ok so i recently started seeing this guy who i like the only difference between us is that i am at university at the moment and he never wanted to go so he decided to work after school..
he seems a little bit intimidated by the fact that i am doing a hard course!! my mom thinks it wont work out because we are not on the same level....is this being prejudice???
i think hes a really nice guy so far!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 20:16:25 · 6 answers · asked by <3 ...sEz... <3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think being on the same level is important. Though he may be a very nice guy, you two are quite different. You value education and believe that it is important. He obviously does not.
People learn a lot about themselves and life in general while in college, and you will most likely emerge from college quite different than you are today, and you will probably have much less in common with him then.
That being said, it wouldn't hurt to date him for a while to see if you think he is worth your time and effort. If you truly like him, and he likes you back, you can overcome these differences.
2007-03-27 20:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by _ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is prejudice. It all depends on what he's like, and what you're like. Usually men want to be more succesful than their women. You know, be taller, stronger, make more money, and so forth. Some men can't take it well when that isn't so, making it a problem, making the relationship to fail.
It doesn't look too well if you notice he's intimidated. But maybe he's not one of THOSE guys. Good luck!
2007-03-27 20:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by jade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, your Mom is not being prejudiced. She is stating a fact. You need to be on the same level as your BF.
And "nice" is not good enough for a BF. Even a cow is nice. Think carefully about it, what attracts you to him? Is he witty? Does he do it for you physically and mentally? Is he the kind of guy that you'd be proud of?
If you are not equals (and education and mindset counts) then chances are he will not be able to move in the same circles as you do. Harsh but true.
2007-03-27 20:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Taharqa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself he seems intimidated already hows he going to feel when you rake in the big bugs? That's the question will he cope or make you miserable because of it?
It depends on the individual Good luck to you for the future
2007-03-27 20:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend goes to college and I soldier. it works out great, we have a common respect for one another and if she talks about math, i talk about guns......and just because you don't go to college doesn't mean you are not educated. We debate politics, economics, environmental issues, we enjoy a lot of the same stuff, and once in awhile, I will teach her how to shoot guns, and she will show me neato graphing calculators with interesting mathematical computations that mean absolutely nothing, but look neat when they are graphing.
Tell your mom to be careful whom she judges, it might bite her in the ***, even folks with GED's are known to do quite well, The founder of Wendy's restraunts never finished high school and died a millionaire......something to think about there.
2007-03-27 20:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i dont see the problem here.. if you like him then go for it.. the most important thing here is love
2007-03-27 20:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by nap11t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋