what should i do?

Question

i like to eat and sometime my brother and my father make fun of me and call me "fat" witch i know i am not. why does this get me down? becasue it is my family i tell them not to but they laugh it off i get very upset and sometime my dad calls me fat but doesn't exactly say the word FAT but i know he means it and i tell him not to and he argues that he did not call me FAT what should i do?!

Answer 1

Tell your dad that your little brother has a penis the size of a thimble and then tell him that your mom said that he takes after his daddy....Men HATE 3 things....

1) small penis jokes directed at them
2) bald jokes
3) short men hate being made fun of.

Listen hun I dont know how old you are, but there is a difference between someone saying "Sweetie your putting on a few lbs....You might want to watch it" and telling you point blank that your fat. Just so you know though, and I think most people would agree- people come in all shapes and sizes....If people are that shallow that they make fun of your weight then they really are not worth your time. My personal oppinion is that I would rather spend time with a woman with a few extra lbs on her than some sickly looking vegetarian barbie doll who looks like she could use a sandwhich. If you value your health then take in what your body desires to maintain a healthy weight.

I am concerned about your father and brother and their attitude toward you, in that if you are young it may set off an eating disorder. Be your own person- eat what you want and be healthy.

It was best said by my Grandfather's 76 year old girlfriend (the stud) one christmas....In her thick Russian accent....She turned to me and said "During world war 2 it was very difficult to get food....I am proud to be not skinny and it is times like this i appreciate it more....Then she raised her glass of vodka (cos she was fair drunk) and said "Be happy, be healthy, be very very wealthy!!" I thought this was great advice....

Trust me make a small penis joke to your brother in front of your dad and then find something to poke fun at your dad about- sounds like he needs to be taken down a few pegs!!

Answer 2

Sit down with your father alone (not at dinnertime)

and tell him that he is really hurting your feelings and you would very much like for him to stop making fun.

he probably doesn't know the damage he causes.

your brother thinks it's okay "cause dad does it" so don't go to your brother before your father.

Honesty will work best, but it usually doesn't work while the making-fun is going on...
it CAN work if you are very serious and maintain cool and just say something to the effect of "i don't know if you guys know this but when you say that i am fat and make fun of me for liking to eat, my feelings are really hurt and i would ask you to stop"
usually something that direct is hard to ignore.

Answer 3

Growing up our parents/family can be a source of great support and they can be a source of great pain which is why if I am ever on a jury where some guy has killed his entire family I will always see to it he be found not guilty.

Anywho,ignore them for now, when they see they no longer get to you they should stop and when at 18 if not there yet move out and never talk to them again. Best of luck

Answer 4

You should tell your dad you need to have a serious talk with him and explain how you feel. And see if that helps and if it doesn't then start acting like it doesnt bother you and ignore them and they will eventually stop. It sounds to me like either they don't realize it hurts you. Or they do it because they know it gets to you. But i hope you get everything straightened out for the better and good luck with everything

Answer 5

It gets you down, because they are your family.. and you do not expect your family (specially parent) to act that way, making remarks about something that isn't true !

Be smarter and more mature then they are (both of them), answer with a joke, a smile, charming and with self-confidence ...

There are so many "answers" in my mind you could use ...

Eventually, if they recognize it doesn't bother you any more (as it shouldn't), they will stop...b/c it won't be interesting any more !!!

Answer 6

consentrate your mental energys on how beautiful you are. Its a losing battle to try to change anyones idea of FAT. Family can be distressing in opinon making. Go to the mirror and tell yourself your wonderful...your shinning face will radiate peace.

Answer 7

i know they are not trying to be mean i have been called fat for years and look at my pic i am the skinniest fat person ever

its like calling a tall person shorty and a fat person slim

if it really bothers you talk to your mom hun let her know how you feel and see if she can get them to stop

Answer 8

Best way to stop it is to make a joke about it or act like it doesn't bother you. They do it to get to you. If you start making jokes about it yourself it will stop, it may take a little while, but will eventually stop.

Answer 9

Tell them to keep their comments to themselves.
You don't need to hear this crap from them and don't believe what they're telling you. This is how people begin to obsess about their weight and end up with Anorexia

Answer 10

as long as your healthy and happy with yourself then dont stess over what your family says especially about your weight. since he knows you dont like it and still does it, he either is joking with you and not realizing that it really is hurting you. anyway, since you said something to him and it continues, all you can do is be happy and satysfied with yourself and what others thing shouldnt matter.