my partner says im too fat and says i should have a tummy tuck or liposuction. He wonteven have sex with me, but tells me its because i ask for it.
2007-03-27 19:27:06 · 25 answers · asked by momdeb69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to get out of this relationship NOW. The fact that he doesn't mind bringing up your weight in an offensive way should concern you and it's obvious that it hurt you. You need to find someone who doesn't mind your weight, or if you really want to lose weight, that's great too! But love shouldn't depend on the size of you body. And remember that these procedures are dangerous, and even if completed successfully you still have to live with scars, which hurt like hell for a while, and the fact that your stomach is now the size of a thumb. That's what they cut it down to, so if you over eat before it's healed, you could break the stomach wall back open. This guy IS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU! You seem like a nice person who deserves a better relationship.
2007-03-27 19:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I have never met you so I suggest that you go see a doctor to see if your weight is around normal for your height and age or if you are extremely over weight... then you decide what is best for your health. Then smack this man for being so damn insensitive. If he's an understanding type try telling him you don't appreciate being talked to that way. If his ignorance persists then I suggest you leave him and find someone who will love you for the person that you are. You want to be excited and comfortable when making love to someone, you don't want to be constantly thinking if he finds you attractive when youre doing it. I cant imagine why you would even want to have sex with this guy. Good luck.
2007-03-28 02:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by itsSCIENCE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a masochist? Do you have ANY self respect or dignity? Do you believe you "deserve" emotional and verbal abuse? Are you a glutton for punishment? Do you think the way you feel is better than not feeling and being alone? IF you said "yes" to any of these questions, I cannot help you - a certified professional most likely could.
Should you leave?? There is NO rational, GOOD reason to stay!!
2007-03-28 02:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally think you should leave.Anyone who doesnt respect you for who you are is not worth it. Relationships are all about appreciating people for who they are, weight and all. You should loose weight because you want to not because your partner is pushing you to do it. I wouldnt recommend the whole tummy tuck thing, rather if you do want to loose weight take it gradually with diets and excercise that way one is more disciplined and you can control your weight for a much longer period of time.
2007-03-28 02:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gladeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question is do you think these things about yourself? Maybe you believe it which is why you are asking this question. If someone treated you and called you names like this then of course you should leave him. He obviously has no respect for you and if you stay you have even less respect for yourself. If you aren't happy with the way you look, as in you, not your man, then do something about it after you leave him. waltz up to him when ou are thin and beautiful and say " I bet you want to have sex now huh?!" Then strut your stuff shake your **** and walk away! He will be dumbfounded and kicking himself for days!
2007-03-28 02:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable then leave hunny. No man should ever tell you that you are fat expecailly your partner, he is supposed to love you for you not just what you look like. Tell him if he wants you to loose weight then he has to do somthing in return lol play a game with him.
But its never worth it if your not happy but its your choice on what to do darlin!!
2007-03-28 02:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by mommy_2_b07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just being honest nobody really likes a fat belly or love handles. Wait for the sex don't pressure him he wants to dominate you, not you get all over him.
2007-03-28 02:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! If he really loves you he wouldn't care about how you look, so what if your a bit chubby? People who say that your fat aren't your friends, let alone your partner.
2007-03-28 02:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop! How do you feel cause he obviously doesn't feel the same if their was love there he wouldn't carry it like that. If i had any problems with mines i would make suggestions and diffidently not stop sex unless i was getting it elsewhere
2007-03-28 02:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by swass2death 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a question to bring to Oprah's attention or maybe Maury Povich.
2007-03-28 02:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋