Do you spank your kids when they deserve it?

Question

or are you a sissy time out parent?

I dont have kids but if i did i would spank them not beat them. i just see so many little brats that i wonder if they ever got spanked.

and i guess our parents where child abusers because 90% of the people who dont hit their kids were spanked when they were younger and most of us turned out allright.

Answer 1

It's funny cuz my parents spanked all my siblings, but sice i'm the youngest my father never spanked me, but we all turned out okay. i don't have kids but if I did and if they really deserved it I think I would- but only to teach them a lesson like not to play in the middle of a highway. That kind of thing. I don't think spanking goes under the category of abuse unless it's seriously out of hand.

Answer 2

I don't believe in abuse or taking it to the extreme. But I do believe in some spanking in certain situations. My son will straighten up faster than anything when he knows a spanking may be on the way. And he doesn't go around hitting other kids either. I was spanked and so was my wife, she was almost borderline abuse. We both turned out fine. I can honestly tell a difference when a child has been brought up in the "time out" type of parenting. I think that is effective with some kids and in some situations. But not all... Kids are turning into more brats every day seems like. With their computers, cell phones, IPODS... All comes down to parenting and teaching them young, if that has to involve some physical punishment then so be it. We have turned into a society of spoiled kids in my opinion.

Answer 3

I hate the term "time out." Time out from what? Life??? One of the best punishments my parents ever dealt me was to send me to my room, etc. I had a marvelous time, I would slip into my own private world and found that I could be my best friend. Did they actually believe that I thought even once about what I had done to get put there?

I admit using capitol punishment with my children - I spanked them. Not very often, but there are times when I feel it is the fitting punishment. Someone mentioned slapping. Slapping infers the face - NEVER! Nor is the term hitting acceptable. Only spanking on their bottoms and then only a couple of strokes, but hard enough to let them know I was serious about whatever the infringement was.

Answer 4

Actually I've found the children are very intelligent and reasonable. When something is explained in a way they can relate to, generally speaking they tend to "get it" and very little discipline is required.
I've found that only parents who are too lazy to parent properly spank or hit kids. Unfortunately spanking and hitting rarely achieves the desired effect, as the child still has no understanding of why what they did was wrong nor are they given the tools or information to keep themselves from repeating the behavior.
Lastly, only a bully would consider a refusal to hit a child to be sissy-like behavior. Who are you trying to impress? Does the ability to cow a child make you feel like a tough guy, is that what you are trying to imply? Because it sounds as though you may be a child abuser. No one should take pride in hitting a child, and if you do, there is something wrong with you and I urge you to get professional help before you hurt someone.
The goal of the parent should be to inspire their children to good behavior, not beat them into temporary submission.

Answer 5

The Bible teaches us to punish the one we love. It also says to mend the tree wile it is still young.

Having been a very spanking deserving kid, I some times got spanked more times a day than I got food. Having said that, I still love my parents dearly and appreciate what they have taught me.

Today I have 2 boys of my own, and they both went the same way as I did. They had to learn that actions carry consequences. Today they are teens, and I only have to give them a stern look or speak once and they will listen.

Having taught them over their life time, I had no reason to spank them for the last 2 years.

A proper spanking at the right time, will do a world of good.

Answer 6

i think either method may work,sumtyms they deserve to be spanked,otha tyms a sissy time out as you say,is perfectly fine.watever method you are using the main point is to get your point across.i think abuse is when u hit or beat the child to the point of scarring,i personally dont see anything wrong with a smack or slap as long as its absolutely neccessary-as in the kid is way out of control!i was raised like that and believe me there are certain things i learned quickly not to do because i was spanked!i will use it on my children too in the future if they dont behave after a couple of warnings and time outs.sometimes its the only language they understand.i turned out ok,not a psycho or depressed!

Answer 7

Of course I spank him when he needs it. Every child needs discipline. Sometimes I see parents trying to "reason" with a kid while the kid is screaming, hitting their parents in the face, spitting at them, and kicking them. "Reasoning" and "time out" sure does work, doesn't it? LOL

Answer 8

It depends on the personality of each kid. I personally think its not advisable to spank them, but hey ... when you are in the supermarket and ur kid just won't stop yelling because he/she saw this very expensive toy and he wants it then and there, what do you do then? there is a limit to it.

Answer 9

I would spank my son if I really have to, not because I'm angry but because I love him and I will make sure he knows it that I'm teaching him a lesson not because I'm angry. And if I were to spank my son, it'll be between 5 - 8 years old.

I'd stop spanking after my son is 8 years old and start to give him words of wisdom and explanation.

The bible teaches us:
Proverbs 13:24(AMP): "He who spares his rod (of discipline) hates his son, but he who loves him diligently disciplines and punishes him early."

Proverbs 22:15: "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him."

Proverbs 23:13-14: "Withold not discipline from the child, for if you strike and punish him with the (reed-like) rod, he will not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell."

I really pray to God that I don't have to ever spank my son because I'm sure that it will pierce my heart and hurt me so much, twice or even three times more hurt than what he would feel.

Anyway, that's just my policy... feel free to disagree =)

Answer 10

Yes I spank but I also use time outs, I take away privileges
and toys. I let the punishment fit the"crime" .