Hi...I've been with my boyfriend for a year. We are both adults, we have one child each. I relocated 1500 miles to be with him and everything is great with us. We dont live together but are talking about buying a house in the next few months. I've always loved surprises and I have this crazy idea to ask him to marry me. Should I ask or should I wait. PLUS...if I DO ask how should I do it? Just curious. THANKS!
2007-03-27 20:17:37 · 18 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't ask him.
But do encourage him to ask you. Tell him you're very interested in him, however, you do not feel you should purchase a house together with someone who is not your husband. Ask him what he wants this relationship to be headed for (is he in this for a partner in marriage, are you just another long-term girlfriend, et cetera). This will take work on your part.
Do find this out and see where your relationship really stands. You don't want to waste your time with someone who wasn't interested in committing. And perhaps you could also encourage him to propose through doing this. Help get marriage in his mind!
Women like to be pursued and men enjoy pursuing a woman, provided she is someone he is really interested in. Find out where you relationship is and encourage him to ask you to be his wife but let him do it. He will enjoy guiding the relationship to the next level (but doing things with your consent to be involved in this, of course). Men should take risks and pursue the women they're after. Let him be the man and guide your realtionship to marriage (with your willing consent, of course); hopefully you will be the beloved women that he is after.
Good luck! Hope this helps!
2007-03-27 21:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by bleu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really really depends on your partner's personality and how things are going. You have provided little information.
You can certainly ask the question specially now that you are about to make a big decision about your future and buying house etc... but why not ask it in a subtle manner and getting some hints across before being more direct. Although I know men like myself are not so good at getting the hint, it's always an option :)
2007-03-28 03:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my second husband. He had already asked me before that but I wasn't ready. When I was ready, I sat on his lap in a big rocking chair and said I'd like to be your wife now. We kissed and I gave him the ring to put on my finger (it was a family heirloom) and that was it. Next thing I knew I was in house buying and wedding planning mode overtime. The marriage was wonderful and I miss himdearly.
2007-03-28 03:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it once, and there was always this power struggle in the relationship. Let him pop the questions. Its obvious that he wants to be with you otherwise he would not be wanting to move in. And if you are a Christian, Catholic, Jewish (or what ever) you certainly don't want to pop the question to him because you would be considered out of line. Trust me, when it comes to spiritual beliefs, you don't want to start your life out with your man "out of line." Good luck in which ever you decide to do.
2007-03-28 03:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by volkgal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this might sound a little wierd coming from me because I'm a guy, but I don't see a problem with it. If this is the guy you know you want to spend the rest of your life with, go for it! As for how you should do it, make it creative and do it from your heart.
2007-03-28 03:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by c.grinnell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah!! Go get em!
Go out somewhere like the movies, and pop the question.
Have a laugh and just relax
Best of luck!!
2007-03-28 04:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask the same way a guy would. I think it's a good idea to ask him. Good Luck
2007-03-28 03:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you sign the deed, slip him a piece of paper asking if he will marry you.
2007-03-28 03:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya that would be great if u POP the question too..
Why not for a change talk abt...Marriage to him.. Jst say that ur friend was talking to u abt marrige.. and u are eager too..
Talk abt it ya.. .. Then u wait and see his responds..
2007-03-28 03:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by sUnseT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, go ahead and ask. I suppose you could just ask outright, or do something creative and cute. Not sure what, I'd have to think on it. I'm sure you have some good ideas.
2007-03-28 03:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Ozz 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋