How can I get the courage to do this? Remember its like asking a baby to do a marathon....or at least this is what it feels like.
2007-03-27 20:37:21 · 12 answers · asked by mareeclara 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have tried some of these methods....(albeit not all and not for a while) but I apparently am the "friend" and not the "girlfriend" material. I guess my attitude towards myself has to be improved too, but after having NOONE you feel like noone will ever want you now!!
2007-03-27 21:02:08 · update #1
FYI: significant is over 30
2007-03-27 21:06:40 · update #2
I never went on a date untill I was 19. I am 23 now and still have never been in a relationship. It's hard to deal with sometimes but you just have to be patient. Good things will come to you if you wait. Just walk up to the person you want to ask out and ask them. I guarantee you its not going to kill you if they say no. Lol there is one girl that I like and has been turning me down for the last decade. The best advice that I can give is be confident. It took me a long time to learn that but now it is paying off. Will it happen over night? No it will not. It takes time and patience. Good luck to you, and don't worry about being embarrassed. If it happens, remember your not the first person to ever have an awkward moment, and you probably won't be the last.
2007-03-27 20:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Matt from Ga 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I have asked out a few guys myself and although I have been rejected a few times and even though it doesn't feel good, I kept on meeting guys and flirting (tastefully), I met my boyfriend and we've been together for three extremely happy years. All you have to do is be friendly when you meet a guy and converse well (and ask something like "So does your girlfriend like (insert whatever you two are talking about here) ?" to find out if he's taken or not) and if he says he's single and you're getting good vibes from the guy, then say, "You know I'd really like to carry on our conversation over dinner sometime. Would you like to join me at (insert your favorite restaurant here)? Remember that NOTHING is sexier than a woman with confidence and you sound like a special woman who needs and deserves confidence in herself. Good Luck!
2007-03-28 03:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by rascal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well "Significant age" can means many thing, but in general first try to find out why you don't date; maybe you have to make some changes. It's hard to help without knowing what king of person are you but try to get involve in more social activities with friends, family, co-workers, or community groups, that way you can meet guys with similar interest as yours. Don't, I repeat, Don't go to clubs and bars trying to find your perfect match because those places are just for players and jerks hunting for easy girls ready for on-night stand.
Also try to be more "active" and make the first move; most of the time girls want the guy to make the first move but sometimes we don't do it because we don't feel like getting the "green light" to make the move. If you like someone let him know about it, give him some clues, or just invite him to lunch or going out. Just don't seat waiting for thing to happen, make things happen. Ok maybe you will fail a few times but that's the only way to win.
2007-03-28 04:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't alone.This is more common than people think and it is ok.If you are alright with the way your life is going then don't rush it.However if you do have a certain person in mind that you really like then my advice is just to come right out and tell them that you would very much enjoy their company to a movie or maybe for coffee.Once you break the ice it may not be as difficult as you thought it would be.
2007-03-28 03:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by nativewoman006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is no marathon as u think it is Chech out ur body langauge and try rounding off the rough edges in ur poature and see the difference there will be quick line up of wooers
2007-03-28 03:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe look in to some dating service, I've heard of speed dating, it's all set up and you only have to talk to the other person for a few min.
If anything this could get you more comfortable talking to people and maybe get your foot in the dating door.
2007-03-28 03:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get a friend to go out with you- and they bring along a single, suitable person- and see where it goes.
Stop stressing and be yourself and be comfortable?
What's the worst that could happen? Nothing too bad right?
2007-03-28 03:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should find a single guy and ask him if he would like to go have a drink or dinner believe me he is just as interested in you as you are of him
2007-03-28 03:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strike up a conversation with a crush of yours or the cutie you've been eyeing. Flirt, flirt....be a bit "subtle". (Doesn't mean you have to flirt with everyone you meet)
Learn how to be a little seductive......
Next thing you know you don't have to ask them....
They are asking you =D
2007-03-28 03:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask a friend to see if they have people to recommend, casual dates are fine...
2007-03-28 03:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Neutro 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋