If i meet a new guy and he asks me out or invites me out that night,, i always say i have plans and ill get back to them when im free, even if i sit home doing nothing the whole night. I am suspicious of new guys and will be highly cautious when i go out with the, guys will even comment that im being very cautious..
I like to think about going out with someone-if im making the right choice.
My friends say im too serious and should let loose,
I've had some bad experencies with guys in my past, i think its why i take extra caution now, am i wrong, are my friends right?
2007-03-27 19:38:51 · 6 answers · asked by Jetglam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't want a call back.
2007-03-27 19:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are doing whats right for you, especially after the negative experiences you have had. It sounds like your friends want you to get more comfortable dating and trusting guys, but I'm not sure of what happened to you, how serious they were and how much your friends know of your situation.
Caution is a good thing. I hope that the peoples numbers you accept are people that you are interested in or attracted to in some way, or it would be pointless to take their numbers in the first place.
Another option might be to do a double date or go out with a group of friends the first time you meet the person, that way you have support and it takes the focus off you somewhat and could make you feel more comfortable. Chatting on the phone before you accpet going out on a date is another option.
Coffee, then having lunch, that sort of thing instead of jumpting into the dinner, evening thing might also make you feel more comfortalbe.
I hope this helps and its okay to trust your gut instincts. Good luck to you.
2007-03-28 02:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by Robert S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should read this book called " The Rules". The author says to never make a Saturday night date after Wednesday.
For every 5 times they call you, you call them once. There is a method to your madness....I stay stick to it! You'll probably find a worthy man before all your freinds do. If they respect your time, they will ask you ou in advance right? Girl do what you do! many people could take some notes from you! Just be wise within the relationship too and you'll be happy!
2007-03-28 02:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and youre friends are right.
Youve got a force field set up because you make bad decisions.
You suck at picking guys that are right for you, so instead you blame every other guy that comes along for your horrible decision making.
Now every nice guy that comes along and falls in love with you will just get brushed away, or not have much of a chance.
But you have every right to blame every new guy for the horrible choices you made in the past, because after all the guys did you dirty. So now you need to take your time, but heres an idea, go out on dates with them and get to know them before deciding if you want to be with them?
2007-03-28 02:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by Thats me...A to the D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your friends respect themselves more and are better judges of good and bad, they might be worth listening to. You are doing EVERYTHING right in taking your time and checking before acting. This means you are FAR more mature and aware than your friends. Don't let anyone guilt trip you for being protective of your self.
2007-03-28 02:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're doing what's right for you, because you are the one that has to live with the consequences of your actions. congratulations on your maturity!
2007-03-28 02:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋