You cannot pressure anyone into this so just communicate your feelings. Also, try to give examples of some of the happiest couples that you know that have been married for sometime and explain that they are happily married. Understand that you cannot pressure someone into marrying you and you shouldn't have to. It should come from the heart and the only time I should think that it would be a bit under the gun is when you have to leave the country but good luck and let us how it goes

Answer 6

Relationship is about 2 or more people who care for each other's feelings. It's a 2 way street. If your man is confused, just let him have some time to think. Marriage is no small feat. There are probably some things your boyfriend wants to do and have done to him before he ties the knot. He knows that you want to marry him, and he understands that but you have to try to understand how he feels about it.

Answer 7

All unwed sexual activities (pre/post/extra marital), perverted & homosexual acts are specifically forbidden in Islam in very clearly written unambiguous words as great sins & heinous crimes punishable with publicly lashing / death by pelting stones.
Why marriage? Continue joyful life. What is the wrong? OR Take all the responsibilities and marry him, if you love.
Premarital, extramarital or unwed sexual activities are not barred or prohibited hence no offence punishable in any Indian law. A wife’s sexual intercourse with other/s is also no offence, hence no prosecution or punishment to her. Pre marital sexual intercourses with other/s cannot be a ground to seek divorce under Hindu/Special Marriage Act. Thus a female’s physical sexual relations with persons/s of her choice (with their consent) is not an offence or prohibited / barred in any Indian law and she is at liberty to enjoy SEX freely and fearlessly. A male’s physical sexual relations with any 16+ female (with her consent) is no offence or barred / prohibited in any Indian Law, unless she is in the wedlock of somebody else and is done knowing her wedlock or without her husband’s consent or connivance.

Answer 8

As Adults our life is full of resposibilities and bound by duties.
We have to do our duties ourdelves with reponsibility and there's no eacape route.
If you love the person who is not responsdible now ,will become more responsible after you marry on the condition that you continue to shower your love.Love is stronger than anything.He will try to understand about life once there is someone to share his life with love.

Answer 9

i had this exact problem, but im only 24 i hope you are around my age asking this question if your boyfriend is older than that like 27 or 28 this maybe an issue, my bf is 25 and is finally getting into the idea of marriage. i admit it was frustrating but if he wasnt ready, i didnt want to marry him. i think alot of guys think that once your married you cant see your friends or things are different and i think they would be about the same for us. he just needed to feel his oats for a little while longer and i understand we need to figure out who we are before we share this life. just wait unless he is older then kick him out.

Answer 10

Marriage means responsibility, accountability, duty etc. His love is false, he does not love u, forget him, he will not marry u. U may be hurt for sometime, but u will forget quickly. Someone who love u a lot and is ready to give his life for u will enter your life. Prepare for him, forget this weak and selfish idiot. He only want to take everything from u, and when he has it, he will leave u.