Guys are: hard-working, lazy, liars. I love my dad, brothers, uncles... all the mens in my life. even my guy friends. they are all kind to me, BUT sometimes I HATE them. They seem like they are all cheaters and womanizers, and better than... I just don't get it sometimes. And I'm suppose to get married and subject myself to abuse? I don't think so. Even tho you all will say there are men out there who wil not abuse a lady, I can't wait till the day I find one, because I feel like they ALL have that mean streak in them... But you know, I love my boyfriend for the love he gave me... I HATE him, too tho. love/hate what is real?
2007-03-27 20:34:39 · 10 answers · asked by theskyisthelimit02 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Both are real. The sad thing about relationships are that they are hard constant work and both parties need to be willing to compromise their own insecurities, wants, needs etc to negotiate a mutual beneficial compromise.
In your case, I suggest it sounds like you're afraid of female competition, abandonment or rejection. I suggest you work on those self-issues and not project blame onto other for your feeling that.
2007-03-27 20:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the abusive/ cheating types are the kind of guys you are attracting or attracted to. Some girls subconciously go for these types of guys because that is the type of environment that they were raised in. I mean, c'mon, you can look at a guy (or a girl for that matter) and most of the time be able to tell if they will be good to you.
2007-03-27 23:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by kymhayde2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both feelings are real - men are confusing, and think in a way foreign to us girls. Girls are "feelers", guys are "lookers" - we girls are just as confusing to the guys. We will never figure them out, so we either tolerate the stuff we don't like or we stay away from them. More often than not, we try to change them - - it's not possible to love and hate at the same time. Can't be at opposite ends and be together.
2007-03-27 20:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're problem is a combination of things...
1. You were probably raised in an environment that gave you that impression.
2. You probably had a bad experience that led you to feel this way.
3. You aren't willing to compromise in a relationship, and it brings out the worst in a man.
2007-03-27 20:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be patient, there are guys out there who are good. Younger guys tend to be jerks, but they mature and hopefully will get better! As long as you know you deserve to be treated right, you will be fine. Don't settle for a guy who is abusive because you are afraid you won't find Mr. Right. Time is on your side! Be positive.
2007-03-27 20:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by _ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I truly loved reading your treatise on men. I mean it was serious, but funny too, You are a woman who knows what's what. You are the kind of woman I would love to take to dinner and have you tell me more.
Men are many things and while I won't apologize for the morons and Neanderthals that you have known, I am one those guys who respects women, listens to them, and hugs them when they need. I mean, women are such poor weak creatures and they give you all they got.
2007-03-27 20:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love and hate are the feelings you make. Both feelings are equally real. And it's up to you to choose which of the two feelings to make more.
But you have to remember that your love encourages others to love and your hate encourages others to hate.
The way you choose to treat others is likely to be the way they will choose to treat you.
2007-03-27 20:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What country do you live in? In the USA, mostly, the women walk all over the men. Go figure...
2007-03-27 20:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have to compromise and work together
2007-03-27 20:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And your question is.....
2007-03-27 20:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋