ive known this girl for 8 years. i have dated her for a short period in the past. im pretty much in love with her and she knows how i feel. but she told me she sees me as a brother figure because im always there for her even after she dates these a-holes. How do i get her to see me as someone she could date again?
2007-03-27 19:23:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anthony S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I disagree that once a woman sees you as a friend, she'll always see you as a friend. My guy friend and I changed our friendship of eleven years into a dating relationship through a bit of mutual flirting and one very risky first kiss.
I really like that he showed me how he felt, rather than telling me, so you might want to do the same. If kissing her out of the blue is too much for you, try planning an extra special date and simply take her hand in yours as you cross the street. Anything subtle such as that should do the trick to make it a romantic date rather than another platonic one.
Since you have no control over her dating those other guys, you can only really change how she perceives you. Stop being her shoulder to cry on and act as if you're guy that wants to date her rather than a friend. If she's like me, she's probably waiting for a cue from you and won't initiate anything herself.
I hope everything works out!
2007-03-27 19:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by HallamFoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't force the situation. I'm actually going through the same thing...have been for an even longer period of time, actually. In your perspective you have to evaluate what you want versus what will happen in reality. Yes, the feelings on your end may be stronger, but like YOU can't change your feelings, SHE may not be able to change hers. I'm not saying that it isn't impossible, but would you rather have someone in your life who sees you in the greatest of all light, or just someone who "settles" so not to hurt the other person's feelings? If anything, try to reason with at least a life long friendship--it, in many ways, can be a stronger bond than any other relationship. Hope that made some sort of sense.
2007-03-27 19:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by Erin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this, but once a woman sees you as a "good friend", you're not a man for her anymore. Sorry, but there's no way to change that.
Next time, if you like a woman just make your moves in an early stage or have her as a friend for the rest of your life.
2007-03-27 19:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell her exactly how you feel, make sure she knows how you feel. Show her how great you could treat her and how happy you could make her. Thats about all that you can do. Show her what she would be missing out if she didn't date you. I wish you the best of luck and i hope this little bit of advice helps you out
2007-03-27 19:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by key to your answer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU know if your that strong on how you feel.Did you ever think of prayer? Some times the good lord would have you to pray 4 the one you love. IT helped my sisters to pray .
2007-03-27 19:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plant a big kiss on her and walk away without saying a word, and don't look back. That will get her thinking about you.
2007-03-27 19:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by modesto_jim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should ask her to marry you, to make her understand that you mean it and that you really love her. And just be there for her, because friendship and respect are the fundament of love.
2007-03-27 19:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
tell her how u feel honestly.then let her decide
2007-03-27 19:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋